Hilary Swank pregnant with twins
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Anonymous
Chrissy Teigen has been very open about using IVF. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
This. Doctors have scared the beejesus out of women about not having a baby by 35 while not talking enough about old men's sperm and the role it plays in neuro issues. |
Anonymous
| Meh. That's old. It's all fun and games when the kids are not in school yet and hey you're a vigorous 52-year-old, etc. I had rock-hard abs at 59 even 60. But 61 hits like a freight train for some reason. |
Anonymous
That we all know a lot of women who have had babies after 35 seems to suggest women aren't really scared. Many are even putting it off until their 40s because of stories like this. But there's a reason fertility clinics are so profitable and busy. Plenty of women aren't getting pregnant that easily at any age, but especially in their 40s. |
Anonymous
Look, if there were fertility clinics 100 years ago they would have been busy even when everyone got married at 20. Look back at your family tree—everyone had childless aunts in every generation. Some adopted from orphanages, and others were just loving aunties. Look at king Henry viii — his wives were plenty young and all had fertility problems (maybe his). There is now just much more of an expectation that every woman is going to be able to bear her own babies—that really wasn’t true in the course of human history and it wasn’t because of delayed childbirth. I think a lot of women end up with unexpected pregnancies in their late 30s and 40s because they assume it would take a minor miracle for them to get pregnant so they figure they can roll the dice once or twice. The media has way overstated the effects of age. |
Anonymous
Not sure I get your point. You said everyone is scared. Who is scared? What impact is that supposed fear having? The age of first birth is going up, not down. If people were scared they would be having kids younger and they aren't. |
Anonymous
This, 100%. And yes, I am one of these women with an unexpected pregnancy in my 40s because I rolled the dice. Once: that's all it took. So from my sample of one  , the hysteria about the dramatic drop of fertility over the age of 35 or 40 is just that, hysteria.
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Anonymous
As someone who got accidentally pregnant at 44 after just one careless night in my life, I can attest that the opposite misinformation - how women over 35/40 are more or less infertile - can be just as devastating. My OB shared with me that the largest amount of early-term medical abortions that her office performs is on women who are already moms and over the age of 35.... |
Anonymous
44 is not 48. I’ve yet to see a single person on here say they got naturally or accidentally pregnant at 48. |
Anonymous
np My sister did and she has a healthy 11 year old today! She says her kid keeps her young. |
Anonymous
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As an fyi, there is some decent medical evidence that very late fertility is associated with the genes for super longevity. So if you have women in your family that are living to their late 90s and 100+., be careful!
Looking back at my family history, I was really surprised how many women lived to late 80s or early 90s even with no medical care in the 19th century. And we have a strong history of unplanned pregnancy in our 40s. |
Anonymous
Interesting. The women on both sides of my family live to over 100, generally. My maternal grandmother died "too young" at 89 (her mom made it to 107). She had her two kids in the 50s, my uncle when she was 44 and my mom at 46. |
Anonymous
I haven't but I know people who had accidental pregnancies at 46 and 47 so 48 does not sound farfetched to me. Also, I know of women back a couple generations or more in my family who had many kids, the last of whom were conceived in their mid to late 40s. Those women didn't have access to IVF. Back then, people would talk about advanced maternal age but there was less judgment because generally it was women who were already mothers (so not becoming mothers for the first time at 45 or 46) and also with safe abortion so much less available to most women and women having far fewer choices when it came to life choices, people found it less objectionable than they do now. The thing that makes people angry about older mothers now is their choice to wait to have children. It's viewed as unnatural not because conception at an older age is unheard of but because these are women who have chosen to delay motherhood for whatever reason. Many people are deeply uncomfortable with the idea of women having that kind of agency over motherhood. |
Anonymous
This is my mom”/ side of the family and yep, I did have an accidental pregnancy at 44… Also, we get our periods in our late teens, which my OB explained shifts the end of fertility to later ages than the typical 42-45. |