Lazy, careless DH stories

[Anonymous]

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Just for the record: I’m OP and left for a few hours and came back to this insanity. I’m not any of the people sniping at each other. I’m looking forward to giving the watermelon to the birds in my yard and I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Just for the record: OP came here inviting people to badmouth their spouses "Lazy, careless DH stories". I mean, who could have predicted "insanity" and "sniping" would be the result of OP's share your "Lazy, careless DH stories" DCUM topic. I am floored.

I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Bravo. We can only hope to rise to OP's level of maturity.

My favorite part: I'm not any of the people sniping at each other. No, you are the person who invited people to complain about their "lazy, careless" husbands. Please do not act as if you are above what happened here.

The OP brought the pot and a giant spoon to stir the pot.

I'm disappointed this thread doesn't have more lazy and careless DH stories. I know they are out there.

[Anonymous]

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I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

You're crazy if you think DCUM is a healthy place. This is place is incredibly toxic.

It's toxic because anytime a woman says anything bad about a man, another woman attacks her and says it is all her fault (it is always the woman's fault one way or another). Venting is not toxic. You are.

DP. You sound pretty toxic yourself.

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I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

You're crazy if you think DCUM is a healthy place. This is place is incredibly toxic.

It's toxic because anytime a woman says anything bad about a man, another woman attacks her and says it is all her fault (it is always the woman's fault one way or another). Venting is not toxic. You are.

DP. You sound pretty toxic yourself.

"I know you are but what am I?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Just for the record: I’m OP and left for a few hours and came back to this insanity. I’m not any of the people sniping at each other. I’m looking forward to giving the watermelon to the birds in my yard and I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Just for the record: OP came here inviting people to badmouth their spouses "Lazy, careless DH stories". I mean, who could have predicted "insanity" and "sniping" would be the result of OP's share your "Lazy, careless DH stories" DCUM topic. I am floored.

I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Bravo. We can only hope to rise to OP's level of maturity.

My favorite part: I'm not any of the people sniping at each other. No, you are the person who invited people to complain about their "lazy, careless" husbands. Please do not act as if you are above what happened here.

The OP brought the pot and a giant spoon to stir the pot.

I'm disappointed this thread doesn't have more lazy and careless DH stories. I know they are out there.

Bet OP is too, despite her claims above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Just for the record: I’m OP and left for a few hours and came back to this insanity. I’m not any of the people sniping at each other. I’m looking forward to giving the watermelon to the birds in my yard and I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Just for the record: OP came here inviting people to badmouth their spouses "Lazy, careless DH stories". I mean, who could have predicted "insanity" and "sniping" would be the result of OP's share your "Lazy, careless DH stories" DCUM topic. I am floored.

I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Bravo. We can only hope to rise to OP's level of maturity.

My favorite part: I'm not any of the people sniping at each other. No, you are the person who invited people to complain about their "lazy, careless" husbands. Please do not act as if you are above what happened here.

The OP brought the pot and a giant spoon to stir the pot.

I'm disappointed this thread doesn't have more lazy and careless DH stories. I know they are out there.

Bet OP is too, despite her claims above.

What makes you need to believe that?

[Anonymous]

1974 when I was 1 year old my mom worked Saturdays. My dad put me, in my stroller, and in my pajamas, in the very back of his VW bug to drive around.

[Anonymous]

sad lack of stories in this thread

[Anonymous]

Ok, but here is the real question: does anybody else wash the outside of their watermelon with soap and water before cutting it? I do, ever since I saw a tiktok about melons and food borne illness. When you just cut into it without washing it first, whatever is on the outside gets transferred right to the part you eat by the knife.

Washing with soap and water helps a lot, but it is hard to hold a heavy, sudsy, slippery watermelon over the sink while you rinse it.

My DH is lazy and careless, but he is cautious about foodborne illness so as far as soapy watermelons are concerned, we are a united front.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do I have a feeling you would have also been mad if he’d gotten no watermelon at all?

-a wife

Who hacks a chunk off a giant watermelon and sticks it in the fridge? The juice will get everywhere.0

+1, that part is indefensible. And then he acknowledges that the reason he didn't deal with the rest of the watermelon is because it's time consuming and they don't have containers big enough to fit it. Meaning he was 100% aware that he was leaving an annoying problem for his wife to deal with but figured oh well, I'm leaving town, what's she going to do about it.

That's incredibly annoying regardless of the genders of the people involved.

Seriously, he couldn't have used some gallon ziplock bags and maybe frozen a bag or two?

+1. Or if they don’t have those bags, cut it up and wrap Saran Wrap around it. He decided the problem was beneath him and left it for his wife.

[Anonymous]

To reply to the actual subject of this thread:
One time I guess I said something about having a ton of laundry to do. Later, I go to put items away in my DH’s clothing drawers and what do I find but an entire sweaty outfit. I was like, WTF? So nauseating! He says he put his worn clothing back in the drawer to spare me more laundry. Thanks, I guess?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To reply to the actual subject of this thread:
One time I guess I said something about having a ton of laundry to do. Later, I go to put items away in my DH’s clothing drawers and what do I find but an entire sweaty outfit. I was like, WTF? So nauseating! He says he put his worn clothing back in the drawer to spare me more laundry. Thanks, I guess?

I snorted out loud. Are you serious? Is he insane? The fact that there was a thought process behind this thoughtless act is incredible. Thank you for the laugh, though!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To reply to the actual subject of this thread:
One time I guess I said something about having a ton of laundry to do. Later, I go to put items away in my DH’s clothing drawers and what do I find but an entire sweaty outfit. I was like, WTF? So nauseating! He says he put his worn clothing back in the drawer to spare me more laundry. Thanks, I guess?

I snorted out loud. Are you serious? Is he insane? The fact that there was a thought process behind this thoughtless act is incredible. Thank you for the laugh, though!

I’m serious, unfortunately! This was years ago but I think I shrieked when I found the sweaty clothes. It was very clear I didn’t consider it a favor.

[Anonymous]

At least most of these men have jobs, leave the house once in a while and go grocery shopping. Mine did none of these things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Just for the record: I’m OP and left for a few hours and came back to this insanity. I’m not any of the people sniping at each other. I’m looking forward to giving the watermelon to the birds in my yard and I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Just for the record: OP came here inviting people to badmouth their spouses "Lazy, careless DH stories". I mean, who could have predicted "insanity" and "sniping" would be the result of OP's share your "Lazy, careless DH stories" DCUM topic. I am floored.

I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

Bravo. We can only hope to rise to OP's level of maturity.

My favorite part: I'm not any of the people sniping at each other. No, you are the person who invited people to complain about their "lazy, careless" husbands. Please do not act as if you are above what happened here.

The OP brought the pot and a giant spoon to stir the pot.

I'm disappointed this thread doesn't have more lazy and careless DH stories. I know they are out there.

+1

[Anonymous]

My DH likes to put the same socks on DD for several days. When he picks her stuff for a trip (yes, let's give him a medal for packing!) he doesn't pack socks as he just plans to use the ones she is wearing for the whole trip.