Learned Dad voted for Trump

[Anonymous]

At a certain point you just have to decide whether the politics of the moment are more important to you than your family ties and your long-term friendships. I've got friends all over the spectrum. I'm a conservative Catholic, but I've got friends who are basically agnostic so far as I can tell, and what we share is a common hobby (music). I'm a Republican, but I've got friends who are staunch Democrats and with those I focus on the things we have in common--some more nuanced policy views, but mostly raising children. And obviously I've got lots of Republican friends, some of who are more conservative than I am. I've just learned to accept the differences.

One of my best friends was a progressive in high school and college, but shifted right over the years and voted for Trump last year. Twenty years ago I never would have imagined that we'd be in the same political party (even if we don't really share all the same policy preferences). Our friendship was a lot more important to me than how he voted--both twenty years ago and today--and I always appreciated that we could have a real conversation about the news of the day without offending each other. Sometimes he presented me with evidence that changed my mind, sometimes I changed his. But usually we agreed to disagree and that was fine. Haranguing someone will never change their mind and it will only push them away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

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This!

I am a liberal. My entire family voted for Trump and not only did they vote for him some of them like my sister are pretty hard core MAGA. It is what it is. I am not going to disown my family over this. If you want to be tolerant have conversations to understand why he voted this way. I am sure you have more common ground than you think even if you see different ways of getting there.

I do not understand the cutting everyone off who voted differently than you mentality everyone seems to have these days.

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

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This!

I am a liberal. My entire family voted for Trump and not only did they vote for him some of them like my sister are pretty hard core MAGA. It is what it is. I am not going to disown my family over this. If you want to be tolerant have conversations to understand why he voted this way. I am sure you have more common ground than you think even if you see different ways of getting there.

I do not understand the cutting everyone off who voted differently than you mentality everyone seems to have these days.

I’m going to enjoy seeing his this thread ages. Let’s meet back here in a year.

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

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This!

I am a liberal. My entire family voted for Trump and not only did they vote for him some of them like my sister are pretty hard core MAGA. It is what it is. I am not going to disown my family over this. If you want to be tolerant have conversations to understand why he voted this way. I am sure you have more common ground than you think even if you see different ways of getting there.

I do not understand the cutting everyone off who voted differently than you mentality everyone seems to have these days.

As has been said, it's not about "voting differently" - it is what is revealed about someones priorities and morals through that vote. I think it is important to discuss the why behind the vote rather than just reactively cutting off communication, but if those conversations reveal someone with values that are not compatible with mine then I'm not sure how we would move forward. Same as if someone was having an affair or other relationship challenges. It would absolutely change my view of that person and how I value the relationship.

[Anonymous]

OP said she doesn’t want to cut off her dad. However, she’s hurt that her father voted for her to lose her job and that her job is wasteful. She’s allowed to feel how she feels. I’m not sure how to heal a relationship with a parent who cares so little about your well being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP said she doesn’t want to cut off her dad. However, she’s hurt that her father voted for her to lose her job and that her job is wasteful. She’s allowed to feel how she feels. I’m not sure how to heal a relationship with a parent who cares so little about your well being.

Would you say that when you voted for Joe Biden you specifically voted for a rapid drawdown of forces from Afghanistan or for the Border Patrol not to do DNA testing on family units of migrants crossing the border to determine whether children were being trafficked? Or were you voting for a general direction without knowing every last policy decision that Biden’s staff would make? OP’s father didn’t specifically vote for reduction in force including his daughter’s position, or for furloughs. He voted for Trump more generally. Nobody agrees with everything their standard-bearer does.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

+1

This!

I am a liberal. My entire family voted for Trump and not only did they vote for him some of them like my sister are pretty hard core MAGA. It is what it is. I am not going to disown my family over this. If you want to be tolerant have conversations to understand why he voted this way. I am sure you have more common ground than you think even if you see different ways of getting there.

I do not understand the cutting everyone off who voted differently than you mentality everyone seems to have these days.

Dp. If you voted for him, we have nothing in common and I have no wish to be in their company. I don't care if they feel the same about me.

He is destroying America. This is not a country I am proud of and if I could I would leave. But since I can't I have the power to stay away from maga

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone's dad voted for Trump.

My lifelong Republican, Southern, red-state based father hasn’t voted for a Republican presidential candidate since Trump came onto the scene.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

+1

This!

I am a liberal. My entire family voted for Trump and not only did they vote for him some of them like my sister are pretty hard core MAGA. It is what it is. I am not going to disown my family over this. If you want to be tolerant have conversations to understand why he voted this way. I am sure you have more common ground than you think even if you see different ways of getting there.

I do not understand the cutting everyone off who voted differently than you mentality everyone seems to have these days.

