If I do, how horrible a human am I?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember the "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health"? That was meant to cover this situation, not the common cold.

PP with the diabetic DH here. You are wrong. "For better or for worse, in sickness and in health" does not mean one spouse can refuse to meet the needs of his spouse - and that's what this is. OP's DH may not be able to engage in PIV but there are many other ways of being intimate. OP is lonely. That has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with lack of intimacy and communication. Her DH is the one who is violating his marriage vows.

You may choose differently but marriage is not enslavement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember the "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health"? That was meant to cover this situation, not the common cold.

PP with the diabetic DH here. You are wrong. "For better or for worse, in sickness and in health" does not mean one spouse can refuse to meet the needs of his spouse - and that's what this is. OP's DH may not be able to engage in PIV but there are many other ways of being intimate. OP is lonely. That has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with lack of intimacy and communication. Her DH is the one who is violating his marriage vows.

You may choose differently but marriage is not enslavement.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember the "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health"? That was meant to cover this situation, not the common cold.

PP with the diabetic DH here. You are wrong. "For better or for worse, in sickness and in health" does not mean one spouse can refuse to meet the needs of his spouse - and that's what this is. OP's DH may not be able to engage in PIV but there are many other ways of being intimate. OP is lonely. That has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with lack of intimacy and communication. Her DH is the one who is violating his marriage vows.

You may choose differently but marriage is not enslavement.

+1

I’m not here to either justify or vilify the husband because i don’t have enough information. Nevertheless, this should be discussed in an open way so that both can move forward in transparent way.