Would you tell a vegetarian relative that your MIL has been sneaking meat into their food?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

Oh, sweetie...

[Anonymous]

This entire family is WACK. SIL and MIL both have insane control issues (and BIL married SIL because of it, consciously or not). OP gets all worked up about this drama because she has poor boundaries, hence the pages and pages of "context". OP, if you don't want to distance yourself from the crazy, there's nothing to be done. This family just swings from shitshow to shitshow and it's never going to stop.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

Lol

PP here. Just to clarify...I myself don't eat the ground beef/soy protein mix. I just make it for my family. In fact, I usually make two different meals--one for them and one for me. Mine do not contain meat because I AM A VEGETARIAN! I love how quick everyone was to jump on me...There's nothing that some meat-eaters like more than to "catch" vegetarians "cheating." You're such assholes pps

So you stay vegetarian but you...sneak meat into your family's meals, even though they think they are also vegetarian?

WTF is the endgame here?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

Lol

PP here. Just to clarify...I myself don't eat the ground beef/soy protein mix. I just make it for my family. In fact, I usually make two different meals--one for them and one for me. Mine do not contain meat because I AM A VEGETARIAN! I love how quick everyone was to jump on me...There's nothing that some meat-eaters like more than to "catch" vegetarians "cheating." You're such assholes pps

So you stay vegetarian but you...sneak meat into your family's meals, even though they think they are also vegetarian?

WTF is the endgame here?

I think she sneaks soy into her family's meals. Ground beef/soy poster was incredibly confusing. That's why people jumped on you.

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I have no idea whether to tell or not, but I'd be annoyed with myself for marrying into a family of aholes.

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myob

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

Lol

PP here. Just to clarify...I myself don't eat the ground beef/soy protein mix. I just make it for my family. In fact, I usually make two different meals--one for them and one for me. Mine do not contain meat because I AM A VEGETARIAN! I love how quick everyone was to jump on me...There's nothing that some meat-eaters like more than to "catch" vegetarians "cheating." You're such assholes pps

So you stay vegetarian but you...sneak meat into your family's meals, even though they think they are also vegetarian?

WTF is the endgame here?

You’re making this harder than it needs to be. She’s a vegetarian who still cooks meat for her fam. She makes a veg dish for herself and a meaty version for the fam. To get them to eat less meat, probably in an attempt to get them to have a healthier diet, she puts some plant based faux meat in the dish so it’s a mix of real meat and meat substitute. The vegetarians eat the meat free dish, the carnivores eat the meat and soy dish, unwittingly ingesting more veggies and fewer cows. No one is eating anything they have moral objections to or dietary issues with. However, she just realized that her actions are similar to OP’s MIL, although not so corrupt because her intentions are pure.

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Too late for that. Once you know, ou know.

You are complicit, OP.

[Anonymous]

Yes you are complicit now op.

Keep in mind if this does come out in the future your MIL could then say that she didn't think it was a bad thing to do as OP also knew and didn't say anything. Your MIL will play dumb and use Op as a shield.

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Who’s to say that after all of this is done that MIL won’t stop. You could tell SIL and she could continue doing or you could ask her to stop and she could say she will and continue to do it. I know I’m not helping but...it’s a tough call.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

Lol

PP here. Just to clarify...I myself don't eat the ground beef/soy protein mix. I just make it for my family. In fact, I usually make two different meals--one for them and one for me. Mine do not contain meat because I AM A VEGETARIAN! I love how quick everyone was to jump on me...There's nothing that some meat-eaters like more than to "catch" vegetarians "cheating." You're such assholes pps

Np here. I didn’t find any of vegetarian pp’s post confusing at all.

So you stay vegetarian but you...sneak meat into your family's meals, even though they think they are also vegetarian?

WTF is the endgame here?

I think she sneaks soy into her family's meals. Ground beef/soy poster was incredibly confusing. That's why people jumped on you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

Lol

PP here. Just to clarify...I myself don't eat the ground beef/soy protein mix. I just make it for my family. In fact, I usually make two different meals--one for them and one for me. Mine do not contain meat because I AM A VEGETARIAN! I love how quick everyone was to jump on me...There's nothing that some meat-eaters like more than to "catch" vegetarians "cheating." You're such assholes pps

Np here. I didn’t find any of vegetarian pp’s post confusing at all.

So you stay vegetarian but you...sneak meat into your family's meals, even though they think they are also vegetarian?

WTF is the endgame here?

I think she sneaks soy into her family's meals. Ground beef/soy poster was incredibly confusing. That's why people jumped on you.

Np here. I didn’t find any of vegetarian pp’s post confusing at all.

[Anonymous]

It’s a war between SIL and MIL. I would stay right out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes you are complicit now op.

Keep in mind if this does come out in the future your MIL could then say that she didn't think it was a bad thing to do as OP also knew and didn't say anything. Your MIL will play dumb and use Op as a shield.

Send an email to MIL clarifying you think it is wrong to do and she shouldn't do it. Don't delete that email or replies. Use later as needed.

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Anonymous wrote:I just found out that my MIL intentionally sneaks meat products into her "vegetarian" dishes and does not tell SIL about it. She'll tell SIL that she used vegetable broth when she really uses chicken broth. She'll cook things in bacon fat or add some bacon fat for flavor. She isn't sneaking a steak into a smoothie or anything but she's been serving quite a few vegetarian meals with meat products. MIL things being a vegetarian is stupid and she is already being gracious enough to pretend to accommodate SIL.

If I tell SIL, MIL will know it was me. I'm on the fence about whether to say anything or not.

NP here. I wouldn’t lie directly like this, but I use chicken broth in a few no-meat dishes I make and it wouldn’t occur me to warn people it has 1/4 cup of chicken broth in it.

Really? If you were making a meal for people who straight up told you they are vegetarian, it "wouldn't occur to you" to tell them that it has meat in it?

Because it's not meat, no. Some people really don't think of the broth as meat in that sense.

I've been vegetarian my whole life and have never drawn a distinction between chicken broth (made of chicken) and any other part of chicken. If I told you I was vegetarian before coming to your house for dinner and later found out that you'd made something with chicken broth and told me it was vegetarian because chicken broth "isn't meat in that sense", I would feel extremely disrespected.

I truly don't understand why this is hard for you. It's CHICKEN broth. Why on earth would you consider that to be vegetarian?

Because it’s not meat? Vegan and vegetarian are different, right? Milk comes from cows but you can use it in vegetarian dishes, can’t you? Chicken broth is just water a chicken sat in. It’s arguably less “from the chicken” than milk is. Then again, best to ask and clarify what is ok/not when cooking for someone with dietary restrictions. Some people are just dumb and think “no meat” = vegetarian and obviously there is no meat in broth, that’s what makes it different from soup.