Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here

I'm convinced this thread is just 3 grandmothers with chips on their shoulder. Maybe instead of derailing a thread you go with on your relationships.

I should have known better than to ask Dcum.

You should definitely not ask questions on DCUM if you don’t want an honest answer. You admitted in your first post you sound crazy and it has been confirmed.

Op sounds normal to me!

She doesn’t even have a kid.

Not normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, a lot of bitter grandparents on the forums today.

Maybe this is a generational thing but as a millennial (I’m 35) I don’t know a SINGLE person who thinks it’s okay to post the photo of another person’s child on the internet. There are so many reasons why that’s just inappropriate and unfair to the child. Protecting your child’s SAFETY, privacy and future right to control their internet presence is way more important than a grandparent’s hurt feelings.

Protecting your child’s internet anonymity is just GOOD PARENTING. If you’re a grandparent or relative and that offends you—let me remind you that its not about you.

If you do t understand this, then consider that this is probably the reason why you can’t be trusted with anyone’s photos.

I post pictures of my own children but relatives may not realize I have very tightly restricted privacy controls. Can’t say the same for every random aunt and internet-clueless grandparent out there.

YES! OP, please do as you plan, and protect your children.

[Anonymous]

I have that rule and my extended family hates it. Oh well. My sister is always annoyed that o don’t let her plaster pics of my kids. I’m just not into it. She is the type who will complain about her life and kids all day looooong, and then post pics about how she is so blessed. Just strange

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have that rule and my extended family hates it. Oh well. My sister is always annoyed that o don’t let her plaster pics of my kids. I’m just not into it. She is the type who will complain about her life and kids all day looooong, and then post pics about how she is so blessed. Just strange

Just strange how judgmental you are of your sister

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also I'll send them a million photos a day. That I don't care about but I don't think my child's photos should be shown to their entire world. That's insane.

How many "friends" does she have on Facebook, ten million?!! Of course not. The truth is that there are not very many people interested in seeing pics of your children or any other child. Your in-laws are sharing with other grandparents who are bragging about their grandchildren!

This is not a hill to die on or even a hill to need a bandaid for! You are just being a controlling bitch. Sorry, but there is no other way to describe your behavior.

[Anonymous]

When my kids were younger, I asked that if my mom posted photos of my kids on FB that she restrict access to people she actually knew (she has A LOT of FB "friends" that she has only met online through various groups). Given that her FB settings are pretty locked down and she's always limited posts to certain people, this wasn't a problem for her.

Now that my kids are older, the rule is no photos posted at all. Ever. But that's not my rule, it's the request of my kids who are old enough not to want their pictures online. They don't love being photographed in the first place (one more so than the other) but will willingly pose for one photo per visit with the grandparents and will allow retakes until it turns out well, but prefer that the picture is for grandma and grandpa's eyes only.

[Anonymous]

^^ PP again. I forgot to mention that my in-laws don't use FB, or any other online photo sharing sites, so that's never been an issue.

[Anonymous]

Haha. Think of, for example, a coworker you are close with. She says "My first grand baby was born yesterday! I'm so proud! No, I can't show you a picture. Why not? I uhhh, well, I'm forbidden from showing people photos of my grandbaby. My DIL is afraid of....I don't know what... well she's a crazy person. "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have that rule and my extended family hates it. Oh well. My sister is always annoyed that o don’t let her plaster pics of my kids. I’m just not into it. She is the type who will complain about her life and kids all day looooong, and then post pics about how she is so blessed. Just strange

Just strange how judgmental you are of your sister

I was getting at the fact (which I probably didn't state well) is the idea that people use this social media to create picture perfect versions of their reality and that's just not what I want to do. This is true for my sister (and I've told this to her directly), and anyone else who catalogues their social media image to take a on a certain persona.

[Anonymous]

What are you so worried about? As long as there’s no personal information attached, social media accts are private, and the pics of the kids are positive (kids having fun, being appreciated... not having tantrums and being laughed at)... it’s fine.
Once your kids go to school there will be loads of pics taken and shared on (private) class websites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also I'll send them a million photos a day. That I don't care about but I don't think my child's photos should be shown to their entire world. That's insane.

How many "friends" does she have on Facebook, ten million?!! Of course not. The truth is that there are not very many people interested in seeing pics of your children or any other child. Your in-laws are sharing with other grandparents who are bragging about their grandchildren!

This is not a hill to die on or even a hill to need a bandaid for! You are just being a controlling bitch. Sorry, but there is no other way to describe your behavior.

This is what blows my mind also. Why on earth do you think people are so interested in pics of your kid? Spoiler: they're not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also I'll send them a million photos a day. That I don't care about but I don't think my child's photos should be shown to their entire world. That's insane.

How many "friends" does she have on Facebook, ten million?!! Of course not. The truth is that there are not very many people interested in seeing pics of your children or any other child. Your in-laws are sharing with other grandparents who are bragging about their grandchildren!

This is not a hill to die on or even a hill to need a bandaid for! You are just being a controlling bitch. Sorry, but there is no other way to describe your behavior.

This is what blows my mind also. Why on earth do you think people are so interested in pics of your kid? Spoiler: they're not.

Then. Stop. Bothering. Parents. About. Wanting. To. Post. Pics. Of. Their. Kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also I'll send them a million photos a day. That I don't care about but I don't think my child's photos should be shown to their entire world. That's insane.

How many "friends" does she have on Facebook, ten million?!! Of course not. The truth is that there are not very many people interested in seeing pics of your children or any other child. Your in-laws are sharing with other grandparents who are bragging about their grandchildren!

This is not a hill to die on or even a hill to need a bandaid for! You are just being a controlling bitch. Sorry, but there is no other way to describe your behavior.

This is what blows my mind also. Why on earth do you think people are so interested in pics of your kid? Spoiler: they're not.

Then. Stop. Bothering. Parents. About. Wanting. To. Post. Pics. Of. Their. Kids.

I.DO.NOT.ASK. FOR PIC. PEOPLE. SEND. THEM. TO. ME AND. I PROMPTLY.TOSS.THEM. IN. THE TRASH. OH, MY GOODNESS.PEDOPHILES.ARE.GOING THROUGH.MY.TRASH!!!

[Anonymous]

PSA , Parents, stop sending the stupid Chriztmas photos of all of you in matching pajamas as I also throw these out immediately as well as your brag letters which give names, schools of where to find your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha. Think of, for example, a coworker you are close with. She says "My first grand baby was born yesterday! I'm so proud! No, I can't show you a picture. Why not? I uhhh, well, I'm forbidden from showing people photos of my grandbaby. My DIL is afraid of....I don't know what... well she's a crazy person. "

I don’t think most parents are concerned about grandparents showing someone a photo in person. The concern is usually putting the photo on the internet. My mom is welcome to show my kids’ photos to the checkout person at the grocery store for all I care, but I have asked her not to put photos on social media and she respects that (and when my loopy aunts put pics of my kids on Facebook, my mom is the one who asks them to take it down).