I’m 34 and I have to ask permission for my SO to stay the night….

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to stay in this house with such a creepy uncle?

Aunt and Uncle are paying. They have religious convictions about unmarried people sharing a bed or roof, unclear which. Aunt is asked a question that she is justifiably concerned might not go over well with husband. She says she has to check with him. How is uncle now creepy??

If you don’t like the rules - knowing in advance what their convictions are - then get a hotel room.

None of this is hard and none of it warrants name calling the uncle.

they are PAYING THIS YEAR, because it's their turn. So they aren't any more entitled to the house than anyone else who is in the rotation and pays when it's their turn. Why are some of you incapable of reading??????????????????

I’m capable of reading just fine. THIS YEAR they are paying. OP isn’t complaining about another year. The point stands.

You are laughably dense Auntie
Just because they / you are paying this year doesn't mean they/ you are entitled to set rules that impacts the collective group.

What’s an auntie? Anyway yes literally it does, that’s why she asked.

No, she asked out of respect for her aunt. Nothing to do with money.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is drip trolling, slightly modifying the story to keep the drama going.

Have to agree with this having seen her updates. Latest ones are a very different story than original post.

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Anonymous wrote:Marry him and this wouldn't be an issue. Because as you said, you're 34.

Yeah, OP should totally marry someone to make her creepy uncle happy a couple of times a year. Seems like a good reason

No, but OP should start thinking about her future before it lands on her head.

Because you decided that for your life the pinnacle of happiness and accomplishment is walking down the isle so now everyone should think that marriage is the end all be all?

Sounds like OP is living her life the way she sees fit and doesn't need you to tell her how she should be doing it.

Lol, yes, a comment on a board is me "telling her." Come on. But if she wants to act like a teen and enjoy the freedom that comes with being single, she doesn't get to complain about being treated like one. Keep in mind, she's not the cool single woman with her own life. She's tenuously attached to a man.

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My family has this rule too, but I have to imagine it would have expired at age 30 or so?

I will say that when you start dating young, your SOs are really treated poorly (like sleeping bags!). I still am a bit bitter about how I was treated. I get that I was in my 20s, but man. My extended family rolled out the red carpet for SOs when they were older.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is drip trolling, slightly modifying the story to keep the drama going.

Have to agree with this having seen her updates. Latest ones are a very different story than original post.

What did I say that was different than the original post?

I’ve consistently said that 1)i only asked about him coming not staying in the same bed 2) the younger ones have had their girlfriends come on family trips
3) they’re Christian but not religious - people were saying they were traditional. I said they’re not because of their unconventional marriage

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stay in a hotel.

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Anonymous wrote:Marry him and this wouldn't be an issue. Because as you said, you're 34.

Yeah, OP should totally marry someone to make her creepy uncle happy a couple of times a year. Seems like a good reason

No, but OP should start thinking about her future before it lands on her head.

Because you decided that for your life the pinnacle of happiness and accomplishment is walking down the isle so now everyone should think that marriage is the end all be all?

Sounds like OP is living her life the way she sees fit and doesn't need you to tell her how she should be doing it.

Lol, yes, a comment on a board is me "telling her." Come on. But if she wants to act like a teen and enjoy the freedom that comes with being single, she doesn't get to complain about being treated like one. Keep in mind, she's not the cool single woman with her own life. She's tenuously attached to a man.

I think you are trying a little too hard to paint her as some sad spinster just because she chooses to not get married just yet. I really feel sad for you that you are so miserable and choose to lash out at random people on this forum. She didn't ask for your advice on her marital status. No one did. No, the family doesn't get to treat her like a child because she didn't get married yet. You are as ridiculous as her uncle.

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Anonymous wrote:Marry him and this wouldn't be an issue. Because as you said, you're 34.

Yeah, OP should totally marry someone to make her creepy uncle happy a couple of times a year. Seems like a good reason

No, but OP should start thinking about her future before it lands on her head.

Because you decided that for your life the pinnacle of happiness and accomplishment is walking down the isle so now everyone should think that marriage is the end all be all?

Sounds like OP is living her life the way she sees fit and doesn't need you to tell her how she should be doing it.

Lol, yes, a comment on a board is me "telling her." Come on. But if she wants to act like a teen and enjoy the freedom that comes with being single, she doesn't get to complain about being treated like one. Keep in mind, she's not the cool single woman with her own life. She's tenuously attached to a man.

I think you are trying a little too hard to paint her as some sad spinster just because she chooses to not get married just yet. I really feel sad for you that you are so miserable and choose to lash out at random people on this forum. She didn't ask for your advice on her marital status. No one did. No, the family doesn't get to treat her like a child because she didn't get married yet. You are as ridiculous as her uncle.

No, "spinsters" are fun women with fantastic lives that don't revolve around or in most cases even include men. They're awesome! OP literally has a boyfriend, like a higher schooler. They most certainly CAN treat her like one.

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Anonymous wrote:Marry him and this wouldn't be an issue. Because as you said, you're 34.

