asked visiting SIL to take Lyft from airport and caused much drama...

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Hospital = hospitable

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Anonymous wrote:My family is from the south. I never invite someone to my house and not offer them food. My husband's family is from new York, they will have you over for hours and basically starve you out. It's the difference between a hospital person and one who isn't.

Ever notice how overweight Southerners are and NYers are NOT? Maybe it's time to stop forcing food on visitors all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:My family is from the south. I never invite someone to my house and not offer them food. My husband's family is from new York, they will have you over for hours and basically starve you out. It's the difference between a hospital person and one who isn't.

Ever notice how overweight Southerners are and NYers are NOT? Maybe it's time to stop forcing food on visitors all the time.

This Southern gal is slim & trim and I always feed & hydrate my guests, who are also Southern & slim. BUT - I'm also practical like the Hoosiers and there's no way I'd do an airport pickup at BWI at 6am. My sister knows better than to fly to an airport an hour from my home.

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Anonymous wrote:My family is from the south. I never invite someone to my house and not offer them food. My husband's family is from new York, they will have you over for hours and basically starve you out. It's the difference between a hospital person and one who isn't.

Ever notice how overweight Southerners are and NYers are NOT? Maybe it's time to stop forcing food on visitors all the time.

This Southern gal is slim & trim and I always feed & hydrate my guests, who are also Southern & slim. BUT - I'm also practical like the Hoosiers and there's no way I'd do an airport pickup at BWI at 6am. My sister knows better than to fly to an airport an hour from my home.

Hoosier 12:53 here. We also ALWAYS offer food/drink to our guests.

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how did this thread turn into whether to feed your guests? how else did OP offend SIL and MIL? only offer wine and water with dinner?

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Anonymous wrote:My family is from the south. I never invite someone to my house and not offer them food. My husband's family is from new York, they will have you over for hours and basically starve you out. It's the difference between a hospital person and one who isn't.

Ever notice how overweight Southerners are and NYers are NOT? Maybe it's time to stop forcing food on visitors all the time.

I actually haven’t. What’s your basis? Just a stereotype? That’s what I thought.

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Anonymous wrote:In my opinion, it's rude to invite someone over and not meet them on arrival. If you don't have time for them, don't invite them.

In my opinion, it’s rude to plan your arrival or departure for a time that is inconsiderate to your hosts. If you can’t be a polite guest, don’t go.

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Anonymous wrote:She sounds pretty awful.

No. OP is awfully rude. I would never ask a relative of friend to do this.

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Anonymous wrote:My family is from the south. I never invite someone to my house and not offer them food. My husband's family is from new York, they will have you over for hours and basically starve you out. It's the difference between a hospital person and one who isn't.

And I will counter your anecdotal evidence: my family is from NY and they make sure to have favorite foods in the fridge and a meal waiting when you arrive. Then when you go to a different family member's house it's another meal waiting. There is always food immediately offered. Because my NY family is hospitable.

I visit many friends down south and am usually offered alcohol first and foremost upon arrival, not food. I think it's totally fine and consider my southern friends hospitable as well.

PS I am from NY, live in DC, had a friend visit this weekend from the south and made sure to stock the fridge and cabinet with her favorite foods. And picked her up from the airport.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

What's your uber/lyft/public transportation situation? The DC-part is that we have independent ways to manage beyond having your own car.

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Anonymous wrote:In my opinion, it's rude to invite someone over and not meet them on arrival. If you don't have time for them, don't invite them.

I meet them at arrival -- arrival at my house.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. I travel internationally for work ALL THE TIME and I never had (or asked, or wanted) my DH to drop me off or pick me up. There's only a handful of times where it could be actually possible because with three young kids, there is always pick up, drop off, activities or any other reason why his time is better spent with them than at the airport. I take Uber and don't think about it another second.

Family or friends flying into BWI at 6 bloody am? Take an Uber! It's downright rude to expect pick up at this time at this location.

I drive to pick up visiting family from overseas who don't speak English, aren't used to this environment, and whose visit is a genuine EVENT. But for others, it's just silly and dramatic to expect. And I'm an immigrant from a minority culture, as is my DH.

Yes, let's be clear -- you are picking up your 30 year American sister in law who was independent enough to get herself on a cross country redeye. This isn't picking up grandma whose just crossed an ocean to see you.

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What I can't get over are the number of people on this thread who would allow a sibling to do a 6 am pick up or expect it from a sibling. I would never, ever expect to be picked up at 6 am, to the point where I would reschedule a flight. We pick up people at the airport in our family and that is our tradition, so nobody is taking Uber, but nobody would ever schedule an arrival at 6 am with a pickup involved. It's shockingly selfish behavior.

I think the sister is extremely self-centered and rude for scheduling a 6 am flight, expecting a pick up, and then holding a grudge for a year. Extremely selfish, and I am shocked by the number of people defending her in this thread. It's just incredibly entitled behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:What I can't get over are the number of people on this thread who would allow a sibling to do a 6 am pick up or expect it from a sibling. I would never, ever expect to be picked up at 6 am, to the point where I would reschedule a flight. We pick up people at the airport in our family and that is our tradition, so nobody is taking Uber, but nobody would ever schedule an arrival at 6 am with a pickup involved. It's shockingly selfish behavior.

I think the sister is extremely self-centered and rude for scheduling a 6 am flight, expecting a pick up, and then holding a grudge for a year. Extremely selfish, and I am shocked by the number of people defending her in this thread. It's just incredibly entitled behavior.

Flights get delayed all the time. I would personally rather deal with a flight delay at 6am than a fight delay at 6pm. But, that said, I woudn't be too eager to wake up my small children early to go pick up a relative at the airport nor would I expect a family member to do that for me. Take uber or get yourself a rental car.

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Life is too short to attend to crazy and entitled people.

Just go about your life happily, OP, and tell your husband to deal with his family. Ignore your SIL.