Teen is all over his sister

[Anonymous]

Parents obviously feel their son’s assault of his sister is ok. One would question if the mother herself was molested or raped as a child. These things usually go from one generation to the next within families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why exactly does anyone think he isn’t raping her at night - when he has every opportunity - and obviously has raging sexual (sick) attraction towards her?

Anyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why exactly does anyone think he isn’t raping her at night - when he has every opportunity - and obviously has raging sexual (sick) attraction towards her?

Same reason why a lot of men look at child porn, or rape fantasy porn, or incest porn, but most of those men don't 1) have sex with children, 2) go out and rape a stranger, or 3) have sex with their aunts. IT'S A HUGE LEAP.

don't put child/rape porn in the same category as incest porn!

I am kind of kidding but "step" family porn is basically mainstream! so crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's a stretch to automatically assume this little girl must be being raped by her brother because of what OP described? Sounds like he is overly touchy/feely, but it's a HUGE LEAP from that to actually putting his penis in her vagina against her will at night. Boys that age are hormonal- YES. But he probably has some freaking self control when it comes to RAPING HIS 10 YEAR OLD SISTER. Like how you get mad at your little brother so you push him down sometimes, that doesn't mean you are beating him unconscious with a baseball bat in your shared room at night because that's such a HUGE LEAP from sometimes pushing him when you're mad. Being hormonal and clearly too touchy with her at the pool is a far cry from actually physically raping her. Everyone on this thread needs to take a deep breath.

He's a boy that is past puberty and has male hormones raging through his system that he's never had before. He doesn't know what is right and what is wrong. If he knows about the birds and the bees, he probably thinks that penetration is the only thing that qualifies as inappropriate behavior. But a hormonal heterosexual teenager who is in a bathing suit and is grabbing a girl and potentially rubbing his genitals against her, even playfully, and even if it is his sister is inappropriate behavior. But he has no way of knowing this unless he's been reading or his parents have taught him. Since his parents are clueless about this being an issue, they need to be instructed that this is wrong and that they need to step up as parents and teach him appropriate boundaries. As a post-pubescent male he needs to observe personal space rules and needs to learn about inappropriate touching which includes what OP has written about.

OP, you need to talk to his parents and let them find a way to teach him in private about boundaries and appropriate vs inappropriate behavior and touching.

I totally agree with all this - and still think the posters yelling about CPS and “there is no way he isn’t forcibly raping her” need to take a moment and calm dkwn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why exactly does anyone think he isn’t raping her at night - when he has every opportunity - and obviously has raging sexual (sick) attraction towards her?

Same reason why a lot of men look at child porn, or rape fantasy porn, or incest porn, but most of those men don't 1) have sex with children, 2) go out and rape a stranger, or 3) have sex with their aunts. IT'S A HUGE LEAP.

don't put child/rape porn in the same category as incest porn!

I am kind of kidding but "step" family porn is basically mainstream! so crazy

Exactly! Because every teen boy with a teen sister or step sister at home has an occasional fantasy I’m sure. But most of them don’t act in it! Enter, the porn and erotic literature industry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are the posters who think people are overreacting really unaware that sexual assault does not require PIV penetration? Just based on what the OP has posted about her observations in public, it's not at all unlikely that he is taking liberties with his sister in the privacy of their home.

What I don't understand is why OP keeps posting updates about what's been observed but no word on whether or not someone has been notified. I mean, 9 pages in there should be some follow up. No?

I got the number. I will call when I can talk privately. I'm at work. I'll post updates.

Great! I hope that little child can be safe tonight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's a stretch to automatically assume this little girl must be being raped by her brother because of what OP described? Sounds like he is overly touchy/feely, but it's a HUGE LEAP from that to actually putting his penis in her vagina against her will at night. Boys that age are hormonal- YES. But he probably has some freaking self control when it comes to RAPING HIS 10 YEAR OLD SISTER. Like how you get mad at your little brother so you push him down sometimes, that doesn't mean you are beating him unconscious with a baseball bat in your shared room at night because that's such a HUGE LEAP from sometimes pushing him when you're mad. Being hormonal and clearly too touchy with her at the pool is a far cry from actually physically raping her. Everyone on this thread needs to take a deep breath.

He's a boy that is past puberty and has male hormones raging through his system that he's never had before. He doesn't know what is right and what is wrong. If he knows about the birds and the bees, he probably thinks that penetration is the only thing that qualifies as inappropriate behavior. But a hormonal heterosexual teenager who is in a bathing suit and is grabbing a girl and potentially rubbing his genitals against her, even playfully, and even if it is his sister is inappropriate behavior. But he has no way of knowing this unless he's been reading or his parents have taught him. Since his parents are clueless about this being an issue, they need to be instructed that this is wrong and that they need to step up as parents and teach him appropriate boundaries. As a post-pubescent male he needs to observe personal space rules and needs to learn about inappropriate touching which includes what OP has written about.

