My kid talks to adults too much

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I am starting to wonder if OP is a troll. No kid so socially awkward with adults is a complete success with peers. NOT buying it.

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Anonymous wrote:Long story short, he reads well above his grade level and have some niche interests that he'll happily discuss with adults all day long. No Asperger's or anything, just a kid who loves to read and loves discussing what he's learned with people who get it, which most of his peers do not. E.g., last month we hired a fishing charter, and he spent most of the time talking to the captain about barques vs. brigantines. Or he'll chat up the poor deadheading pilot next to him on the plane about what kind of approach he thinks we might be flying in this weather. We've had long discussions about how adults usually want quiet and he needs to be very aware for hints they're done talking, but it doesn't seem to be sticking. "But my friends don't know anything about things like this." He will stop talking to someone who appears to be done, but next time he runs across an adult who seems like they might know something about something he's into, he strikes up a conversation again. He's only 10, and adults hate it. Any advice?

I haven’t read all the responses but your penultimate sentence is an important one: adults hate it. Not something you suspect or fear, but something you know. Please work with him to fix this. It’s concerning that you know it’s an issue and he’s on a fishing charter and spends most of the time talking to the captain. Considering you know adults hate this, why are you allowing it? Was he not fishing? You know enough to tell him adults want quiet but seem to be incapable of stopping him from incessant chatter - but for an occasional instruction beforehand about how he shouldn’t do this.

Have a secret signal which he knows means stop. Say: 2 more minutes and we wrap up this conversation and go sit down. Throw in a closer: “let’s thank Captain Hook for chatting with us and head back to the front of the boat to check out what’s happening there.”

My friend’s daughter is like this. It IS annoying when adults are trying to have a conversation and we are repeatedly interrupted by her when all other kids are engaged doing something else. You acknowledge it’s annoying - so help put an end to it. Believe it or now, your son NEEDS more socializing with his own peer group.

We prefer small charters...the captain acts as the mate while fishing. So yes, DS is fishing and talking.

You completely ignored everything else that I wrote. Only decided to respond to the one thing that you think helps your position to continue to not intervene. Sounds like you don’t need advice.

I was on a plane without reading glasses, sue me.

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Anonymous wrote:Has your child been homeschooled? I homeschooled my kids for a year pre-COVID when they were in 5th and 7th. It drive my kids bonkers that so many homeschooled kids were like this. We would go to activities such as to a museum where there was a guide. So many kids wanted to talk over the guide, interrupt the guide, or wanted to comment on what the guide was saying.

Many of the parents never corrected their kids because I got the sense they were proud that they thought their kids were so clever when it was so obvious the guides were getting annoyed and it was taking too long for the guide to say their spiel.

Yes! So many homeschooled kids are like this.

I think it is because they don't have to wait to get called on to answer, they can engage their parent or tutor one on one for hours on the subjects that interests them. I disliked waiting around for my kids that year that I homeschooled them because inevitably I would be looking at something in the museum or asking the guide a quick question and a homeschooled kid would interrupt and want to talk and talk and talk.

Wild that the person who isn't institutionalized and dehumanized is the one who gets pathologized. Worry about the kids in school who are banned from having normal human relationships, not the thriving homeschooler.

Please, I bet you to stop. With every new comment you make (and yes, it’s you), the secondhand embarrassment on your behalf deepens.

That wasn't me, the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Long story short, he reads well above his grade level and have some niche interests that he'll happily discuss with adults all day long. No Asperger's or anything, just a kid who loves to read and loves discussing what he's learned with people who get it, which most of his peers do not. E.g., last month we hired a fishing charter, and he spent most of the time talking to the captain about barques vs. brigantines. Or he'll chat up the poor deadheading pilot next to him on the plane about what kind of approach he thinks we might be flying in this weather. We've had long discussions about how adults usually want quiet and he needs to be very aware for hints they're done talking, but it doesn't seem to be sticking. "But my friends don't know anything about things like this." He will stop talking to someone who appears to be done, but next time he runs across an adult who seems like they might know something about something he's into, he strikes up a conversation again. He's only 10, and adults hate it. Any advice?

I'm a pilot. If this happened to me I'd be *very* annoyed. It's not cute, and I definitely have no interest in discussing anything like this with a child whose parent thinks it's cute that he knows so much.

OP knows it's not cute.

Also, I'm a pilot and I'm smart enough to realize we're in a world of hurt right now, and getting the younger generations interested is the only thing that'll save our industry. Perhaps you need to lighten up (or smarten up) and learn to mentor for ten minutes. Would it kill you to tell a kid the ceilings are too low for an RNAV today?

This kid isn't going to be a pilot any more than he's going to be a fisherman or whatever his obsession du jour is. I do plenty of mentoring, although largely of other female pilots since I was lacking that when I started flying in 1985. Also, please point out to me where I said I would not talk to him. Go ahead, I'll wait.

Lol! He flies our 172 from the right seat! Why do you think he won't end up at least a private pilot?

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Anonymous wrote:It's crazy that OP comes on and tells a story abot how awkward OP feels watching DC having a normal human conversation, and so many people are diagnosing the person who is comfortable having a conversation as the one who is lacking social skills.

