Lazy, careless DH stories

[Anonymous]

So make it a vent thread about partners. Laziness is not a husband-only fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is an example of why it will always be a man's world. Spending energy on this petty stuff.

Yeah, because a man dumped 10 lbs of watermelon on me that he couldn’t be bothered to eat or cut with 5 days to go until trash pickup.

So start eating the watermelon. And buy more containers. It takes about 5 minutes to cut up watermelon, but you've probably spent hours being furious.

If it’s so easy to cut it up and buy the right quantity of containers for the fruit purchased why didn’t he do it?

[Anonymous]

Over the weekend, I had to look at two stores before finding small watermelons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So make it a vent thread about partners. Laziness is not a husband-only fault.

#notallmen /s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not another husband bashing thread!!

You all must not be married!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is an example of why it will always be a man's world. Spending energy on this petty stuff.

Yeah, because a man dumped 10 lbs of watermelon on me that he couldn’t be bothered to eat or cut with 5 days to go until trash pickup.

So start eating the watermelon. And buy more containers. It takes about 5 minutes to cut up watermelon, but you've probably spent hours being furious.

If it’s so easy to cut it up and buy the right quantity of containers for the fruit purchased why didn’t he do it?

So you're saying it's hard?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is an example of why it will always be a man's world. Spending energy on this petty stuff.

It's not petty to be frustrated by the reality of living one's life with a man who pretends to be incompetent so his partner will mother him, and then complains bitterly and is a nasty jerk when she's not hot to jump in the sack with him anytime he likes because he acts like just another child she's responsible for and that isn't at all a sexy thing.

Sexy is the man who takes 15 minutes away from his phone play/sports watching/other self indulgence to cut up the watermelon and put it in multiple containers and put it away in the fridge.

This. A THOUSAND times this. My exh was the the first example. My SO is the second example. Competency is HOT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not another husband bashing thread!!

You all must not be married!

Or they're just well-adjusted people not looking to alleviate their own insecurities by criticizing someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over the weekend, I had to look at two stores before finding small watermelons.

You're obviously lying, because that doesn't fit the narrative of this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over the weekend, I had to look at two stores before finding small watermelons.

You're obviously lying, because that doesn't fit the narrative of this thread.

Because there can only be one true story on the availability of small watermelons in the DMV. Everything else is a lie! A damn lie!

[Anonymous]

It’s a giant watermelon conspiracy I tell you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do I have a feeling you would have also been mad if he’d gotten no watermelon at all?

-a wife

Who hacks a chunk off a giant watermelon and sticks it in the fridge? The juice will get everywhere.0

No kidding. The solution, obviously, is to get presliced watermelon and just buy the amount for the girls