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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .
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In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.[/quote]

NP. I completely agree with your first statement. I try very hard to own my role in any conflict with others.

I don't understand your second sentence as it relates to this issue - what was OP's role here other than being annoyed that her husband didn't put the watermelon away properly? He said he would get food for the girls' lunch, OP suggested watermelon, and he agreed it was a good idea, so this wasn't a case of OP insisting that he buy watermelon even though he didn't want to/didn't think it made sense for whatever reason. Then he leaves it in a careless manner in the fridge when he won't be home. What does OP need to acknowledge is her role in this conflict?[/quote]

Her role is failure to express her annoyance with her partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Instead, OP asked people to tell negative stories about their husbands.

This applies both ways. If her response annoyed her husband, his role would be to express his annoyance with his partner, discuss, and resolve to avoid future conflict. Her husband would be wrong to respond by asking people to tell disparaging stories about their wives. 
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From the OP:

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

So at that point you're saying OP was THEN responsible for saying to her husband, "your response is frustrating to me because I feel like you don't see how this is going to cause problems for me, etc."?

I find it a bit ridiculous that OP is supposed to explain to her husband how what he did made her feel instead of him being an adult and figuring out why it's a problem after she told him what the issue is and asked him to address it. He had all the information he needed to understand the issue. So instead of making it into a bigger thing, OP decided to vent on an anonymous forum to feel less alone and then will likely move past the watermelon issue.[/quote]

[url=https://time.com/7098679/is-venting-healthy/]It's already been established that venting is unhealthy.[/url]

The watermelon isn't the issue. OP and her husband have a communication problem if they can't resolve these simple matters without unhealthy venting. [/quote]

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