S/O: Ladies - Would you have sex more often

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women want to desire sex with their long term relationship. But their bodies often just aren't wired that way.

Are you a woman? I am really sick of having my sexuality mansplained to me in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women want to desire sex with their long term relationship. But their bodies often just aren't wired that way.

Are you a woman? I am really sick of having my sexuality mansplained to me in this thread.

Not the PP here.

So womansplain it to us. Just be prepared for skepticism if you bring up choreplay or some other suggestion that the burden is on the husband to bring back a wife's waning sex drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women want to desire sex with their long term relationship. But their bodies often just aren't wired that way.

Are you a woman? I am really sick of having my sexuality mansplained to me in this thread.

Not the PP here.

So womansplain it to us. Just be prepared for skepticism if you bring up choreplay or some other suggestion that the burden is on the husband to bring back a wife's waning sex drive.

So if a woman reiterates the same points that all other women make (which would imply they are telling the truth) than its not good enough but men rationalizing away all of those women's responses and creating their own narrative is legitimate? I have posted long posts in this very thread explaining how I personally work, I'm not going to repeat myself.

I think I've come to the conclusion that the male posters here that REALLY harp on this issue either

1) legitimately have a wife who doesn't care and should get divorce
2) resent their wife so much that she can tell and therefore doesn't want to have sex and they should get divorced (or try therapy if you think you still have some room in your heart).

For the average guy in a dry spell with his wife I think a lot of this advice would work great. To a guy in a year+ long sex freeze out who spends his days hating his wife and plotting his completely justified affair? Just do everyone a favor and realize your situation is toxic and stop trying to project that onto all women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women want to desire sex with their long term relationship. But their bodies often just aren't wired that way.

Are you a woman? I am really sick of having my sexuality mansplained to me in this thread.

Not the PP here.

So womansplain it to us. Just be prepared for skepticism if you bring up choreplay or some other suggestion that the burden is on the husband to bring back a wife's waning sex drive.

So if a woman reiterates the same points that all other women make (which would imply they are telling the truth) than its not good enough but men rationalizing away all of those women's responses and creating their own narrative is legitimate? I have posted long posts in this very thread explaining how I personally work, I'm not going to repeat myself.

I think I've come to the conclusion that the male posters here that REALLY harp on this issue either

1) legitimately have a wife who doesn't care and should get divorce
2) resent their wife so much that she can tell and therefore doesn't want to have sex and they should get divorced (or try therapy if you think you still have some room in your heart).

For the average guy in a dry spell with his wife I think a lot of this advice would work great. To a guy in a year+ long sex freeze out who spends his days hating his wife and plotting his completely justified affair? Just do everyone a favor and realize your situation is toxic and stop trying to project that onto all women.

Yup, you womansplained it alright.

"This is how it works for me, but I'm still going to make a whole bunch of unsupported generalizations about women and men who are not me or my husband and if you don't like what I have to say you're just bitter and you hate your wife and you're looking for an excuse to cheat." Got it.

I'd say this thread has reached the end of its useful life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think I've come to the conclusion that the male posters here that REALLY harp on this issue either

1) legitimately have a wife who doesn't care and should get divorce
2) resent their wife so much that she can tell and therefore doesn't want to have sex and they should get divorced (or try therapy if you think you still have some room in your heart).

For the average guy in a dry spell with his wife I think a lot of this advice would work great. To a guy in a year+ long sex freeze out who spends his days hating his wife and plotting his completely justified affair? Just do everyone a favor and realize your situation is toxic and stop trying to project that onto all women.

Not sure where I fit here:

-I think my wife cares.
-In a 10+ year dry spell (once or twice a month for pretty much this entire period).
-I'm not happy about the situation but am pretty sure that my wife's reaction to me isn't some reaction to resentment.
-My wife's body just doesn't react sexually to me the way she and I would like it to.
-Raising the issue makes her feel pressured and, counter-productively, even less sexual.
-Not raising the issue makes her (so far as I can tell) ignore or forget that it's a problem.

[Anonymous]

^^ want to know where you fit?
Prototypical Ashley Madison user.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ want to know where you fit?
Prototypical Ashley Madison user.

Nope. I keep my promises.

[Anonymous]

Hell yeah

When the dick is mind blowing then I cant help but want it daily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I think I've come to the conclusion that the male posters here that REALLY harp on this issue either

1) legitimately have a wife who doesn't care and should get divorce
2) resent their wife so much that she can tell and therefore doesn't want to have sex and they should get divorced (or try therapy if you think you still have some room in your heart).

For the average guy in a dry spell with his wife I think a lot of this advice would work great. To a guy in a year+ long sex freeze out who spends his days hating his wife and plotting his completely justified affair? Just do everyone a favor and realize your situation is toxic and stop trying to project that onto all women.

Not sure where I fit here:

-I think my wife cares.
-In a 10+ year dry spell (once or twice a month for pretty much this entire period).
-I'm not happy about the situation but am pretty sure that my wife's reaction to me isn't some reaction to resentment.
-My wife's body just doesn't react sexually to me the way she and I would like it to.
-Raising the issue makes her feel pressured and, counter-productively, even less sexual.
-Not raising the issue makes her (so far as I can tell) ignore or forget that it's a problem.

That's below average, not a dry spell.

But, it's clearly much less than you'd like. Maybe a therapist? An anti-depressant?