“Full time mom”

[Anonymous]

You can say “I take care of my kids full time” as that is a counterpart for “I work full time”. Children need full-time care. That is a fact. That care can be provided by a parent, nanny, daycare, elementary school, karate class, etc.

Btw, “parenting” is not something that needs to happen 24/7.

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Anonymous wrote:I know some people who say “full time mom” because SAHM makes it sound like they’re housebound. If you’re a SAHM, people, at least where I live, can’t seem to live with anything sort of a self-effacing description of how you spend your day.

They want me to say “I’m just a mom” or “I don’t work” and will press and press until they get those exact answers. I say “I’m unemployed” when I know someone’s going to play verbal games with me around the paid employment/parenthood question. It stops the conversation cold.

You know, this makes sense. I do have certain people call on me to help them (which I'm often happy to do for friends or friendly acquaintances) but they assume I'm home and have no plans or schedule. They think that "staying home" with my kids most of the summer means we are literally at home, when in fact we are generally out of the house by 9 and home 3-5ish. We are BUSY. Just because I don't work doesn't mean I am at home all day.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please point out instances where this phrase has been used. Because it’s not.

I'm a SAHM who has never used the term, but older gentlemen have used it towards me ("oh, you are a full time mom") in conversation. I've always thought of it as an outdated phrase.

I have really only heard the terms SAHM, housewife, full time mom, etc. used to describe other people. It’s pretty rare that I hear anyone describe themselves this way. Usually people say something like “I’m a pediatrician, but I’m home with the kids right now.” Or “I retired from the army last year.” Or “I was a nurse, but I am thinking of switching into accounting when the kids get older.”
It’s rare that I hear someone respond to a question about their own paid work with answers about unpaid work.

OP here. I noticed someone from my kid’s school (a mom) who is an acquaintance of mine described herself on her Facebook profile as a “Full-time mom.”

I'm certain she didn't mean to offend.

No, I’m certain she was thinking of how to get a dog at PP when she made her profile. If there’s anything that I’ve learned from this thread, WOHM think other women’s choices are always about them.

[Anonymous]

Dang, some people are sensitive. Who cares if someone calls themselves a full-time mom? She’s describing herself. Stop thinking everything a SAHM says is somehow about you. It’s not.

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Anonymous wrote:You can say “I take care of my kids full time” as that is a counterpart for “I work full time”. Children need full-time care. That is a fact. That care can be provided by a parent, nanny, daycare, elementary school, karate class, etc.

Btw, “parenting” is not something that needs to happen 24/7.

But when a parent is caring for the child full time, it is apparent that the parent is parenting, because s/he is a parent. Lets not get too cute with words or take offense where not is intended.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please point out instances where this phrase has been used. Because it’s not.

I'm a SAHM who has never used the term, but older gentlemen have used it towards me ("oh, you are a full time mom") in conversation. I've always thought of it as an outdated phrase.

I have really only heard the terms SAHM, housewife, full time mom, etc. used to describe other people. It’s pretty rare that I hear anyone describe themselves this way. Usually people say something like “I’m a pediatrician, but I’m home with the kids right now.” Or “I retired from the army last year.” Or “I was a nurse, but I am thinking of switching into accounting when the kids get older.”
It’s rare that I hear someone respond to a question about their own paid work with answers about unpaid work.

OP here. I noticed someone from my kid’s school (a mom) who is an acquaintance of mine described herself on her Facebook profile as a “Full-time mom.”

I'm certain she didn't mean to offend.

No, I’m certain she was thinking of how to get a dog at PP when she made her profile. If there’s anything that I’ve learned from this thread, WOHM think other women’s choices are always about them.

Yep. It really is a special sort of narcissism.

[Anonymous]

I’m a stay at home mom. When forms ask my occupation I usually write “first wife”. I like what I do with my days, I value it and so does my family that’s all that matters to me. Call me whatever you want just don’t call me late for dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest question to those who feel the phrase "Full-time mom" is a dig at WOHMs --- what word do you wish the "full-time moms" would use for themselves?

"I don't work."

But they do work- they do the work of child care. Instead of paying someone to do that work, they are doing it themselves.

Would it be better if they called themselves child care providers?

We aren't even necessarily talking about kids younger than school-age, though no SAHM who calls herself a full-time mom as answered what she then calls herself, though it's been asked a number of times.

Taking care or your own children is parenting. It's not a job. I don't call myself a chef when I make dinner for my family.

But someone is asking what you do with your time, not what is your job. If what you do is tasks related to taking care of kids, what can’t you say that?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please point out instances where this phrase has been used. Because it’s not.

I'm a SAHM who has never used the term, but older gentlemen have used it towards me ("oh, you are a full time mom") in conversation. I've always thought of it as an outdated phrase.

I have really only heard the terms SAHM, housewife, full time mom, etc. used to describe other people. It’s pretty rare that I hear anyone describe themselves this way. Usually people say something like “I’m a pediatrician, but I’m home with the kids right now.” Or “I retired from the army last year.” Or “I was a nurse, but I am thinking of switching into accounting when the kids get older.”
It’s rare that I hear someone respond to a question about their own paid work with answers about unpaid work.

OP here. I noticed someone from my kid’s school (a mom) who is an acquaintance of mine described herself on her Facebook profile as a “Full-time mom.”

There's no intention to dig there. But she has a higher likelihood of being annoying. I would not think about it further.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can say “I take care of my kids full time” as that is a counterpart for “I work full time”. Children need full-time care. That is a fact. That care can be provided by a parent, nanny, daycare, elementary school, karate class, etc.

Btw, “parenting” is not something that needs to happen 24/7.

How about working moms just stop getting so triggered about other women’s choices?

I’m not going to twist myself into pretzels trying to find a way to describe being home with my kids that doesn’t offend you. I’m also not going the self deprecating route and saying “I’m unemployed” just to placate you. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a stay at home mom. When forms ask my occupation I usually write “first wife”. I like what I do with my days, I value it and so does my family that’s all that matters to me. Call me whatever you want just don’t call me late for dinner.

I use first wife as a joke, but I don't take myself too seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:If the person is referring to themselves like on a Facebook profile, I generally see something along the lines of "part-time nurse, weekend warrior, full-time mom" or whatever it is. It's just a phrase.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell me please —
Is this supposed to imply that moms who work are “part time” moms? Or is it just to tell the world that one is on full time duty? Maybe I’m being dense; just want to know if this is a dig....

np Maybe stop asking the question, "what do you do?" That in itself can also be seen as "judgement" As if your work equals your self worth.

You are way too sensitive!

DP. You can't simultaneously tell people to stop asking the question "what do you do?" and say that someone else is way too sensitive.

Why not? She is the one having the problem with the answer, not me.

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Anonymous wrote:You can say “I take care of my kids full time” as that is a counterpart for “I work full time”. Children need full-time care. That is a fact. That care can be provided by a parent, nanny, daycare, elementary school, karate class, etc.

Btw, “parenting” is not something that needs to happen 24/7.

How about working moms just stop getting so triggered about other women’s choices?

I’m not going to twist myself into pretzels trying to find a way to describe being home with my kids that doesn’t offend you. I’m also not going the self deprecating route and saying “I’m unemployed” just to placate you. Get over yourself.

Most working moms don't want to be working as much as they do. They want to spend more time with their children, and silently resent the fact that there are other moms out there who do.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a stay at home mom. When forms ask my occupation I usually write “first wife”. I like what I do with my days, I value it and so does my family that’s all that matters to me. Call me whatever you want just don’t call me late for dinner.

That is hilarious!