Yeah, OP should totally marry someone to make her creepy uncle happy a couple of times a year. Seems like a good reason

No, but OP should start thinking about her future before it lands on her head.

Because you decided that for your life the pinnacle of happiness and accomplishment is walking down the isle so now everyone should think that marriage is the end all be all?

Sounds like OP is living her life the way she sees fit and doesn't need you to tell her how she should be doing it.

Lol, yes, a comment on a board is me "telling her." Come on. But if she wants to act like a teen and enjoy the freedom that comes with being single, she doesn't get to complain about being treated like one. Keep in mind, she's not the cool single woman with her own life. She's tenuously attached to a man.

I think you are trying a little too hard to paint her as some sad spinster just because she chooses to not get married just yet. I really feel sad for you that you are so miserable and choose to lash out at random people on this forum. She didn't ask for your advice on her marital status. No one did. No, the family doesn't get to treat her like a child because she didn't get married yet. You are as ridiculous as her uncle.

No, "spinsters" are fun women with fantastic lives that don't revolve around or in most cases even include men. They're awesome! OP literally has a boyfriend, like a higher schooler. They most certainly CAN treat her like one.

Again, no one asked for your opinion on that, you miserable twat.

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Op, I come from a similarly ridiculous religious family, and at 47, I am reporting from the field that it gets better as you get older and those relatives start dying off. I do not wish death on anyone, but you will be amazed at how much more of yourself you become once their judging eyes are no longer.

I know the wound of your mom's death is still fresh, but if I were you, I would start the breaking away process this year. Don't let your aunt's husband decide anything for you; force them to see you as an adult or don't attend.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is drip trolling, slightly modifying the story to keep the drama going.

Have to agree with this having seen her updates. Latest ones are a very different story than original post.

What did I say that was different than the original post?

I’ve consistently said that 1)i only asked about him coming not staying in the same bed 2) the younger ones have had their girlfriends come on family trips
3) they’re Christian but not religious - people were saying they were traditional. I said they’re not because of their unconventional marriage

Your original post made it seem like this was about sleeping in the same bed in a Christian house. It’s actually about inviting someone extra over to a rental house you didn’t pay for, and your aunt saying “ask your uncle like your nephews did.” It had nothing to do with their religion, nothing to do with the beds. You were trying to make it out to be something it wasnt.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is drip trolling, slightly modifying the story to keep the drama going.

Have to agree with this having seen her updates. Latest ones are a very different story than original post.

What did I say that was different than the original post?

I’ve consistently said that 1)i only asked about him coming not staying in the same bed 2) the younger ones have had their girlfriends come on family trips
3) they’re Christian but not religious - people were saying they were traditional. I said they’re not because of their unconventional marriage

Your original post made it seem like this was about sleeping in the same bed in a Christian house. It’s actually about inviting someone extra over to a rental house you didn’t pay for, and your aunt saying “ask your uncle like your nephews did.” It had nothing to do with their religion, nothing to do with the beds. You were trying to make it out to be something it wasnt.

No, it didn't. You just can't read.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is drip trolling, slightly modifying the story to keep the drama going.

Have to agree with this having seen her updates. Latest ones are a very different story than original post.

What did I say that was different than the original post?

I’ve consistently said that 1)i only asked about him coming not staying in the same bed 2) the younger ones have had their girlfriends come on family trips
3) they’re Christian but not religious - people were saying they were traditional. I said they’re not because of their unconventional marriage

Your original post made it seem like this was about sleeping in the same bed in a Christian house. It’s actually about inviting someone extra over to a rental house you didn’t pay for, and your aunt saying “ask your uncle like your nephews did.” It had nothing to do with their religion, nothing to do with the beds. You were trying to make it out to be something it wasnt.

No, it didn't. You just can't read.

I can read just fine.
“So knowing their no sleeping in the same bed rule, out of courtesy, I contacted my aunt ( the one who paid for the house this year) to ask if it’s okay to bring my SO just for one night (we have the house for a week).“

This did NOT say “I made sure to tell her SO would be sleeping in another room.”

Why mention religion at all? The obvious message is that aunt and uncle are religious hypocrites who are acting weird and that turns out not to be the issue at all.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is drip trolling, slightly modifying the story to keep the drama going.

Have to agree with this having seen her updates. Latest ones are a very different story than original post.

What did I say that was different than the original post?

I’ve consistently said that 1)i only asked about him coming not staying in the same bed 2) the younger ones have had their girlfriends come on family trips
3) they’re Christian but not religious - people were saying they were traditional. I said they’re not because of their unconventional marriage

Your original post made it seem like this was about sleeping in the same bed in a Christian house. It’s actually about inviting someone extra over to a rental house you didn’t pay for, and your aunt saying “ask your uncle like your nephews did.” It had nothing to do with their religion, nothing to do with the beds. You were trying to make it out to be something it wasnt.

No, it didn't. You just can't read.

More dripping to keep the story going. Whatever, calling troll on this one.

[Anonymous]

You are 34 and have not figured out you can stay at the hotel??