Lazy, careless DH stories

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put them here. Here’s mine:

DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.

I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.

Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.

DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

Me: exactly.

Throw it away. Easy.
Instead of calling you from the store to tell you there is no small watermelon or buying a precut watermelon for way more $, he decided to get the big one, so maybe you can have some too later. You are acting like he bought 10lb of steaks, it is a stupid watermelon for $6. Just eat some and toss the rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do I have a feeling you would have also been mad if he’d gotten no watermelon at all?

-a wife

Who hacks a chunk off a giant watermelon and sticks it in the fridge? The juice will get everywhere.0

Depends on where the cut was. If they took out of the top quarter juice wouldn't really go anywhere. But this thread is about bashing not logic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

NP

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

NP

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives.

From the OP:

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

So at that point you're saying OP was THEN responsible for saying to her husband, "your response is frustrating to me because I feel like you don't see how this is going to cause problems for me, etc."?

I find it a bit ridiculous that OP is supposed to explain to her husband how what he did made her feel instead of him being an adult and figuring out why it's a problem after she told him what the issue is and asked him to address it. He had all the information he needed to understand the issue. So instead of making it into a bigger thing, OP decided to vent on an anonymous forum to feel less alone and then will likely move past the watermelon issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

NP

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives.

From the OP:

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

So at that point you're saying OP was THEN responsible for saying to her husband, "your response is frustrating to me because I feel like you don't see how this is going to cause problems for me, etc."?

I find it a bit ridiculous that OP is supposed to explain to her husband how what he did made her feel instead of him being an adult and figuring out why it's a problem after she told him what the issue is and asked him to address it. He had all the information he needed to understand the issue. So instead of making it into a bigger thing, OP decided to vent on an anonymous forum to feel less alone and then will likely move past the watermelon issue.

It's already been established that venting is unhealthy.

The watermelon isn't the issue. OP and her husband have a communication problem if they can't resolve these simple matters without unhealthy venting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put them here. Here’s mine:

DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.

I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.

Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.

DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

Me: exactly.

Throw it away. Easy.
Instead of calling you from the store to tell you there is no small watermelon or buying a precut watermelon for way more $, he decided to get the big one, so maybe you can have some too later. You are acting like he bought 10lb of steaks, it is a stupid watermelon for $6. Just eat some and toss the rest.

But then she couldn't feel superior to her DH, and she really enjoys that feeling. Also complaining. She enjoys complaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

Lolz!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just for the record: I’m OP and left for a few hours and came back to this insanity. I’m not any of the people sniping at each other. I’m looking forward to giving the watermelon to the birds in my yard and I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Just for the record: OP came here inviting people to badmouth their spouses "Lazy, careless DH stories". I mean, who could have predicted "insanity" and "sniping" would be the result of OP's share your "Lazy, careless DH stories" DCUM topic. I am floored.

I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Bravo. We can only hope to rise to OP's level of maturity.

Np. I’m with op here. Many of you are NUTS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

NP

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives.

From the OP:

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

So at that point you're saying OP was THEN responsible for saying to her husband, "your response is frustrating to me because I feel like you don't see how this is going to cause problems for me, etc."?

I find it a bit ridiculous that OP is supposed to explain to her husband how what he did made her feel instead of him being an adult and figuring out why it's a problem after she told him what the issue is and asked him to address it. He had all the information he needed to understand the issue. So instead of making it into a bigger thing, OP decided to vent on an anonymous forum to feel less alone and then will likely move past the watermelon issue.

It's already been established that venting is unhealthy.

The watermelon isn't the issue. OP and her husband have a communication problem if they can't resolve these simple matters without unhealthy venting.

Lol to you any time any woman describes poor behavior in a man it is "unhealthy venting". OP needs to be a good wife and understand that her DH is too busy and important (unlike her) to cut up the massive watermelon he chose to buy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

NP

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives.

From the OP:

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

So at that point you're saying OP was THEN responsible for saying to her husband, "your response is frustrating to me because I feel like you don't see how this is going to cause problems for me, etc."?

