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Why I'm not CIOing
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Anonymous
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"You can sit and meditate while
your baby cries himself to sleep. Or you can go to him and share his tears, and find your Self." Did you guys read this: http://www.theconnectedmom.com/2011/03/four-lies-sleep-trainers-tell-you-and.html ? She said in very few words what I've been trying to say all along. And the poem/prayer(?) in the end OMG! if we were just a little less selfish! |
Anonymous
| Wtf |
Anonymous
| My thoughts exactly! WTF! |
Anonymous
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Shawna 'loves to connect with other moms' as long as they're not torturing their kids by making them CIO.
I've been trying to say THIS all along - getting a good night's sleep after 9 months of multiple night wakings is NOT selfish. It was good for my daughter, it was good for me and it was good for my husband. Do whatever works for you and don't stress about what others do. If you don't want to CIO because you feel it's mean and hateful, that's fine. Don't make other parents feel mean and selfish for CIOing. |
Anonymous
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Who cares! Get a life!
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Anonymous
| I read that and thought it was lovely, OP, but sadly I doubt you'll find many like minded parents on this board. Sorry. And to 19:49, nobody can make you feel mean or selfish...if you think sleep training is such a godsend surely these criticisms roll right off your back. |
Anonymous
| I didn't do CIO for many reasons but perhaps the one reason that might resonate with others is this: If I were crying in another room I would hioe that someone would love me enough to inquire as to what was wrong and console me. |
Anonymous
| Babies cry! What are you talking about? You make no sense. Argument and reasining from you = FAIL! |
Anonymous
OH please, you know this isn't true because when you're a parent it's hard to let ANYTHING roll off your back. But you know what? Some parents make the hard choices that don't make them feel good but are ultimately good for their family, and some parents do what is easiest for themselves. CIO is hard - it's emotionally draining. It's not sitting ignoring your child's cries while you paint your toenails. It's excruciating. But you know what? Sometimes it's the RIGHT THING TO DO. Not every time. But sometimes. If you're not cut out for it, then don't do it. But keep your holier-than-thou attitude to yourself because it's hard on parents who already feel guilty for doing the right thing. |
Anonymous
| Sleep training is atrocious. Saying the parent needs their sleep doesn't make up for that. hire a sitter, trade off, do what you have to do, but someone has to be a parent at night until your baby no longer needs someone to be a parent at night. It doesn't last forever. Just admit you are saying, "lack of sleep is too hard. I quit." |
Anonymous
| We did not do CIO, but that blog is profoundly annoying. |
Anonymous
Yes, they cry and my job as a mother is to console them and help them to grow up to be confident and happy individuals. OP here. Most of you are so defensive and you didn't even read what that mom wrote. So sad! As I said before, that's why I didn't do it. I posted this to whoever is thinking about their children's sleep and trying to make a decision. I'm sharing what MY thoughts are. You do whatever you want. Life goes on. |
Anonymous
| Umm I read it and find it looney just like you! |
Anonymous
| The reason CIO is so hard is because it's unnatural and wrong. I refuse to apologize for my opinion just because it makes someone uncomfortable. I have many, many friends and family who've done it and I know they love their kids, but the fact that anyone can convince themselves that doing it means love boggles my mind. |
Anonymous
I could say tha sleeping wih your child crushed up against you and your husband is un-natural. Get off your high horse. You are the weird one. |