Lazy, careless DH stories

[Anonymous]

Clearly they aren't since I am actually a DP but by all means convince yourself there aren't multiple people who think you are completely full of it.

It does not take any convincing. The poor quality of your writing style comes through loud and clear, even when you claim to be a new poster. At least this time, you did not add "lol" to the post.

Small steps toward better writing should be your goal. And you have a long way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are.

You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

The world is harsh. Women have fought hard for the right to divorce. This is the world right now until Trump remakes the US as Gilead.

[Anonymous]

I have houseguests coming in the evening and the house needs to be cleaned. DH called my house cleaner in the morning to come and clean the house. He asked me to take it easy because he does not want me stressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Clearly they aren't since I am actually a DP but by all means convince yourself there aren't multiple people who think you are completely full of it.

It does not take any convincing. The poor quality of your writing style comes through loud and clear, even when you claim to be a new poster. At least this time, you did not add "lol" to the post.

Small steps toward better writing should be your goal. And you have a long way to go.

For someone who thinks calling a man lazy and careless is in poor taste you sure like to hurl insults at people.

I suggest you be the change you want to see in the world.

[Anonymous]

There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are. You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

So you can say my family would be better off without me based on...I'm not sure... but women shouldn't describe their lazy and careless husbands accurately?

If you reread your posts, you will find several indicators that your family would be better off. Start where you describe your husband as lazy and careless, and go from there.

Every time I have asked if you label your children in the same way as you do your husband, you have ducked the question. Do you? Do you label him in front of them? Answer that one question, truthfully.

Did your mom label your dad in the same way you advocate here? The more I ask about how you live your life, the worse it looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I think you explained well what some people have been trying to say - the husband is the first one that is responsible for creating this situation. He did a careless thing - no sane adult would think it is ok to leave a massive watermelon in the fridge without cutting it up and putting it into a container. So he engaged in a thoughtless, rude act. OP then confronted him about it and explained the problem with what he had done. Her husband did not care. At that point, OP decided that she was done trying to communicate because, honestly, if her husband couldn't figure out that she'd be upset with his actions then he's a moron (or he's lazy, careless, uncaring, whatever else). At that point OP could have explained again, and in more detail, what the issue was, but I feel like those of you acting like at that point her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways are deluding yourselves. Most likely he would have continued to not care and then gone on his trip. As a result, OP decided it wasn't worth another conversation and decided to vent anonymously and see if anyone else had any similar stories. Just let her do that and save your sanctimony for your own lives, where I'm sure you would never do something as thoughtless as what OP's husband did and you would never complain about anything your spouse did to anyone ever.

Please quote any post where a poster wrote that "her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways". Instead, there are many posts focused on the truth you are ignoring, which is: the OP made, at the very least, a very unmannerly gesture by starting a thread titled "Lazy, careless DH stories" over the way her DH left a watermelon in her fridge.

Leaving the watermelon the way he did was inconsiderate. The time the OP has spent complaining about it, and justifying the tone of her complaints, is petty to the point of being vile. And, yes, I would never start a thread calling my spouse lazy and careless, and spend hours following up on it, if she did not properly store some fruit in our fridge.

There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

This is strange logic. That means that every person in the universe is “lazy and careless” if you’re applying it to a single action, i.e. leaving a cut watermelon in the fridge. Then we’re all guilty of it by a single instance. If that’s the case, why call out DH for something that is universal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are. You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

So you can say my family would be better off without me based on...I'm not sure... but women shouldn't describe their lazy and careless husbands accurately?

If you reread your posts, you will find several indicators that your family would be better off. Start where you describe your husband as lazy and careless, and go from there.

Every time I have asked if you label your children in the same way as you do your husband, you have ducked the question. Do you? Do you label him in front of them? Answer that one question, truthfully.

Did your mom label your dad in the same way you advocate here? The more I ask about how you live your life, the worse it looks.