OP, you need to talk to his parents and let them find a way to teach him in private about boundaries and appropriate vs inappropriate behavior and touching.

I totally agree with all this - and still think the posters yelling about CPS and “there is no way he isn’t forcibly raping her” need to take a moment and calm dkwn

You seem to think that CPS should only get involved after a 10 year old has definitively been penetrated. It's concerning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why exactly does anyone think he isn’t raping her at night - when he has every opportunity - and obviously has raging sexual (sick) attraction towards her?

Anyone?

I answered you. Because all boys are hormonal, all boys will probably try to get what they think is unnoticed gratification by wrestling or hugging if they aren’t stopped by parents who point out “it’s not unnoticed, you moron, stop”. But that is a far cry from raping a 10 year old. How do you not see this?! The parents need to speak up but the girl probably isn’t being raped, lord.

[Anonymous]

as someone who is currently dealing with the CPS..... I hope OP is correct that it merits getting them involved

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's a stretch to automatically assume this little girl must be being raped by her brother because of what OP described? Sounds like he is overly touchy/feely, but it's a HUGE LEAP from that to actually putting his penis in her vagina against her will at night. Boys that age are hormonal- YES. But he probably has some freaking self control when it comes to RAPING HIS 10 YEAR OLD SISTER. Like how you get mad at your little brother so you push him down sometimes, that doesn't mean you are beating him unconscious with a baseball bat in your shared room at night because that's such a HUGE LEAP from sometimes pushing him when you're mad. Being hormonal and clearly too touchy with her at the pool is a far cry from actually physically raping her. Everyone on this thread needs to take a deep breath.

He's a boy that is past puberty and has male hormones raging through his system that he's never had before. He doesn't know what is right and what is wrong. If he knows about the birds and the bees, he probably thinks that penetration is the only thing that qualifies as inappropriate behavior. But a hormonal heterosexual teenager who is in a bathing suit and is grabbing a girl and potentially rubbing his genitals against her, even playfully, and even if it is his sister is inappropriate behavior. But he has no way of knowing this unless he's been reading or his parents have taught him. Since his parents are clueless about this being an issue, they need to be instructed that this is wrong and that they need to step up as parents and teach him appropriate boundaries. As a post-pubescent male he needs to observe personal space rules and needs to learn about inappropriate touching which includes what OP has written about.

OP, you need to talk to his parents and let them find a way to teach him in private about boundaries and appropriate vs inappropriate behavior and touching.

I totally agree with all this - and still think the posters yelling about CPS and “there is no way he isn’t forcibly raping her” need to take a moment and calm dkwn

You seem to think that CPS should only get involved after a 10 year old has definitively been penetrated. It's concerning.

You are so naive. A cps call could ruin that family’s life. Including the girls. What is op going to say? “I see him hug her a lot and he seems possessive”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why exactly does anyone think he isn’t raping her at night - when he has every opportunity - and obviously has raging sexual (sick) attraction towards her?

Same reason why a lot of men look at child porn, or rape fantasy porn, or incest porn, but most of those men don't 1) have sex with children, 2) go out and rape a stranger, or 3) have sex with their aunts. IT'S A HUGE LEAP.

Who exactly IS sexually abusing kids, if it isn't someone behaving the way the son in the OP is? Who is it exactly? Because it is happening to kids. Maybe this kid isn't but it isn't helpful to the conversation to act like it is super rare. It isn't rare. And if this girl isn't being sexually abused, the behavior of her brother puts her at huge risk of being victimized by someone else.



https://www.thoughtco.com/facts-about-child-sexual-abuse-statistics-3533871

The almost 90,000 cases of child sexual abuse reported each year fall far short of the actual number.
An estimated 25% of girls and 16% of boys experience sexual abuse before they turn 18 years old.
Of all victims of sexual assault reported to law enforcement agencies
67% were under age 18
34% were under age 12
14% were under age 6
Of offenders who victimized children under age 6, 40% were under age 18.

Despite what children are taught about "stranger danger," most child victims are abused by someone they know and trust. When the abuser is not a family member, the victim is more often a boy than a girl.
Often, a parent's connection (or lack thereof) to his/her child puts that child at greater risk of being sexually abused. The following characteristics are indicators of increased risk:
parental inadequacy
parental unavailability
parent-child conflict
the poor parent-child relationship

Children are most vulnerable to sexual abuse between the ages of 7 and 13.
Child sexual abuse involves coercion and occasionally violence.

Girls are the victims of incest and/or intrafamily sexual abuse much more frequently than boys. Between 33-50% of perpetrators who sexually abuse girls are family members, while only 10-20% of those who sexually abuse boys are intrafamily perpetrators. Intrafamily abuse continues over a longer period of time than sexual abuse outside the family, and some forms -- such as parent-child abuse -- have more serious and lasting consequences.(Finkelhor, 1994.)

