Found a condom in my husband's car

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Click tools, security, saved logins.

Thank me later ladies! Happy hunting!!

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Just don't open his Facebook on YOUR phone or work computer because it will notify him a new device opened it

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Just want to say, sorry, OP. Your husband's responses sound very fishy. If your husband is so careful about not using his real name online, you may be in for some surprises. Take care of yourself. Post here if you need more advice, but it sounds like you need to deal with some larger issues.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. The additional condoms and lube tell you all you need to know in terms of knowing he's had sex with at least one other person if not people.

Honestly, and maybe it's just because this happens to me, the lube plus car condoms suggests same-sex anonymous hookup to me. There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked. If your DH's time is mostly accounted for and you can't imagine him being able to have a full time affair, that would be my guess.

For me, it was somewhat a comfort to know that the sex was anonymous and not at all emotional or personal, but I still couldn't live with the breach in trust and eventually split up.

SurvivingInfidelity.com can be a huge help to you now. I'm so sorry, OP.

DH here: sadly, this sounds like the most plausible scenario to me, too. I'd gather more evidence before confronting, however, since it is not entirely definitive and if he stonewalls and goes dark because he knows you know, you will drive yourself crazy wondering.

There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked.

NO THAT IS NOT CORRECT. I'm straight and no mans gonna suck my dick. You bi people need to get out of you head that everyone can be bi
If he's humping other men , he is gay

See, when I see a man react this strongly against bisexuality/homosexuality? I assume he's closeted and tormented by his urges for sex with other men.

Regular straight guys don't give a shit if people out there are bi or straight or gay. If you're so worked up about it, it's a case of "the gentleman doth protest too much."

That's not the way it works. Sorry. It makes my stomach turn.

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Anonymous wrote:Click tools, security, saved logins.

Thank me later ladies! Happy hunting!!

Does this work on other browsers too?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and THEN you confront.

Alternately, bluff. Throw the condom on the table and say "And I found the rest. How painful do you want this to be?" He will fold like a deck of cheap cards if he thinks you have more and he's guilty.

Not if he were my husband. My husband would flip that script on me being crazy and play dumb immediately, and then proceed to extract information about how much I know. At which Point, I would fold like a deck of expensive cards, and he would know that he could still argue innocence against a lack of real "proof". Asshole.

Is there something unique about the way expensive cards fold?

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Anonymous wrote: Every wrapper has a control or lot number, this isn't a gallon of milk, this is a near medical device that is very closely regulated.

In addition to the expiration date there is a lot number on each of the wrappers, check them with your current stock in the house and see if they match. If the lot numbers match you only have a few missing units to account for; it would be highly unlikely that the same lot numbers would be in different boxes.

Pretty sure gallons of milk have lot numbers. Mine do. Foods are tracked too, you know!

Does condom get all sour like milk after expiration?

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This happened to me (a dh) once.

A long time ago I bought a box of condom which I left in the truck of my car. I used one of them once, after wife rejected me for sex, to put it on while showering (it's not fun and so I stopped doing it). Later I moved the box to my glove apartment when a coworker asked for a ride and said he needed to put his stuff in the car truck. One or two year later my wife and I swapped cars and she found out the box of condoms. It took me a lot to explain.

It may or maybe nothing.

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Anonymous wrote: Every wrapper has a control or lot number, this isn't a gallon of milk, this is a near medical device that is very closely regulated.

In addition to the expiration date there is a lot number on each of the wrappers, check them with your current stock in the house and see if they match. If the lot numbers match you only have a few missing units to account for; it would be highly unlikely that the same lot numbers would be in different boxes.

Pretty sure gallons of milk have lot numbers. Mine do. Foods are tracked too, you know!

Does condom get all sour like milk after expiration?

Not but it crackles and can rip and babies can slip through. So there is potential for sour milk.

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Anonymous wrote:This happened to me (a dh) once.

A long time ago I bought a box of condom which I left in the truck of my car. I used one of them once, after wife rejected me for sex, to put it on while showering (it's not fun and so I stopped doing it). Later I moved the box to my glove apartment when a coworker asked for a ride and said he needed to put his stuff in the car truck. One or two year later my wife and I swapped cars and she found out the box of condoms. It took me a lot to explain.

It may or maybe nothing.

But then why does he have like three explanations? Particularly blaming someone else?

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Anonymous wrote:This happened to me (a dh) once.

A long time ago I bought a box of condom which I left in the truck of my car. I used one of them once, after wife rejected me for sex, to put it on while showering (it's not fun and so I stopped doing it). Later I moved the box to my glove apartment when a coworker asked for a ride and said he needed to put his stuff in the car truck. One or two year later my wife and I swapped cars and she found out the box of condoms. It took me a lot to explain.

It may or maybe nothing.

If it was innocent, his stories wouldn't change. Poor OP.

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Anonymous wrote:A person with nothing to hide doesn't need to give 3 different CYA excuses. Only one, the truth, would be necessary. Liars always go into more detail than they need to. He's full of it.

This.

+2 - His response makes me more suspicious than the condoms themselves.

I am deeply suspicious that he claims it's one of theirs he took to buy more but then says "maybe it was a car person's." No. It's yours and you have a reason or it's not yours but IT ISNT BOTH.

Absolutely. A person who isn't spewing bullshit has no reason to muse on the myriad ways condoms could have ended up in the car. If I found a condom in DH's car, I'd expect an immediate and clear explanation, even if it sounded implausible, or an outright "WTF are you talking about?" He either knows or he doesn't know how they got there.

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OP, any update?

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If a mechanic left condoms and lube in my husband's car, he wouldnt leave it there...he would throw it out and tell me later that day, "Youll never believe what the mechanic left in the car." Definitely lying.

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Anonymous wrote:If a mechanic left condoms and lube in my husband's car, he wouldnt leave it there...he would throw it out and tell me later that day, "Youll never believe what the mechanic left in the car." Definitely lying.

If the mechanic story ends up being true they need to write a Yelp review titled something like "that's not what I meant by lube job."