I actually haven't described my DH as lazy or careless here. But he certainly has done lazy and careless things. After DD was born he was absolutely a lazy and careless person. It took a lot of work on my part to convince him to behave like an adult and a parent and now we are in a much better place. You are free to opine on how much better my family would be without me, but it's a horrible, abusive thing to say about someone you've never met and know next to nothing about.

Sorry you want more specific details about my family that I am obviously not going to provide to an abusive troll. Life is unfair sometimes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are. You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

So you can say my family would be better off without me based on...I'm not sure... but women shouldn't describe their lazy and careless husbands accurately?

If you reread your posts, you will find several indicators that your family would be better off. Start where you describe your husband as lazy and careless, and go from there.

Every time I have asked if you label your children in the same way as you do your husband, you have ducked the question. Do you? Do you label him in front of them? Answer that one question, truthfully.

Did your mom label your dad in the same way you advocate here? The more I ask about how you live your life, the worse it looks.

I actually haven't described my DH as lazy or careless here. But he certainly has done lazy and careless things. After DD was born he was absolutely a lazy and careless person. It took a lot of work on my part to convince him to behave like an adult and a parent and now we are in a much better place. You are free to opine on how much better my family would be without me, but it's a horrible, abusive thing to say about someone you've never met and know next to nothing about.

Sorry you want more specific details about my family that I am obviously not going to provide to an abusive troll. Life is unfair sometimes!

Dp +1

That was a good move for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are. You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

So you can say my family would be better off without me based on...I'm not sure... but women shouldn't describe their lazy and careless husbands accurately?

If you reread your posts, you will find several indicators that your family would be better off. Start where you describe your husband as lazy and careless, and go from there.

Every time I have asked if you label your children in the same way as you do your husband, you have ducked the question. Do you? Do you label him in front of them? Answer that one question, truthfully.

Did your mom label your dad in the same way you advocate here? The more I ask about how you live your life, the worse it looks.

I actually haven't described my DH as lazy or careless here. But he certainly has done lazy and careless things. After DD was born he was absolutely a lazy and careless person. It took a lot of work on my part to convince him to behave like an adult and a parent and now we are in a much better place. You are free to opine on how much better my family would be without me, but it's a horrible, abusive thing to say about someone you've never met and know next to nothing about.

Sorry you want more specific details about my family that I am obviously not going to provide to an abusive troll. Life is unfair sometimes!

Dp +1

That was a good move for your children.

It was. One of the things that has helped a ton is knowing that many, many other women experience similar issues with their husbands. That's right, by venting to friends and on forums like this one. Knowing I am not alone makes it easier to stay calm and firm.

[Anonymous]

If you reread your posts, you will find several indicators that your family would be better off. Start where you describe your husband as lazy and careless, and go from there.

Every time I have asked if you label your children in the same way as you do your husband, you have ducked the question. Do you? Do you label him in front of them? Answer that one question, truthfully.

Did your mom label your dad in the same way you advocate here? The more I ask about how you live your life, the worse it looks.

I actually haven't described my DH as lazy or careless here. But he certainly has done lazy and careless things. After DD was born he was absolutely a lazy and careless person. It took a lot of work on my part to convince him to behave like an adult and a parent and now we are in a much better place. You are free to opine on how much better my family would be without me, but it's a horrible, abusive thing to say about someone you've never met and know next to nothing about.

Sorry you want more specific details about my family that I am obviously not going to provide to an abusive troll. Life is unfair sometimes!

We learn a great deal from your non-answers. First, as pointed out many times, this is an anonymous forum. Short of you posting your name and address (which no one has any interest in), there is not a way to find any details about you or your family. So, stop pretending this is why you are dodging what we now know to be true.

Specifically, you likely label your children. Which is sad enough, in and of itself, to let this rest with this answer. Next, it is very likely your mom labeled your dad (or, as you put it, "convinced him to behave like an adult" since this is how labeled berating your husband.) The more you post and reveal about how you treat them, the less I want to know. For their sake, I hope you do not have to "convince him [or them} to behave" frequently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If you reread your posts, you will find several indicators that your family would be better off. Start where you describe your husband as lazy and careless, and go from there.

