Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents

[Anonymous]

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Breastfeeding doesn't prevent obesity. Correlation vs causation. You aren't very smart.

I love when uneducated people say that, without even understanding what they are talking about. Breastfeeding is absolutely decreasing the obesity risk, and has been proven multiple times, using multilevel regression analyses on different populations, from Canada, to Korea, and to Uganda. Read plosone. Go back to school.

DP. You need to stop posting. You literally do not understand what these studies have shown. I am extremely familiar with them all and can cite them all in detail. You do not understand the science or what the papers concluded and those of us with the actual backgrounds here think what you have written is full of it, to put it mildly.

- researcher

DP - so what does the research say? Is breastfeeding really a non-issue- it gives no benefits? But the milk of another mammal does?


Im not DP, but I think the research shows some modest benefits (baby might be a bit less likely to get one GI bug in the first year of life, mom has reduced breast cancer risk). But nowhere near all the benefits that have been promised. If you live in a place without access to clean water, then yes breastfeeding is much better than formula.

[Anonymous]

I used to be really mindful about not being a judgemental asshat, because lord knows I've been on the receiving end (hi, I left his dad when he was 2.5). However, now that my kid is nearly an adult, there are some things where I am judgey as F**k.

E.g.:
Denial about and enabling of a parent's RAGING substance abuse problem...like to the point where you get arrested for a DUI or crash the car or get canned.

Shitty Disneyland Dadding. Holy crap, am I judging you.

Not ever, ever, ever talking to your kids about sex or consent or pleasure or boundaries. WTF, people. Seriously, WTF. Get it together. Start early.

Ditto race, fellow white folks. You are damn late to the party if you're addressing this in your kid's teens, or, oh, NEVER.

(drags imaginary cigarette)

ALSO? The binary gender paradigm is boring and oppressive and your gender reveal party is stupid best, deadly at worst (see news article re: explosion).

I have a lot more shade, but I have stuff to do today.

[Anonymous]

"A recent study in Social Science & Medicine found that many benefits attributed to breastfeeding—from reduced rates of obesity and asthma to higher intelligence—have been overstated. The study compared outcomes among siblings and found no significant difference in 10 of 11 long-term health outcomes between children who were breastfed and those given formula. Most studies look at children from different families, which makes it difficult to isolate the effects of breastfeeding.

In her 2009 article in The Atlantic, “The Case Against Breastfeeding,” Hanna Rosin reviewed the literature and found that while some studies showed minor health benefits, others found none or contradicted each other"

Breast is Best has been debunked. There are some small benefits in the first year of life but beyond that the data just doesn't support it. Correlation doesn't mean causation.

https://time.com/99746/its-time-to-end-the-breast-is-best-myth/
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2009/04/the-case-against-breast-feeding/307311/
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/17764214/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be really mindful about not being a judgemental asshat, because lord knows I've been on the receiving end (hi, I left his dad when he was 2.5). However, now that my kid is nearly an adult, there are some things where I am judgey as F**k.

E.g.:
Denial about and enabling of a parent's RAGING substance abuse problem...like to the point where you get arrested for a DUI or crash the car or get canned.

Shitty Disneyland Dadding. Holy crap, am I judging you.

Not ever, ever, ever talking to your kids about sex or consent or pleasure or boundaries. WTF, people. Seriously, WTF. Get it together. Start early.

Ditto race, fellow white folks. You are damn late to the party if you're addressing this in your kid's teens, or, oh, NEVER.

(drags imaginary cigarette)

ALSO? The binary gender paradigm is boring and oppressive and your gender reveal party is stupid best, deadly at worst (see news article re: explosion).

I have a lot more shade, but I have stuff to do today.

Oh wise, experienced parent, I would absolutely love to hear more. Dead serious over here. Please share more shade if you have a chance!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to be really mindful about not being a judgemental asshat, because lord knows I've been on the receiving end (hi, I left his dad when he was 2.5). However, now that my kid is nearly an adult, there are some things where I am judgey as F**k.

E.g.:
Denial about and enabling of a parent's RAGING substance abuse problem...like to the point where you get arrested for a DUI or crash the car or get canned.

Shitty Disneyland Dadding. Holy crap, am I judging you.

Not ever, ever, ever talking to your kids about sex or consent or pleasure or boundaries. WTF, people. Seriously, WTF. Get it together. Start early.

Ditto race, fellow white folks. You are damn late to the party if you're addressing this in your kid's teens, or, oh, NEVER.

(drags imaginary cigarette)

ALSO? The binary gender paradigm is boring and oppressive and your gender reveal party is stupid best, deadly at worst (see news article re: explosion).

I have a lot more shade, but I have stuff to do today.

