Primping for DH- is this abnormal??

[Anonymous]

Some of the mean replies makes me think this is somehow threatening to the women who are in k looking like slobs 25/7

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with it at all. What's wrong with wanting to be fresh/sexy/cute for your husband? I also don't see anything wrong with the people who don't do it.

Listen, at the end of the day it's about what keeps your marriage a happy and healthy marriage. If a fresh up works for you, good for you for figuring that out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound really bored and that’s pretty normal with three really young kids at home. When they’re older you’ll be leaving more often and likely will get dressed for the day more often. But yeah, I think this is a little weird, I’m at home so I have to be hot for my provider. If you like it, who cares, but it’s not exactly what I’m going for or what I want for my daughter. I’m sure you will say oh I had some big career before etc etc, but that’s not even what I’m talking about. You’re just reducing it to I’m home so I have to be hot in my shorts. You don’t. I get sexy because I like to. Not because my husband is some big money earner. So think more about your rationale than the act itself, because I think that’s the issue.

OP here- no I was never a top earning professional but I guess I do get a little bored and I do sometimes feel just kind of unkept and “momish” during the day. I’m nursing and cleaning up messes all day so, for me, getting spruced up before DH comes home is for both of us. I have to say I like the feeling when he checks me out and it makes me feel pretty and desirable in a way I obviously don’t when I’m around my kids all day. I don’t feel I owe it to my husband to look hot or anything but it does make me feel more confident. I also really enjoy getting dressed up for date nights so it’s a bit like bringing a tiny bit of that energy into my daily life.

You don't say.

This line of thinking that women are either hot and stupid or smart/successful and don’t care about their looks or their DH is so wrong. You can be smart and look pretty and be accomplished but also want to be sexually desireable to your spouse. OP is sounding a lot smarter than you, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it at all. What's wrong with wanting to be fresh/sexy/cute for your husband? I also don't see anything wrong with the people who don't do it.

Listen, at the end of the day it's about what keeps your marriage a happy and healthy marriage. If a fresh up works for you, good for you for figuring that out.

100% agree! Sad to see these mean replies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound really bored and that’s pretty normal with three really young kids at home. When they’re older you’ll be leaving more often and likely will get dressed for the day more often. But yeah, I think this is a little weird, I’m at home so I have to be hot for my provider. If you like it, who cares, but it’s not exactly what I’m going for or what I want for my daughter. I’m sure you will say oh I had some big career before etc etc, but that’s not even what I’m talking about. You’re just reducing it to I’m home so I have to be hot in my shorts. You don’t. I get sexy because I like to. Not because my husband is some big money earner. So think more about your rationale than the act itself, because I think that’s the issue.

OP here- no I was never a top earning professional but I guess I do get a little bored and I do sometimes feel just kind of unkept and “momish” during the day. I’m nursing and cleaning up messes all day so, for me, getting spruced up before DH comes home is for both of us. I have to say I like the feeling when he checks me out and it makes me feel pretty and desirable in a way I obviously don’t when I’m around my kids all day. I don’t feel I owe it to my husband to look hot or anything but it does make me feel more confident. I also really enjoy getting dressed up for date nights so it’s a bit like bringing a tiny bit of that energy into my daily life.

You don't say.

This line of thinking that women are either hot and stupid or smart/successful and don’t care about their looks or their DH is so wrong. You can be smart and look pretty and be accomplished but also want to be sexually desireable to your spouse. OP is sounding a lot smarter than you, pp.

I have no idea if OP is pretty or not (and neither do you). Literally, none. But based on her posts here, it's pretty apparent that she wasn't a high earner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only people saying this is normal are the people in sexless marriages who couldn't look attractive even if they tried; they gave up far too long ago.

It's a sign of a healthy marriage to want to be desirable to your spouse. Man or Woman

But, do they know the difference between normal and abnormal?

[Anonymous]

I think it is weird. Like you are getting ready for a date.
Like you have to keep "trying" to keep his interest.

I am sure many would applaud you...but to me, you are home and should be yourself/comfortable. Not dolled up because your sugar daddy is coming home.

Sorry, that is how I see it. Perhaps because I am not married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it at all. What's wrong with wanting to be fresh/sexy/cute for your husband? I also don't see anything wrong with the people who don't do it.

Listen, at the end of the day it's about what keeps your marriage a happy and healthy marriage. If a fresh up works for you, good for you for figuring that out.

OP. Yes, it is something that makes me feel attractive. I know some pps did take issue with the fact that I like to be “checked out” by DH but that is something that keeps our marriage sexy and a little flirty. He also appreciates when I tell him he looks hot in his suit.

I do not think there is anything wrong with not doing this. In every marriage spouses have different ways of showing attraction and affection. In no way do I feel any woman should feel pressured to do this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a sahm. I obviously get ready in the morning (simple hair, light makeup, casual clothes) but I also do a little refresh before DH comes home. Usually this is just brushing hair, touching up makeup and maybe changing into something a little more comfortable but more revealing than my daytime outfit (short shorts, cropped tank, low cut v neck etc). I do not feel any pressure or expectations from DH regarding any of this.

Anyway, I was talking to a few friends and it was brought up that I did this. They pressed for details and thought the whole thing was totally weird and silly, especially considering that DH sees me au natural at night and in the morning. I didn’t think this was a strange thing to do but my friends completely roasted me. What do you think dcum? Do you do this? Is this strange?

This post was written by a man. Women do not talk about clothing like this.