Behavioral changes are often the first signs of sexual abuse.
The consequences of child sexual abuse are wide-ranging and varied. They can include:
chronic depression
low self-esteem
sexual dysfunction
multiple personalities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:as someone who is currently dealing with the CPS..... I hope OP is correct that it merits getting them involved

I posted below you- totally agree. So many people have no idea how this could destroy their family, and likely just becauE a bunch of keyboard warriors on dcum are frothing at he mouth for some drama today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:as someone who is currently dealing with the CPS..... I hope OP is correct that it merits getting them involved

What exactly would you do under these circumstances?
Chat with the mother who allows her boy to assault her daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's a stretch to automatically assume this little girl must be being raped by her brother because of what OP described? Sounds like he is overly touchy/feely, but it's a HUGE LEAP from that to actually putting his penis in her vagina against her will at night. Boys that age are hormonal- YES. But he probably has some freaking self control when it comes to RAPING HIS 10 YEAR OLD SISTER. Like how you get mad at your little brother so you push him down sometimes, that doesn't mean you are beating him unconscious with a baseball bat in your shared room at night because that's such a HUGE LEAP from sometimes pushing him when you're mad. Being hormonal and clearly too touchy with her at the pool is a far cry from actually physically raping her. Everyone on this thread needs to take a deep breath.

He's a boy that is past puberty and has male hormones raging through his system that he's never had before. He doesn't know what is right and what is wrong. If he knows about the birds and the bees, he probably thinks that penetration is the only thing that qualifies as inappropriate behavior. But a hormonal heterosexual teenager who is in a bathing suit and is grabbing a girl and potentially rubbing his genitals against her, even playfully, and even if it is his sister is inappropriate behavior. But he has no way of knowing this unless he's been reading or his parents have taught him. Since his parents are clueless about this being an issue, they need to be instructed that this is wrong and that they need to step up as parents and teach him appropriate boundaries. As a post-pubescent male he needs to observe personal space rules and needs to learn about inappropriate touching which includes what OP has written about.

OP, you need to talk to his parents and let them find a way to teach him in private about boundaries and appropriate vs inappropriate behavior and touching.

I totally agree with all this - and still think the posters yelling about CPS and “there is no way he isn’t forcibly raping her” need to take a moment and calm dkwn

You seem to think that CPS should only get involved after a 10 year old has definitively been penetrated. It's concerning.

You are so naive. A cps call could ruin that family’s life. Including the girls. What is op going to say? “I see him hug her a lot and he seems possessive”?

Read the thread. You don't have much experience with CPS getting kids out of dangerous situations, but I have seen it work. This girl deserves help. There are so many red flags in OP's posts, they are practically on fire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's a stretch to automatically assume this little girl must be being raped by her brother because of what OP described? Sounds like he is overly touchy/feely, but it's a HUGE LEAP from that to actually putting his penis in her vagina against her will at night. Boys that age are hormonal- YES. But he probably has some freaking self control when it comes to RAPING HIS 10 YEAR OLD SISTER. Like how you get mad at your little brother so you push him down sometimes, that doesn't mean you are beating him unconscious with a baseball bat in your shared room at night because that's such a HUGE LEAP from sometimes pushing him when you're mad. Being hormonal and clearly too touchy with her at the pool is a far cry from actually physically raping her. Everyone on this thread needs to take a deep breath.

He's a boy that is past puberty and has male hormones raging through his system that he's never had before. He doesn't know what is right and what is wrong. If he knows about the birds and the bees, he probably thinks that penetration is the only thing that qualifies as inappropriate behavior. But a hormonal heterosexual teenager who is in a bathing suit and is grabbing a girl and potentially rubbing his genitals against her, even playfully, and even if it is his sister is inappropriate behavior. But he has no way of knowing this unless he's been reading or his parents have taught him. Since his parents are clueless about this being an issue, they need to be instructed that this is wrong and that they need to step up as parents and teach him appropriate boundaries. As a post-pubescent male he needs to observe personal space rules and needs to learn about inappropriate touching which includes what OP has written about.

OP, you need to talk to his parents and let them find a way to teach him in private about boundaries and appropriate vs inappropriate behavior and touching.

I totally agree with all this - and still think the posters yelling about CPS and “there is no way he isn’t forcibly raping her” need to take a moment and calm dkwn

You seem to think that CPS should only get involved after a 10 year old has definitively been penetrated. It's concerning.

You are so naive. A cps call could ruin that family’s life. Including the girls. What is op going to say? “I see him hug her a lot and he seems possessive”?

People like you are why we have a rape culture. The girl's life is sad. Her parents enable her brother to assault her. He lies on her and kisses her.

-A dad