Oh wise, experienced parent, I would absolutely love to hear more. Dead serious over here. Please share more shade if you have a chance!

I don't know about wise, and I have a sample of one. But I'm flattered to be asked. I'll also tell you that I have a ridiculous amount of faith in our youth. They are kinder than kids were when I was growing up. You can tell some things about people when they are tiny, but not everything. My kid's cohort surprised me in a lot of good ways. And in some not so good ways.

[Anonymous]

I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When teaching my toddler animal noises, I taught her the chicken sound and motion from Arrested Development. She does it every time now. Judge away, it's hilarious.

I judge people who put bow headbands on baby girls. Gender is a social construct and no baby wants crap on their head.

I judge parents who try REALLY hard to impose their humor on their kids, and then CONSTANTLY demand that people watch how funny their child is, and not a damn soul thinks they're funny. Arrested Development was never that big, and has very few people who would get this reference. So you're just further isolating your kid. It's ok, yours probs won't ever move out of the basement anyway.

Um, I knew exactly what the PP was referring to. I think you have some weird chips on your shoulder you might want to explore. You are REALLY bent out of shape about this and criticizing a person you know almost nothing about in a really random and specific way.

Probably they put bows on their baby girls and took it personally/ retaliated. I put bows on my girl occasionally and got a little sensitive over this post too lol. I just think they're cute! Life is short and having a baby is hard and it makes me a little bit happier. Also, I don't like when "gender neutral" means "not feminine". Sometimes I put my baby in a navy sports onesie and she looks like a "boy", sometimes I put a damn bow on her head and she looks like a "girl" amd neither one is better or worse. When she grows up she can tell me exactly who she wants to be and what she wants to wear.

I guess that's the one I get judged for lol.

DP but oddly I agree with the PP that nobody else understands lol. I feel like a lot of people I know from sporadic random places in life, like I volunteered with them in high school at the hospital, or otherwise people that I randomly crossed paths with - they do exactly what PP was talking about. For example... This girl that also worked bussing tables with me 10 or 14 years ago, was a very quirky and kind person. We are still friends on fb. She has kids, and all of their names are from some cartoon that was out that she and the other kids in band loved... when we were young? Like Happy Friends or something?!? Anyway - so her 3 kids are all named after that, and they always dress up with shit from then.. Idk anyone else who would get it, but I asked her haha. I have some quirky cousins and other random people like college freshman roommate, who do that same thing. Like name their kids after arrested development, or only do halloween costumes that are themed on star trek or some shit nobody else has ever watched.

I judge parents who shove snacks at their kids 24/7. We always have snacks when my kid asks for one but I never offer them. I have one friend who shows up everywhere amd immediately opens up her "snack bag" (yes it's a separate entire bag) and starts handing them out, unprovoked. Drives me insane to the point of sometimes turning down plans because I don't want to deal with my older daughter eating a dozen snacks in 2 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

Yep, I gained weight while breastfeeding and it fell off as soon as I weaned

[Anonymous]

I judge people who judge people’s post about judging others like they are facts. This thread is hilarious!

[Anonymous]

I get/got judged for: not hovering over my kids every second, for letting them make and learn from their own mistakes, for saying no to them, for insisting on good behavior, and for letting them get cell phones in 6th grade. I especially got judged for not breastfeeding (on my dr's advice due to medical issues I didn't feel like telling the world about - and FYI my kids got sick less than half as much as those of my friends and family who EBF, and are tall and skinny and in honors classes as teens, so I don't buy your breast-is-best crap, o sanctimonious breastfeeders of 4-year-olds).

I judge parents who: won't discipline or say no to their kids, let their kids run wild in public and disturb other people (unless they have special needs), have no life outside of their kids (but think anyone who WOH, uses childcare, or occasionally needs a date night or overnight without kids is a bad parent), breastfeed kids over 2, won't vaccinate and actively spread misinformation to encourage others to fear vaccines and modern medicine, and are openly judgmental of other parents when their own family is a disaster.

[Anonymous]

I am judged for being a homeschooler. We currently live in Alaska and homeschooling in fairly popular and accepted. Mostly the judging is from other homeschool parents because I teach traditionally. We are not religious, we get dressed appropriately every morning, and I teach published curriculum from 9am-3:30pm, M-F. My 3rd grader can diagram sentences and find a fraction of a set.

I judge parents for not vaccinating, not following car safety laws, and tourists treating young children poorly on their AK cruises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have bathed my baby less than once a month over the past year.

I judge people who let their children play with dogs without extremely close supervision, or honestly at all.

Why not bathe your baby. Gross!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

Yep, I gained weight while breastfeeding and it fell off as soon as I weaned

+1. I lost 10 lbs within 2 weeks of weaning.