Dp. If you voted for him, we have nothing in common and I have no wish to be in their company. I don't care if they feel the same about me.

He is destroying America. This is not a country I am proud of and if I could I would leave. But since I can't I have the power to stay away from maga

My god this is why middle ground liberal like myself can not stand the super far left liberals and yet another reason why democrats will keep losing. Why are liberals so unwilling to listen and be even a little tolerant?

Not every issue is one dimensional just as people are not one dimensional.

I also think it says a lol about YOUR values that you would suggest cutting off an elderly parent over who they voted for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could be like me and learn that your two daughters in college voted for Trump, against our wishes (and in swing states)

Wow, that's truly sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

Honestly, since anyone who supports Trump is a traitorous scourge, no. Most of us are actively disassociating with such defects. It’s just harder when they are family.

Why? You're either principled or not.

Why indeed. You are the German and Polish who would have had no problem with family members supporting the SS, circa 1939. Why indeed.

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Anonymous wrote:More than half the country voted for trump what's the big deal

False. 23% of the country voted the lying, corrupt traitor.

You lost. F you and hopefully you lose your Fed job next week.

And this is exhibit A why we will never talk to u again. You are petty and thoghtless just like your orange leader.

And we could care less. Good riddance!

Until you want support and help, or wonder why you can't see the grandkids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in DC and my parents live in Texas where I grew up. I've always known we didn't see eye to eye politically and we generally don't discuss politics to stay out of the fray. I knew my dad didn't vote for Hillary or Trump in 2016 and haven't really asked him his votes since. But I just learned he voted for Trump in 2024 and is standing by the vote. I am having a VERY hard time. Help me, DCUM. Do I just try and forget? Never discuss Trump or my job (I'm a furloughed fed) ever again? I don't want to lose my dad, but I just can't cope.

If it was my father, I would ask him why he did not love me enough.

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Anonymous wrote:There are probably more people that you know than you realize who voted for Trump. Move on and grow up. It’s not your decision to make for other people on who they vote for.

Just remember, the law of physics is for every action there’s an equal and opposite reaction. Ask yourself how did we get back in the same situation with Trump? The last four years was no picnic either.

I feel like the MAGA folks are living in a different county than I am. The president gets a “gift” of a jet from Qatar, then announces Qatar is building a base on U.S. soil. US citizens are being beaten and imprisoned for exercising their right to peaceful protest. The administration ignores court orders and any laws with which they don’t agree. The president demands the AG prosecute his enemies, and fires any attorneys who won’t follow his orders, even if they’re unlawful. J6 rioters are pardoned. Grocery store prices are increasing and the government issues a report that the policy of deporting immigrants will put be even more pressure on prices. People are snatched off the streets by masked men, placed in unmarked vehicles and disappeared into prisons in other countries. Sure Biden’s presidency wasn’t perfect, but how can it even begin to compete with the Trumps’s attempt to burn the constitution?

That is absolutely how I felt living behind the blue curtain in New England during Covid and Biden. Like left/right were watching two different movies. Having forced masking everywhere well into 2022, forced vaccinations of healthcare workers, the All Are Welcome / Immigrants are Sacred virtue signaling (these same people now upset bc developers are building nearby their bucolic suburb) … anyway. It got to the point with Biden and all the smug “the adults are in charge” pablum that I voted gladly for Trump. But America truly is watching two different movies. Never heard about Qatar pay to play but frankly don’t care after all the Biden emperor has no clothes , he’s just a doting grandpa who has always stuttered Pravda media corruption.

Where were you “forced to mask” in 2022?

Sounds like you’re living in alternate reality without access to reliable news sources.

Many blue states, including DC and MD, still had masking mandates in public spaces until March 2022. Did you already forget?

You're are not telling the truth. I cannot speak on MD, but DC removed its' inside mask mandate in 2021. The outside mask requirement was never required. People walked around outside without a mask through the throes of covid. It's just that most people voluntarily wore masks and refused to be around those who would not wear masks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP said she doesn’t want to cut off her dad. However, she’s hurt that her father voted for her to lose her job and that her job is wasteful. She’s allowed to feel how she feels. I’m not sure how to heal a relationship with a parent who cares so little about your well being.

Would you say that when you voted for Joe Biden you specifically voted for a rapid drawdown of forces from Afghanistan or for the Border Patrol not to do DNA testing on family units of migrants crossing the border to determine whether children were being trafficked? Or were you voting for a general direction without knowing every last policy decision that Biden’s staff would make? OP’s father didn’t specifically vote for reduction in force including his daughter’s position, or for furloughs. He voted for Trump more generally. Nobody agrees with everything their standard-bearer does.

We know where this poster gets their news.