Every time I have asked if you label your children in the same way as you do your husband, you have ducked the question. Do you? Do you label him in front of them? Answer that one question, truthfully.

Did your mom label your dad in the same way you advocate here? The more I ask about how you live your life, the worse it looks.

I actually haven't described my DH as lazy or careless here. But he certainly has done lazy and careless things. After DD was born he was absolutely a lazy and careless person. It took a lot of work on my part to convince him to behave like an adult and a parent and now we are in a much better place. You are free to opine on how much better my family would be without me, but it's a horrible, abusive thing to say about someone you've never met and know next to nothing about.

Sorry you want more specific details about my family that I am obviously not going to provide to an abusive troll. Life is unfair sometimes!

We learn a great deal from your non-answers. First, as pointed out many times, this is an anonymous forum. Short of you posting your name and address (which no one has any interest in), there is not a way to find any details about you or your family. So, stop pretending this is why you are dodging what we now know to be true.

Specifically, you likely label your children. Which is sad enough, in and of itself, to let this rest with this answer. Next, it is very likely your mom labeled your dad (or, as you put it, "convinced him to behave like an adult" since this is how labeled berating your husband.) The more you post and reveal about how you treat them, the less I want to know. For their sake, I hope you do not have to "convince him [or them} to behave" frequently.

So you don't know anything about me except that my family would be better off without me? Can you please do some serious reflection on why you think this is an okay thing to say to someone you admit you know nothing about? This is not a normal or okay thing to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are. You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

So you can say my family would be better off without me based on...I'm not sure... but women shouldn't describe their lazy and careless husbands accurately?

If you reread your posts, you will find several indicators that your family would be better off. Start where you describe your husband as lazy and careless, and go from there.

Every time I have asked if you label your children in the same way as you do your husband, you have ducked the question. Do you? Do you label him in front of them? Answer that one question, truthfully.

Did your mom label your dad in the same way you advocate here? The more I ask about how you live your life, the worse it looks.

I actually haven't described my DH as lazy or careless here. But he certainly has done lazy and careless things. After DD was born he was absolutely a lazy and careless person. It took a lot of work on my part to convince him to behave like an adult and a parent and now we are in a much better place. You are free to opine on how much better my family would be without me, but it's a horrible, abusive thing to say about someone you've never met and know next to nothing about.

Sorry you want more specific details about my family that I am obviously not going to provide to an abusive troll. Life is unfair sometimes!

Dp +1

That was a good move for your children.

It was. One of the things that has helped a ton is knowing that many, many other women experience similar issues with their husbands. That's right, by venting to friends and on forums like this one. Knowing I am not alone makes it easier to stay calm and firm.

If that works for you. Women in the culture where I'm from bury emotions, vent, issues never resolve and the cycle repeats. Psychological research suggests venting - while can be effective - is unhealthy in most cases, and alternatives are suggested. . These studies are consistent with my personal experience.

Whatever you did to convince the person you married to behave like an adult and parent, great for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are numerous posters here posting about how it is completely normal and okay to describe someone who is lazy and careless and is unwilling to cut a watermelon when asked, as lazy and careless. Don't want to be called lazy and careless? Don't be lazy and careless. And just because a woman vents online about you doesn't mean she won't "take action" and divorce your lazy ass. She may love you but she can stop loving you and from there it takes time to decide to pull the plug.

Your post conveys a great deal of harshness and judgment. Because you label someone in your family lazy and careless does not mean that they are. You would be doing your family a favor by taking action and pulling the plug.

So you can say my family would be better off without me based on...I'm not sure... but women shouldn't describe their lazy and careless husbands accurately?

If you reread your posts, you will find several indicators that your family would be better off. Start where you describe your husband as lazy and careless, and go from there.