OP should be watching and learning from the kid.

lol right? I don’t know if the kid is NT or not, but it’s ok to have conversations, ok to be bored, ok to bore someone … it’s how kids learn. even kids on the spectrum.

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Anonymous wrote:Long story short, he reads well above his grade level and have some niche interests that he'll happily discuss with adults all day long. No Asperger's or anything, just a kid who loves to read and loves discussing what he's learned with people who get it, which most of his peers do not. E.g., last month we hired a fishing charter, and he spent most of the time talking to the captain about barques vs. brigantines. Or he'll chat up the poor deadheading pilot next to him on the plane about what kind of approach he thinks we might be flying in this weather. We've had long discussions about how adults usually want quiet and he needs to be very aware for hints they're done talking, but it doesn't seem to be sticking. "But my friends don't know anything about things like this." He will stop talking to someone who appears to be done, but next time he runs across an adult who seems like they might know something about something he's into, he strikes up a conversation again. He's only 10, and adults hate it. Any advice?

I haven’t read all the responses but your penultimate sentence is an important one: adults hate it. Not something you suspect or fear, but something you know. Please work with him to fix this. It’s concerning that you know it’s an issue and he’s on a fishing charter and spends most of the time talking to the captain. Considering you know adults hate this, why are you allowing it? Was he not fishing? You know enough to tell him adults want quiet but seem to be incapable of stopping him from incessant chatter - but for an occasional instruction beforehand about how he shouldn’t do this.

Have a secret signal which he knows means stop. Say: 2 more minutes and we wrap up this conversation and go sit down. Throw in a closer: “let’s thank Captain Hook for chatting with us and head back to the front of the boat to check out what’s happening there.”

My friend’s daughter is like this. It IS annoying when adults are trying to have a conversation and we are repeatedly interrupted by her when all other kids are engaged doing something else. You acknowledge it’s annoying - so help put an end to it. Believe it or now, your son NEEDS more socializing with his own peer group.

We prefer small charters...the captain acts as the mate while fishing. So yes, DS is fishing and talking.

You completely ignored everything else that I wrote. Only decided to respond to the one thing that you think helps your position to continue to not intervene. Sounds like you don’t need advice.

I was on a plane without reading glasses, sue me.

Ok so you’re off the plane now and still ignoring everything else I wrote. Good luck to you and your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:It's crazy that OP comes on and tells a story abot how awkward OP feels watching DC having a normal human conversation, and so many people are diagnosing the person who is comfortable having a conversation as the one who is lacking social skills.

OP should be watching and learning from the kid.

lol right? I don’t know if the kid is NT or not, but it’s ok to have conversations, ok to be bored, ok to bore someone … it’s how kids learn. even kids on the spectrum.

Not completely true. If you believe your kid is annoying others, you teach them not to do this. I guess it depends how you define “ok.” I wouldn’t be okay with this.

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Anonymous wrote:I am starting to wonder if OP is a troll. No kid so socially awkward with adults is a complete success with peers. NOT buying it.

I agree. No way this kid is completely normal with kids his age. They also find him annoying or odd.

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Such an overblown thread.

I believe you all are genuinely upset at OP for not reigning in her kid.

On the Teens and Teens forum no less, where the problems run the gamut.

Let the kid talk on. He'll probably figure it out sooner or later with no lasting damage to the adults he comes in contact with.

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Anonymous wrote:Such an overblown thread.

I believe you all are genuinely upset at OP for not reigning in her kid.

On the Teens and Teens forum no less, where the problems run the gamut.

Let the kid talk on. He'll probably figure it out sooner or later with no lasting damage to the adults he comes in contact with.

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We are upset she came here seeking advice knowing this is a problem. She said it annoys adults then tried to backtrack saying she just assumes that. But it’s more than that: her title confirms it and she’s talked to her son about it yet he still does it. People gave her advice and she completely ignored it. Why post seeking input if you already think you’re right? Lasting damage to the adults? No. But will he be one people go through his life and try to avoid? Yes. She doesn’t seem to really care about fixing it so, good luck to her.

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Go to Quora.

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Anonymous wrote:Long story short, he reads well above his grade level and have some niche interests that he'll happily discuss with adults all day long. No Asperger's or anything, just a kid who loves to read and loves discussing what he's learned with people who get it, which most of his peers do not. E.g., last month we hired a fishing charter, and he spent most of the time talking to the captain about barques vs. brigantines. Or he'll chat up the poor deadheading pilot next to him on the plane about what kind of approach he thinks we might be flying in this weather. We've had long discussions about how adults usually want quiet and he needs to be very aware for hints they're done talking, but it doesn't seem to be sticking. "But my friends don't know anything about things like this." He will stop talking to someone who appears to be done, but next time he runs across an adult who seems like they might know something about something he's into, he strikes up a conversation again. He's only 10, and adults hate it. Any advice?