I find it a bit ridiculous that OP is supposed to explain to her husband how what he did made her feel instead of him being an adult and figuring out why it's a problem after she told him what the issue is and asked him to address it. He had all the information he needed to understand the issue. So instead of making it into a bigger thing, OP decided to vent on an anonymous forum to feel less alone and then will likely move past the watermelon issue.

It's already been established that venting is unhealthy.

The watermelon isn't the issue. OP and her husband have a communication problem if they can't resolve these simple matters without unhealthy venting.

Lol to you any time any woman describes poor behavior in a man it is "unhealthy venting". OP needs to be a good wife and understand that her DH is too busy and important (unlike her) to cut up the massive watermelon he chose to buy.

I'm not one of the researchers who produced studies on unhealthy venting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

NP

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives.

From the OP:

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

So at that point you're saying OP was THEN responsible for saying to her husband, "your response is frustrating to me because I feel like you don't see how this is going to cause problems for me, etc."?

I find it a bit ridiculous that OP is supposed to explain to her husband how what he did made her feel instead of him being an adult and figuring out why it's a problem after she told him what the issue is and asked him to address it. He had all the information he needed to understand the issue. So instead of making it into a bigger thing, OP decided to vent on an anonymous forum to feel less alone and then will likely move past the watermelon issue.

It's already been established that venting is unhealthy.

The watermelon isn't the issue. OP and her husband have a communication problem if they can't resolve these simple matters without unhealthy venting.

Lol to you any time any woman describes poor behavior in a man it is "unhealthy venting". OP needs to be a good wife and understand that her DH is too busy and important (unlike her) to cut up the massive watermelon he chose to buy.

I'm not one of the researchers who produced studies on unhealthy venting.

Why does the whole watermelon have to be cut up anyways?

[Anonymous]

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DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

NP

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives.

From the OP:

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

So at that point you're saying OP was THEN responsible for saying to her husband, "your response is frustrating to me because I feel like you don't see how this is going to cause problems for me, etc."?

I find it a bit ridiculous that OP is supposed to explain to her husband how what he did made her feel instead of him being an adult and figuring out why it's a problem after she told him what the issue is and asked him to address it. He had all the information he needed to understand the issue. So instead of making it into a bigger thing, OP decided to vent on an anonymous forum to feel less alone and then will likely move past the watermelon issue.

It's already been established that venting is unhealthy.

The watermelon isn't the issue. OP and her husband have a communication problem if they can't resolve these simple matters without unhealthy venting.

Lol to you any time any woman describes poor behavior in a man it is "unhealthy venting". OP needs to be a good wife and understand that her DH is too busy and important (unlike her) to cut up the massive watermelon he chose to buy.

I'm not one of the researchers who produced studies on unhealthy venting.

Why does the whole watermelon have to be cut up anyways?

Put them here. Here’s mine:

DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.

I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.

Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.

DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

Me: exactly.

[Anonymous]

If you offer this "used and partly sliced" watermelon up on freecycle or buy nothing it will be gone in 2 seconds...yeah that's how this area is now...which to me is sadder then your DH bringing home one that's too big.

[Anonymous]

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?

This poster wrote a fantastic response:

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives.

My response (

However, when one party cannot accept that they may have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

) addresses all the posts made up to the time I posted. Is the conflict that the OP's DH once did a poor job taking care of a food item, or is that the OP's DH is lazy and careless in general? The title of the thread is "Lazy, careless DH stories", and the role in this conflict the OP needs to express is how disrepectful her post is (e.g., He did X (once). Therefore, he is lazy and careless and I want to others to talk about how lazy and careless husbands are as well.)

For all the posters who want to hear more stories from women bashing husbands, do you bash your DH (like this) in front of your children? If so, you give your sons and daughters the idea that their dads are lazy and careless.

Would you like it if your DH bashed you to them about your shortcomings? You need to answer this question in any reply.