S/O: Ladies - Would you have sex more often

[Anonymous]

if your spouse was really good in bed?

[Anonymous]

Duh! I think that is a given.

Not interested in sex means that there is no physical attraction towards the spouse and the sex is bad.

[Anonymous]

For men sex is a physical reaction and libido is driven by testosterone. So long as T is constant, sex drive will not go away (for the most part). The female drive is influenced by a variety of factors and many of them aren't hormonal. Ergo, a female sex drive can leave, stay, muddle, whatever regardless of whether Jude Law is asking for it, or Bilbo Baggins. Doesn't matter. Hence why so many sexless situations arise.

[Anonymous]

I am completely in attracted to my spouse so no, it wouldn't matter. I do have orgasms with him, but I don't want to have sex with him.

[Anonymous]

My spouse is great in bed. I am usually looking forward to sex. Unfortunately, he often comes home and things he says or does end up killing my desire to f**k him. Then he complains about not having enough sex.

[Anonymous]

Not unless being good in bed bought more hours in the day.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am completely in attracted to my spouse so no, it wouldn't matter. I do have orgasms with him, but I don't want to have sex with him.

This makes no sense. Do you mean unattracted? That makes sense. I have the same situation. Unattracted to DH, fine sex, it is OK, I can O, but totally disconnected. Better sex would be great, but it wouldn't actually be better. Better connection would make the sex better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am completely in attracted to my spouse so no, it wouldn't matter. I do have orgasms with him, but I don't want to have sex with him.

This makes no sense. Do you mean unattracted? That makes sense. I have the same situation. Unattracted to DH, fine sex, it is OK, I can O, but totally disconnected. Better sex would be great, but it wouldn't actually be better. Better connection would make the sex better.

Define "connection." Do you just mean if you liked him more?

[Anonymous]

Yes. A few years ago my husband watched some kind of tutorial about the female body, and it has changed our sex life dramatically.

[Anonymous]

Come on. We have young kids, get minimal sleep, and are busy all day, plus I think there are dishes still on the table and crumbs on the floor.

Good in bed = we can wrap it up in under 5 minutes and fall into a deep and contented sleep afterward.

*I only said "5 minutes" because I thought you all might judge "2 minutes", but obviously, anything under 5 is ideal.

[Anonymous]

No. It has nothing to do with physical ability for me. It has everything to do with an emotional connection.

[Anonymous]

Yes. And if I had more self confidence about my post-kids body (not my actual body - just my stretched out and weak lady parts).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse is great in bed. I am usually looking forward to sex. Unfortunately, he often comes home and things he says or does end up killing my desire to f**k him. Then he complains about not having enough sex.

Typical female with a fragile/weak sex drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My spouse is great in bed. I am usually looking forward to sex. Unfortunately, he often comes home and things he says or does end up killing my desire to f**k him. Then he complains about not having enough sex.

Typical female with a fragile/weak sex drive.

No PP, but I think PP was saying that even if DH is good in bed, she also needs an emotional connection.