Every time I have asked if you label your children in the same way as you do your husband, you have ducked the question. Do you? Do you label him in front of them? Answer that one question, truthfully.

Did your mom label your dad in the same way you advocate here? The more I ask about how you live your life, the worse it looks.

I actually haven't described my DH as lazy or careless here. But he certainly has done lazy and careless things. After DD was born he was absolutely a lazy and careless person. It took a lot of work on my part to convince him to behave like an adult and a parent and now we are in a much better place. You are free to opine on how much better my family would be without me, but it's a horrible, abusive thing to say about someone you've never met and know next to nothing about.

Sorry you want more specific details about my family that I am obviously not going to provide to an abusive troll. Life is unfair sometimes!

Dp +1

That was a good move for your children.

It was. One of the things that has helped a ton is knowing that many, many other women experience similar issues with their husbands. That's right, by venting to friends and on forums like this one. Knowing I am not alone makes it easier to stay calm and firm.

If that works for you. Women in the culture where I'm from bury emotions, vent, issues never resolve and the cycle repeats. Psychological research suggests venting - while can be effective - is unhealthy in most cases, and alternatives are suggested. . These studies are consistent with my personal experience.

Whatever you did to convince the person you married to behave like an adult and parent, great for you.

I tried to find the part of this study that relates to women sharing with each other brief stories of careless and lazy behavior by their spouses and couldn't find anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think you explained well what some people have been trying to say - the husband is the first one that is responsible for creating this situation. He did a careless thing - no sane adult would think it is ok to leave a massive watermelon in the fridge without cutting it up and putting it into a container. So he engaged in a thoughtless, rude act. OP then confronted him about it and explained the problem with what he had done. Her husband did not care. At that point, OP decided that she was done trying to communicate because, honestly, if her husband couldn't figure out that she'd be upset with his actions then he's a moron (or he's lazy, careless, uncaring, whatever else). At that point OP could have explained again, and in more detail, what the issue was, but I feel like those of you acting like at that point her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways are deluding yourselves. Most likely he would have continued to not care and then gone on his trip. As a result, OP decided it wasn't worth another conversation and decided to vent anonymously and see if anyone else had any similar stories. Just let her do that and save your sanctimony for your own lives, where I'm sure you would never do something as thoughtless as what OP's husband did and you would never complain about anything your spouse did to anyone ever.

Please quote any post where a poster wrote that "her husband would have miraculously seen the error of his ways". Instead, there are many posts focused on the truth you are ignoring, which is: the OP made, at the very least, a very unmannerly gesture by starting a thread titled "Lazy, careless DH stories" over the way her DH left a watermelon in her fridge.

Leaving the watermelon the way he did was inconsiderate. The time the OP has spent complaining about it, and justifying the tone of her complaints, is petty to the point of being vile. And, yes, I would never start a thread calling my spouse lazy and careless, and spend hours following up on it, if she did not properly store some fruit in our fridge.

YOUR truth, maybe. Plenty of us disagree with you and your "truth." It's really more your opinion, which you're entitled to, just like we're entitled to have a different one. So maybe next time, instead of going on a thread about lazy, careless DH stories, you can think to yourself, well, I have none of those so I'll just scroll on by. But since you're here, and you don't seem to be leaving, perhaps take a second and reflect on whether or not you have changed a single person's opinion about whether or not what OP did was "unmannerly." Because you haven't. You're just screaming into the void and multiple people think you're ridiculous. Good day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DP lol

She absolutely complains about you behind your back but she knows to make sure you don't know about it since you have such a victim complex.

Please have the courage to stop sock-puppeting. Your posts are easy to spot (lol), and you make yourself look even worse (if that is possible) when you pretend you are a new poster.

LOL. STBY.

I'm the PP you were responding to. The DP above isn't me. So yeah, they're a DP from the PP (me) you responded to. That's how this thing works.