Good friend canceled on us to be with her SO

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know. If I was your friend, I would have chosen to go with my BF to the Lake House as he paid for it.

I would also have left my house keys with a neighbor, installed a ring lock that can be remotely opened, or have a combination lock etc, so that my friends would have stayed at my house and did not have to pay for NY rental.

I mean, y'all are angry about not having a place to stay, correct?

People keep making this about a “free place to stay” but I don’t get that vibe from OP at all given that she was content to hang out at the house with her friends vs. use the house as a crash pad as she gallivants all around NY.

I think we’re saying this because it seems like they’re always going to the friends house. If it was about them getting together someone else could’ve offered their home but OP didn’t mention that. It kind of seems like they’re using this friend as the fun/get away house in the city. No one wants to host all the time and as a PP said twice in 2 months is quite a bit and it’s exhausting. If this friend can’t host then the friends can’t get together? It’s too much and it seems like they’re using the friend whether they mean to or not.

Well, apparently OP lives in the boonies. Her friend likely doesn’t want to go there.

And? Her friend likely doesn’t want to host every time either, so I’m sure she’d go down the country one in a while.

So the friend can stop offering to host. But backing out after doing so and doing so in a cowardly way is not a good look.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. If I was your friend, I would have chosen to go with my BF to the Lake House as he paid for it.

I would also have left my house keys with a neighbor, installed a ring lock that can be remotely opened, or have a combination lock etc, so that my friends would have stayed at my house and did not have to pay for NY rental.

I mean, y'all are angry about not having a place to stay, correct?

People keep making this about a “free place to stay” but I don’t get that vibe from OP at all given that she was content to hang out at the house with her friends vs. use the house as a crash pad as she gallivants all around NY.

I think we’re saying this because it seems like they’re always going to the friends house. If it was about them getting together someone else could’ve offered their home but OP didn’t mention that. It kind of seems like they’re using this friend as the fun/get away house in the city. No one wants to host all the time and as a PP said twice in 2 months is quite a bit and it’s exhausting. If this friend can’t host then the friends can’t get together? It’s too much and it seems like they’re using the friend whether they mean to or not.

Well, apparently OP lives in the boonies. Her friend likely doesn’t want to go there.

And? Her friend likely doesn’t want to host every time either, so I’m sure she’d go down the country one in a while.

So the friend can stop offering to host. But backing out after doing so and doing so in a cowardly way is not a good look.

We can go back and forth all day about this. If the friend's are that desperate for a place to say they can get hotel. After the way OP has treated her friend she's lucky she's even allowed in her friend's home. Be at home with a rude, jealous friend or go to the lake house on a boat with my bf - the choice is easy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OO how old are you all?

33.

Way too old for an on again off again BF of three years. Neither here nor there I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OO how old are you all?

33.

Way too old for an on again off again BF of three years. Neither here nor there I know.

Yup and OP is way too old to stick her nose in other people’s business, let alone her best friend’s, and the gossip about her friend’s relationship like a 12 year old to strangers.

[Anonymous]

Is this an episode of Sex in the City? OP, did you or your friends ever "accidentally" wear your city friend's designer shoes home, too? Charcuterie board detail makes you......A TROLL.

[Anonymous]

*and the

I actually only watched a few episodes.

[Anonymous]

What I want to know is: how did OP’s friend get her nice NYC pad? OP even called it a “house” even though a SFH is impossible, at least in Manhattan.

OP: which borough is it in? Approximate location? Zestimate?

Is she a high-earner or was she given the money to purchase the home, or the home itself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I want to know is: how did OP’s friend get her nice NYC pad? OP even called it a “house” even though a SFH is impossible, at least in Manhattan.

OP: which borough is it in? Approximate location? Zestimate?

Is she a high-earner or was she given the money to purchase the home, or the home itself?

I'm guessing Manhattan or possibly Brooklyn. Maybe a townhouse, loft or duplex.

[Anonymous]

OP, did you respond to your friend yet?

[jsteele]

The OP is a troll and sock puppet so I am going to lock this thread.