I thought so too. Some bored man trying to elicit more descriptions of the things women do to look good. Or, conversely, someone with a fetish for the descriptions of frumpery that are sure to be in the responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a sahm. I obviously get ready in the morning (simple hair, light makeup, casual clothes) but I also do a little refresh before DH comes home. Usually this is just brushing hair, touching up makeup and maybe changing into something a little more comfortable but more revealing than my daytime outfit (short shorts, cropped tank, low cut v neck etc). I do not feel any pressure or expectations from DH regarding any of this.

Anyway, I was talking to a few friends and it was brought up that I did this. They pressed for details and thought the whole thing was totally weird and silly, especially considering that DH sees me au natural at night and in the morning. I didn’t think this was a strange thing to do but my friends completely roasted me. What do you think dcum? Do you do this? Is this strange?

This post was written by a man. Women do not talk about clothing like this.

I thought so too. Some bored man trying to elicit more descriptions of the things women do to look good. Or, conversely, someone with a fetish for the descriptions of frumpery that are sure to be in the responses.

Lol find us the men with the fetish re frump! Those are my men!! In all reality, OP, I am big primper. I get ready every day because it makes me feel in control and happy. I have a good sex life with my husband of 15 years. But, I really don’t need him to check me out. That sounds sad and desperate to me. I know I’m hot. I get checked out all the time. Who cares? You just sound needy. I don’t care re the rest, but find another way to fill that void.

[Anonymous]

51 year old man here, married 22 years; I think it's hot and you should keep doing it. Since Covid hit and we've both been working from home my wife gets still makes sure she looks professional with a touch of makeup, earrings, etc. While I've told her it's not the norm and we all wear comfy clothes, she says it makes her feel better. I've come to love it, because I get to see her looking great and we joke about me checking her out during the day.

My point is that there's nothing wrong with wearing clothes that make you look hot and attractive to your partner. If you're into it and he's into it (lucky guy), keep at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is weird. Like you are getting ready for a date.
Like you have to keep "trying" to keep his interest.

I am sure many would applaud you...but to me, you are home and should be yourself/comfortable. Not dolled up because your sugar daddy is coming home.

Sorry, that is how I see it. Perhaps because I am not married.

OP, here. That’s ok and I think a lot of posters agree with you. It’s much less involved than getting ready for a date but, in a way, I do like looking like the woman I was when DH and I started dating. We’ve been through a lot of life and had three kids but I am still a woman; not just a mom and wife.

I am not at all concerned that DH will lose interest and he has seen me at my best and worst but I do like looking nice on a regular basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a sahm. I obviously get ready in the morning (simple hair, light makeup, casual clothes) but I also do a little refresh before DH comes home. Usually this is just brushing hair, touching up makeup and maybe changing into something a little more comfortable but more revealing than my daytime outfit (short shorts, cropped tank, low cut v neck etc). I do not feel any pressure or expectations from DH regarding any of this.

Anyway, I was talking to a few friends and it was brought up that I did this. They pressed for details and thought the whole thing was totally weird and silly, especially considering that DH sees me au natural at night and in the morning. I didn’t think this was a strange thing to do but my friends completely roasted me. What do you think dcum? Do you do this? Is this strange?

This post was written by a man. Women do not talk about clothing like this.

I thought so too. Some bored man trying to elicit more descriptions of the things women do to look good. Or, conversely, someone with a fetish for the descriptions of frumpery that are sure to be in the responses.

Lol find us the men with the fetish re frump! Those are my men!! In all reality, OP, I am big primper. I get ready every day because it makes me feel in control and happy. I have a good sex life with my husband of 15 years. But, I really don’t need him to check me out. That sounds sad and desperate to me. I know I’m hot. I get checked out all the time. Who cares? You just sound needy. I don’t care re the rest, but find another way to fill that void.

Yeah OP, don’t try and look hot for your DH, that’s needy. Who cares about what he thinks. Get dressed up to go out and get checked out by random men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it at all. What's wrong with wanting to be fresh/sexy/cute for your husband? I also don't see anything wrong with the people who don't do it.

Listen, at the end of the day it's about what keeps your marriage a happy and healthy marriage. If a fresh up works for you, good for you for figuring that out.

OP. Yes, it is something that makes me feel attractive. I know some pps did take issue with the fact that I like to be “checked out” by DH but that is something that keeps our marriage sexy and a little flirty. He also appreciates when I tell him he looks hot in his suit.

I do not think there is anything wrong with not doing this. In every marriage spouses have different ways of showing attraction and affection. In no way do I feel any woman should feel pressured to do this.

lol poor OP is getting dumped on because she and her DH make a minimal effort to look good for each other and they find each other attractive. What a world!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a sahm. I obviously get ready in the morning (simple hair, light makeup, casual clothes) but I also do a little refresh before DH comes home. Usually this is just brushing hair, touching up makeup and maybe changing into something a little more comfortable but more revealing than my daytime outfit (short shorts, cropped tank, low cut v neck etc). I do not feel any pressure or expectations from DH regarding any of this.

Anyway, I was talking to a few friends and it was brought up that I did this. They pressed for details and thought the whole thing was totally weird and silly, especially considering that DH sees me au natural at night and in the morning. I didn’t think this was a strange thing to do but my friends completely roasted me. What do you think dcum? Do you do this? Is this strange?

This post was written by a man. Women do not talk about clothing like this.

I wondered about that, too.