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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So my daughter’s favorite schools were Yale and Stanford, though even those weren’t perfect in her eyes. She really didn’t like Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, or Vanderbilt for a bunch of different reasons. She did like UVA and Duke (kind of), but didn’t get into those either.

What’s been hardest is getting waitlisted at Harvard, Yale, and UPenn—it hurts a lot because it feels like she *could* have gotten in, just got unlucky. So now she’s taking it as that she’s a stupid failure, even though that’s not really fair. -OP
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Why did she apply to schools she really didn’t like? Especially reach schools she really didn’t like?[/quote]

She applied to 34 schools.  All of the top30 plus a few safeties. [/quote]

How many supplements did she write?[/quote]

34. -OP[/quote]

Interesting that all 34 schools required supplements. I thought some you mentioned do not, but regardless, could she go back and look at the "Why Us?" essay for the ones she was accepted to and see if she was telling the truth in any of them? It's weird that she applied to schools where she didn't actually want to attend, yet their applications require a lot of extra work. Were the "Why Us" essays credible at all?[/quote]
To her, no school is truly perfect—even her favorites have downsides. But most of the schools she applied to have qualities she likes, which is what she wrote about. -OP[/quote]

Well she's right then. No school is perfect, including the ones she was rejected from/waitlisted at. Time to look at the qualities she liked in the ones she was accepted to, and prioritize which of them are most important. This is part of the process. I'm the PP who wrote about Brown. She should give it a closer look in my opinion. Concerns about "quality of education" are misguided.[/quote]
She’s just worried about job opportunities coming from Brown because of it being known for an open curriculum. I can try and tell her to look at the positives, but she still feels defeated and worthless because she didn’t get into a top school. -OP[/quote]

It sounds like you agree with her, that she’s worthless because she didn’t get into Yale? Is that it OP?[/quote]
I hate that these schools made my daughter feel this way. She’s more than qualified, but now she says she doesn’t want to go to college anymore and just wants to stay home because she didn’t get into the schools she wanted. She’s not being a jerk—it was just the expectation based on her stats. If she had been rejected outright, she probably would’ve felt better by now and have committed to schools like Brown or Northwestern. But the waitlists make her obsess over the 'what ifs,' and that’s why she’s crying every day, even at school. -OP[/quote]

So let her stay home.  She sounds too immature to handle college anyway. [/quote]

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