I haven’t read all the responses but your penultimate sentence is an important one: adults hate it. Not something you suspect or fear, but something you know. Please work with him to fix this. It’s concerning that you know it’s an issue and he’s on a fishing charter and spends most of the time talking to the captain. Considering you know adults hate this, why are you allowing it? Was he not fishing? You know enough to tell him adults want quiet but seem to be incapable of stopping him from incessant chatter - but for an occasional instruction beforehand about how he shouldn’t do this.

Have a secret signal which he knows means stop. Say: 2 more minutes and we wrap up this conversation and go sit down. Throw in a closer: “let’s thank Captain Hook for chatting with us and head back to the front of the boat to check out what’s happening there.”

My friend’s daughter is like this. It IS annoying when adults are trying to have a conversation and we are repeatedly interrupted by her when all other kids are engaged doing something else. You acknowledge it’s annoying - so help put an end to it. Believe it or now, your son NEEDS more socializing with his own peer group.

We prefer small charters...the captain acts as the mate while fishing. So yes, DS is fishing and talking.

You completely ignored everything else that I wrote. Only decided to respond to the one thing that you think helps your position to continue to not intervene. Sounds like you don’t need advice.

I was on a plane without reading glasses, sue me.

Ok so you’re off the plane now and still ignoring everything else I wrote. Good luck to you and your kid.

I was driving home, and to be frank, you bore me. I can 100% say you're wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Such an overblown thread.

I believe you all are genuinely upset at OP for not reigning in her kid.

On the Teens and Teens forum no less, where the problems run the gamut.

Let the kid talk on. He'll probably figure it out sooner or later with no lasting damage to the adults he comes in contact with.

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We are upset she came here seeking advice knowing this is a problem. She said it annoys adults then tried to backtrack saying she just assumes that. But it’s more than that: her title confirms it and she’s talked to her son about it yet he still does it. People gave her advice and she completely ignored it. Why post seeking input if you already think you’re right? Lasting damage to the adults? No. But will he be one people go through his life and try to avoid? Yes. She doesn’t seem to really care about fixing it so, good luck to her.

You’re too invested.

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Anonymous wrote:Long story short, he reads well above his grade level and have some niche interests that he'll happily discuss with adults all day long. No Asperger's or anything, just a kid who loves to read and loves discussing what he's learned with people who get it, which most of his peers do not. E.g., last month we hired a fishing charter, and he spent most of the time talking to the captain about barques vs. brigantines. Or he'll chat up the poor deadheading pilot next to him on the plane about what kind of approach he thinks we might be flying in this weather. We've had long discussions about how adults usually want quiet and he needs to be very aware for hints they're done talking, but it doesn't seem to be sticking. "But my friends don't know anything about things like this." He will stop talking to someone who appears to be done, but next time he runs across an adult who seems like they might know something about something he's into, he strikes up a conversation again. He's only 10, and adults hate it. Any advice?

This is literally "Asperger's. "
Yes, autism

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Anonymous wrote:Long story short, he reads well above his grade level and have some niche interests that he'll happily discuss with adults all day long. No Asperger's or anything, just a kid who loves to read and loves discussing what he's learned with people who get it, which most of his peers do not. E.g., last month we hired a fishing charter, and he spent most of the time talking to the captain about barques vs. brigantines. Or he'll chat up the poor deadheading pilot next to him on the plane about what kind of approach he thinks we might be flying in this weather. We've had long discussions about how adults usually want quiet and he needs to be very aware for hints they're done talking, but it doesn't seem to be sticking. "But my friends don't know anything about things like this." He will stop talking to someone who appears to be done, but next time he runs across an adult who seems like they might know something about something he's into, he strikes up a conversation again. He's only 10, and adults hate it. Any advice?

I haven’t read all the responses but your penultimate sentence is an important one: adults hate it. Not something you suspect or fear, but something you know. Please work with him to fix this. It’s concerning that you know it’s an issue and he’s on a fishing charter and spends most of the time talking to the captain. Considering you know adults hate this, why are you allowing it? Was he not fishing? You know enough to tell him adults want quiet but seem to be incapable of stopping him from incessant chatter - but for an occasional instruction beforehand about how he shouldn’t do this.

Have a secret signal which he knows means stop. Say: 2 more minutes and we wrap up this conversation and go sit down. Throw in a closer: “let’s thank Captain Hook for chatting with us and head back to the front of the boat to check out what’s happening there.”

My friend’s daughter is like this. It IS annoying when adults are trying to have a conversation and we are repeatedly interrupted by her when all other kids are engaged doing something else. You acknowledge it’s annoying - so help put an end to it. Believe it or now, your son NEEDS more socializing with his own peer group.

We prefer small charters...the captain acts as the mate while fishing. So yes, DS is fishing and talking.

You completely ignored everything else that I wrote. Only decided to respond to the one thing that you think helps your position to continue to not intervene. Sounds like you don’t need advice.

I was on a plane without reading glasses, sue me.

Ok so you’re off the plane now and still ignoring everything else I wrote. Good luck to you and your kid.

I was driving home, and to be frank, you bore me. I can 100% say you're wrong.

My sister is autistic. She's middle aged. She has 3 children. She is highly educated. She works in the field of psychology. She's clearly autistic but she lacks the mirror that would ever allow her to recognize this fact. It is abundantly clear to all around her though.