I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: Oh & Jeff, are you able to find out who I am in real life? Because the "white trash" and "fake" people are getting annoying and I think if you were able to see who I really am and that all the things I've said about myself are true and confirm that, those people could just shut up.

You gave out the uncle's name on the internet yesterday and publicly accused him of poaching.

The horse is out of the barn, sweetheart.

She didn't accuse him of poaching, some over zealous posters did. She, like most people not from upstate, probably doesn't know or care a lot about it. She gave his last name and first initial.

Nope, she said she knew he was hunting illegally and that was 'one of the things that worried her' She gave a last name, first initial and state that made it extremely easy to Google (although she apparently couldn't muster the brainpower to do so)

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Anonymous wrote:OP I have read the whole thing but I just want to clarify: you've been to visit him at his actual residence? Does he live on his parents land or his grandparents land?

It would be weird if he lived on his parents/grandparents land and yet you haven't met them when you've visited. So we've confirmed he is estranged from his parents and uncle ... is he estranged from his grandparents?

OP here: Yes, he lives on his grandparents land. They have over 100+ acres of property (accidently put 10 yesterday and got bashed). Never met his grandparents as his house is farrrrrrrr from theirs on the property.

Does Uncle J still KIT with the grandparents? Wouldn't he have their number so you can call them and they can check in on SV? I understand the cops are doing it now, but wouldn't the grandparents want to get involved if Uncle J knows what's up and SV is living on their land?

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Firstly OP--i just wanted to say I think you are real. I certainly dated some winners in my 20's--the divorced guy with 2 kids who turned out to be the married guy with 3 kids comes to mind. Just needed to tweak my intuition (and actually listen to it) and not give away my trust so willingly. I didnt become a mistrustful, cynical person, just more cautious and not willing to give so many chances.

I also swore off LDR. They work for some people, but for me, it allowed me to feel like I was in the game, while really not being in it fully. It was just a sign I was ambivalent about being 100% intimate with someone. Yes, I felt love (deep love) for many of the LD guys, but through much therapy realized that LD allowed me to play it safe in some respects-I didn't have to reveal all aspects of myself, nor deal with all aspects of them.

I hope you don't let this expereince turn you bitter, but instead use it as a learning experience.

I also want to thank you for coming back and updating us, espcially since so many people have been so unkind to you.

Can you tell us what the Uncle told you--just broad strokes--is he married, kids, into drug or other illegal things?

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Anonymous wrote:OP if you are so bothered by this thread and are demanding it to be locked and deleted after you have completed your "investigation" why do you keep feeding us? this is all you. you initiated the forum, you gave out your bf and his uncles names, you gave out your own name to some of us...I mean...isn't it up to you to stop it?

OP here: I did not give out my name to anyone actually. I posted a fake name on the email account I set up.

are you not going to respond to any of the other questions? it really just seems like you love the attention tbh

So...the person with the Iraq email address really has no way of verifying that you are real.

I find it HIGHLY suspicious that there is no real evidence (other than a Facebook account) of a young man with NO discernible internet presence.

The dude hauls cows! You think he should have a LinkedIn page?

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Anonymous wrote:What's your gut telling you now, OP?

I had a BF that blindsided me. Not in this way, but turned out he was not at all the guy I thought he was. And I lived with him!! In hindsight, little things were telling. But they were very little at the time.

Op here: honestly, I think he's in jail or did this on purpose. Only thing confusing me is how his phone is off and still goes straight to VM. And no, it's not just for my number...it's any number which is why I'm confused.

I'm PP from probably page 20 or so... WHY HAVEN'T YOU CALLED ANY JAILS IN MAINE TO SEE IF HE"S THERE????

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OP, I think you're amazing. The fact that you're still responding is amazing. You definitely don't have to, and I know you're doing it because you know some of us are invested. That's really nice of you.

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jsteele wrote:OP, can you call Uncle J back and convince him to do an AMA thread? We'll need something to do after the police call you back.

OP here: He honestly was too nice and sweet on the phone. I don't want to put him at risk of being attacked by the assh**** on this forum.

Thank you OP for showing some backbone. (Shame on you, Jeff.)

It doesn't matter if this guy is alive or dead, he's not the guy for you, OP.

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He said you had a bitchy face????!

Why didn't you dump him then???

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you're amazing. The fact that you're still responding is amazing. You definitely don't have to, and I know you're doing it because you know some of us are invested. That's really nice of you.

x1,000,000

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: Oh & Jeff, are you able to find out who I am in real life? Because the "white trash" and "fake" people are getting annoying and I think if you were able to see who I really am and that all the things I've said about myself are true and confirm that, those people could just shut up.

You gave out the uncle's name on the internet yesterday and publicly accused him of poaching.

The horse is out of the barn, sweetheart.

She didn't accuse him of poaching, some over zealous posters did. She, like most people not from upstate, probably doesn't know or care a lot about it. She gave his last name and first initial.

Nope, she said she knew he was hunting illegally and that was 'one of the things that worried her' She gave a last name, first initial and state that made it extremely easy to Google (although she apparently couldn't muster the brainpower to do so)

She initially said he was hunting Bobcats. Someone else said its not bobcat season. She said she didn't know that and that made her worried.

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Anonymous wrote:He said you had a bitchy face????!

Why didn't you dump him then???

OP here: My 12 year old brother also said I have a bitchy face so....

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That beard! Yikes!

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He could hide a bobcat inside that beard.

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Anonymous wrote:OP if you are so bothered by this thread and are demanding it to be locked and deleted after you have completed your "investigation" why do you keep feeding us? this is all you. you initiated the forum, you gave out your bf and his uncles names, you gave out your own name to some of us...I mean...isn't it up to you to stop it?

OP here: I did not give out my name to anyone actually. I posted a fake name on the email account I set up.

are you not going to respond to any of the other questions? it really just seems like you love the attention tbh

So...the person with the Iraq email address really has no way of verifying that you are real.

I find it HIGHLY suspicious that there is no real evidence (other than a Facebook account) of a young man with NO discernible internet presence.

iraq here.

again, she did email me and she gave me the name. i did not want to go to deep into her personal life. all i wanted to do was google him and help her cause it seemed like she is/was terrible at searching.

there is a name attached to the email she sent me, but as she said, its not her real name. i never bothered even trying to look her up anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you're amazing. The fact that you're still responding is amazing. You definitely don't have to, and I know you're doing it because you know some of us are invested. That's really nice of you.

x1,000,000

I agree! Thank you OP, this can't be easy.