Husband asked me to look more presentable

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Why can’t you wear some of your maternity clothes as well?

[Anonymous]

I couldn’t live with someone that uptight.

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OP gets DCUM passes because of postpartum and disc but good grief. If her spouse said "presentable" instead of "you reek" they get a star.
OP if you can sit somewhere in the tub or shower and have a handheld let spouse help you shower. You just wash the pubes and ass and they do the rest. That's what we did after surgery.

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Anonymous wrote:OP gets DCUM passes because of postpartum and disc but good grief. If her spouse said "presentable" instead of "you reek" they get a star.
OP if you can sit somewhere in the tub or shower and have a handheld let spouse help you shower. You just wash the pubes and ass and they do the rest. That's what we did after surgery.

What you call a "pass" other people just call compassion.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like everyone is focusing exclusively on the fact that OP is postpartum and ignoring that she has a serious physical injury on top of that. I’ve been postpartum (with multiples!) and had the injury she has (not when I was postpartum), and the injury alone is debilitating. This isn’t a mental health issue. OP would be incapacitated by this injury even if she’d never had a baby.

I don’t think people understand how painful a herniated disc is. Taking care of my baby is all I can physically handle. I’m also in more pain because I have refused to take hardcore pain meds for more than a week. I’m relying on OTC and ice/heat therapy. I go to physical therapy once I’m cleared at 6 weeks.

I ordered more clothes and a cheap shower chair to make sure I shower daily. I showered. My husband washed laundry yesterday. He said he will try to be more in top of it.

That's just stupid

If she’s talking about opioids it’s really not. The risk of addiction goes way up if you use them for more than a week. Plus the constipation will make you wish you were dead.
But double Motrin and lidocaine patches will help a lot. I’m the one that also suggested flexeril as a less addictive option but that can make it difficult to safely care for an infant—-some people are fine on it but for othets it can make you fall asleep in an instant. She should be talking to her doctor about her pain level but I don’t blame her at lall for avoiding opioids. I wonder if they could also do a nerve block or steroid injection or something like that. She should ask for a referral to a pain specialist — one good thing that came out of the opioid crisis is a whole new approach to different types of pain management and treatment.

Also there’s no shame in sponge baths and dry shampoo. That’s what people with medical conditions do.

+1. I stopped my pain meds after a couple of days because of addiction in my extended family and I didn’t want it to hamper my supply. Luckily I had tons of help so other than the pain, my life wasn’t impacted. Worth it to me.

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Anonymous wrote:You can outsource things for not expensive. Use one of the wash and fold services that picks up and delivers. Get a cleaning advice e in to clean and do your bed. If you really have no clean clothes, use instacart or target pickup and get 7 cheap nursing dresses. Certainly you can do laundry once a week. You can definitely shower without having to have anyone else there. Just put the baby in a bouncy seat or lay down in a swaddle for a nap. I am not saying you’re depressed, but wearing dirty clothes or the same clothes you’re sleeping in is just plain gross. I can’t even imagine your hair. I have 4 kids and had a lengthy hospital stay with my twins. You just have to power through this and know it’ll be tough for another month or so but don’t let the basics slide to the side.

What do you mean by my hair? You do know most people only wash their hair a couple of times a week? I only wash my hair 1-2 times a week. Maybe once more if it’s very hot and I’m very sweating. It’s not good to wash your hair daily. I brush my hair each day and put in up in a ponytail. My hair isn’t greasy or gross.

For someone who is too busy to shower, you seem to have plenty of time to argue with every single person who has posted on here.

This!!

+100. OP is justifying bathing 4 times over the course of 2.5 weeks – which would be a shower and change of clothes on average every 4.5 days. JFC. But she’s “not a smelly person.”

It’s not about her being postpartum. It’s not about the injury. It’s that OP thinks that this is OK and was looking for justification for it.

OP, if you are depressed, please please get some help.

If you’re not depressed, this is taking “letting yourself go” to a whole new level.

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Anonymous wrote:You can outsource things for not expensive. Use one of the wash and fold services that picks up and delivers. Get a cleaning advice e in to clean and do your bed. If you really have no clean clothes, use instacart or target pickup and get 7 cheap nursing dresses. Certainly you can do laundry once a week. You can definitely shower without having to have anyone else there. Just put the baby in a bouncy seat or lay down in a swaddle for a nap. I am not saying you’re depressed, but wearing dirty clothes or the same clothes you’re sleeping in is just plain gross. I can’t even imagine your hair. I have 4 kids and had a lengthy hospital stay with my twins. You just have to power through this and know it’ll be tough for another month or so but don’t let the basics slide to the side.

What do you mean by my hair? You do know most people only wash their hair a couple of times a week? I only wash my hair 1-2 times a week. Maybe once more if it’s very hot and I’m very sweating. It’s not good to wash your hair daily. I brush my hair each day and put in up in a ponytail. My hair isn’t greasy or gross.

For someone who is too busy to shower, you seem to have plenty of time to argue with every single person who has posted on here.

This!!

+100. OP is justifying bathing 4 times over the course of 2.5 weeks – which would be a shower and change of clothes on average every 4.5 days. JFC. But she’s “not a smelly person.”

It’s not about her being postpartum. It’s not about the injury. It’s that OP thinks that this is OK and was looking for justification for it.

OP, if you are depressed, please please get some help.

If you’re not depressed, this is taking “letting yourself go” to a whole new level.

I didn’t know this thread was still going.

I’m not depressed. I had a very bad herniated disc and a c-section. I was in immense pain because I didn’t want to take narcotics and had to rely on Advil and Tylenol.

I’m much better. I’ve been showering once a day now. The shower chair wasn’t working so we got a detachable shower wand and I sit on the bench and use that. I’m changing clothes daily and feeling back to my old self more.

The extra help from a sitter has been amazing. I’ve been able to focus on resting. I’m still not fully healed from the c-section but I start physical therapy soon and hope that will help heal it.