Husband asked me to look more presentable

[Anonymous]

My husband has asked me to look more presentable around our home. I'm newly postpartum with my first, wifh zero interest in keeping up my appearance. It won't be forever - it just the season of life I'm in. I don't really know how to respond Nevins being devastated by his request. How do I approach handling this sensitive issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has asked me to look more presentable around our home. I'm newly postpartum with my first, wifh zero interest in keeping up my appearance. It won't be forever - it just the season of life I'm in. I don't really know how to respond Nevins being devastated by his request. How do I approach handling this sensitive issue?

It's not a "sensitive issue." You said you don't want to, so tell him no.

[Anonymous]

Can't you just say that you are PP, WFH and are overwhelmed. It won't be forever. So some grace would be appreciated.

Or, you can just tell him to F off.

[Anonymous]

When he pushes a watermelon out of an orifice the size of a lemon and then wears a tux promptly after, then and only then, will he have the right to ask you to level up. Until then, he needs to appreciate that you nurtured a human being with YOUR BODY and brought that human into the world, and you are now in the 4th trimester and recovering. So he needs to be quiet and go wash dishes with his mouth shut.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to buzz off!

[Anonymous]

Ask him to be less of an ass

[Anonymous]

How on earth do you marry these guys? This is not normal.

[Anonymous]

How old is the baby? This seems unreasonable unless it’s really extreme. Like if the baby is six months old and you’re showing once a week. He might have a point. If the baby is less than a month, he should not be doing anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't you just say that you are PP, WFH and are overwhelmed. It won't be forever. So some grace would be appreciated.

Or, you can just tell him to F off.

We are 1 month in and I’m not back to work.

My husband has always had some issues with hygiene. He's super hygiene - showers 2-3 times a day. I’ve always been clean but the basics like showering and changing my clothes has fallen to the bottom of my list. I admit that I don’t shower much these days or change my clothes unless I do. I try to shower frequently but it’s hard and I don’t have the energy for it most days. I will throw pajamas on each time. My husband wants me to shower daily and at least get dressed in real clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is the baby? This seems unreasonable unless it’s really extreme. Like if the baby is six months old and you’re showing once a week. He might have a point. If the baby is less than a month, he should not be doing anything.

A little over 1 month. I think I’ve showered maybe 4 times since giving birth. I will wear the same clothes until I shower again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is the baby? This seems unreasonable unless it’s really extreme. Like if the baby is six months old and you’re showing once a week. He might have a point. If the baby is less than a month, he should not be doing anything.

A little over 1 month. I think I’ve showered maybe 4 times since giving birth. I will wear the same clothes until I shower again.

Oh gosh, that sounds like depression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is the baby? This seems unreasonable unless it’s really extreme. Like if the baby is six months old and you’re showing once a week. He might have a point. If the baby is less than a month, he should not be doing anything.

A little over 1 month. I think I’ve showered maybe 4 times since giving birth. I will wear the same clothes until I shower again.

Oh gosh, that sounds like depression.

Not depression. I have a newborn and had a c-section and have a disc herniation exacerbated by pregnancy and labor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is the baby? This seems unreasonable unless it’s really extreme. Like if the baby is six months old and you’re showing once a week. He might have a point. If the baby is less than a month, he should not be doing anything.

A little over 1 month. I think I’ve showered maybe 4 times since giving birth. I will wear the same clothes until I shower again.

Hon, you need professional help. This is not normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is the baby? This seems unreasonable unless it’s really extreme. Like if the baby is six months old and you’re showing once a week. He might have a point. If the baby is less than a month, he should not be doing anything.

A little over 1 month. I think I’ve showered maybe 4 times since giving birth. I will wear the same clothes until I shower again.

Hon, you need professional help. This is not normal.

+1

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s unreasonable of him to want you to increase your frequency of showering to more than weekly. At least try for every other day and wear clean clothes and underwear daily.