Would you tell a vegetarian relative that your MIL has been sneaking meat into their food?

[Anonymous]

I would never trust this MIL with my children. Who knows what she'd lie about.

[Anonymous]

MIL may simply be trying to get even with SIL for her bad behavior in a passive aggressive way or she may just consider it a white lie.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. It is a personal choice so if they don't know they are eating it, no harm done. As has been the case since MIL has been doing this all along - and no harm done.

More harm will be caused by saying something. It will cause all kinds of family drama and tension.

"No harm done"?

It's a personal choice and MIL has decided that SIL does not get to make that choice for herself. She is presenting food with meat in it as vegetarian because she doesn't respect SIL's reason for being vegetarian. Then she asked OP to lie about it too. SIL hasn't suffered any health effects, but that's different than saying no harm has been done. OP clearly feels guilty about her part in this. SIL deserves to know what she's putting in her body. That's her choice, not MIL's.

SIL felt perfectly fine deciding for everyone they should not use a straw, DH should not eat meat etc. She is just getting taste of her own medicine. OP do not get in the middle of this, your SIL is a militant on a collision course. This will not end well.

It is absolutely ending with SIL sneaking something into her relatives' food, before riding off into the sunset to join a decent family.

She will learn quickly enough how to be flexible when she joins her nice prison family.

I didn't say she's going to poison them. Just, they obviously don't care when things they find repellent are in their meals. There's a lot of things that are terrible but not poisonous. They probably won't even know when they've eaten, say, clipped pubic hair! It'll just be her secret.

Anyway, what's the problem so long as it doesn't harm them, right? Hair just passes right through you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

Agree. If you are eating that, you are not vegetarian. If you are presenting it as a vegetarian dish, you are lying. If you are presenting it as a ground beef dish and omitting the mention of the soy, you are not lying. It would not occur to me to list every single ingredient in a dish unless specifically asked. However, I would not present a dish as vegetarian, kosher, gluten-free, dairy-free, soy-free, etc. unless it actually did not contain the things in question.

[Anonymous]

The whole family sounds well, let's just say I'm SO glad I have no part of it.

OP needs to tell MIL to stop what she's doing, otherwise she'll have to SIL what's been going on behind her back. And given how militant SIL is, it is not going to end well.

[Anonymous]

MIL sounds like a piece of work. That. is. all.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Vegetarian here: please tell her. I would absolutely want to know about this if it were me.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence about this. I'm a vegetarian and have been using a mix of half meat/half soy protein in all my ground beef dishes for years. My family doesn't know and has not noticed. And I'm okay with it since they don't have any soy allergies. But, now that I think about it, sneaking meat into a vegetarian's meal is worse than sneaking soy into a meat-eater's meal.

You are not a vegetarian

I mean really! Are there more of these pps? Didn't we have someone say something equally stupid in another thread? I eat ground beef and I am a veterinarian?!

Lol

PP here. Just to clarify...I myself don't eat the ground beef/soy protein mix. I just make it for my family. In fact, I usually make two different meals--one for them and one for me. Mine do not contain meat because I AM A VEGETARIAN! I love how quick everyone was to jump on me...There's nothing that some meat-eaters like more than to "catch" vegetarians "cheating." You're such assholes pps

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. She is probably worried about her health. Is her hair, skin and nails crappy looking like a lot of people who don't get enough protein? Your MIL is a dick but trying to do her a solid and trying to preserve the flavour of her meals for the rest of the guests.

[Anonymous]

This is seriously an ethical issue. Every person has a right to know what they eat. This is elementary right. Lying and deception is
just wrong in this case. It is nobody's business to judge choice that a vegetarian makes. You might like it you may not but
the fact is that everyone has a right to chose.

Imagine the MIL hating crabs or leaches and then someone put this quietly in her meals for years.. how would she feel about it?

Everybody has something they don't like or don't want to eat. It is excusable only for parents of very little kids who try
to sneak vitamins in the form of veggies into things that a kid can not tell the difference. The MIL in question is depraving
the person of their legal rights. I don't know but this might be even illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. She is probably worried about her health. Is her hair, skin and nails crappy looking like a lot of people who don't get enough protein? Your MIL is a dick but trying to do her a solid and trying to preserve the flavour of her meals for the rest of the guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. She is probably worried about her health. Is her hair, skin and nails crappy looking like a lot of people who don't get enough protein? Your MIL is a dick but trying to do her a solid and trying to preserve the flavour of her meals for the rest of the guests.

You know nothing about a vegetarian diet. Do you really believe you only get protein from meat, what about tofu, lentils, kidney beans, chickpeas.