Red shirting, again.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Like mother, like daughter.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, the daughter allegedly on an athletic scholarship to an Ivy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Like mother, like daughter.

That's it. Mother got knocked up in HS and is worried that her daughter will show the same poor judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, the daughter allegedly on an athletic scholarship to an Ivy!

I call BS. If hyperventilator's daughter were already away at college, mom would have many concerns more relevant to her life than the matriculation by month patterns of Kindergarteners. And she certainly wouldn't be so hysterical about the possibility that her 14 y.o. daughter would be out catting around with 19 y.o. boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the spawner with a missing screw and auditory and visual hallucinations.

I can't be bothered to read this whole thread. But I remember you from another thread a few months ago -- you used the word auditory incorrectly there and I corrected you. You're still an idiot.

[Anonymous]

I don't even understand this thread (and yes, I do understand the issue). Why do people get so worked up about an age spread? No matter how parents or schools try to manipulate and micromanage, some kids have to be the youngest and the oldest in the class. Different kids have different needs, varying physical, emotional, and intellectual growth curves. It's the kind of problem you fixate on when you don't have real problems to think about.

I am a former kindergarten teacher, btw, with one son who did kindy at 4.75 and another who will go at nearly 6.

[Anonymous]

The schizophrenic on this board believes an age spread leads to statutory rape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The schizophrenic on this board believes an age spread leads to statutory rape.

A hallucinatory anxiety at best. At worst, she has a history of early sexual activity: which would explain her aggression about anyone older than her DD actually interacting with her DD. There's a family history of poor sexual self control.

[Anonymous]

20:09 and 23:20 are the same person -- the sock puppet from the Ivy threads on the private school forum. Ignore her, she's sad and pathetic (and about 40 IQ points lower than the rest of us, to boot).

She needs any attention she can get, even negative attention. Don't give it to her.

[Anonymous]

You're wrong again. Keep spinning your wheels.

[Anonymous]

20:09 and 23:20 are the same person -- the sock puppet from the Ivy threads on the private school forum. Ignore her, she's sad and pathetic (and about 40 IQ points lower than the rest of us, to boot).

She needs any attention she can get, even negative attention. Don't give it to her.

You are that lady. See, you can't hide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:20:09 and 23:20 are the same person -- the sock puppet from the Ivy threads on the private school forum. Ignore her, she's sad and pathetic (and about 40 IQ points lower than the rest of us, to boot).

She needs any attention she can get, even negative attention. Don't give it to her.

I don't think she's the one who needs the attention. I think she's pointing out the disturbances from another PP, the one who doesn't trust her daughter or anyone who comes near her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP:

FWIW, my son IS in the correct grade as well per the MCPS guidelines --- he turned 6 in late September and is in kindergarten. While he's advanced based on the assessments they've done for math, he's in the middle of the pack for reading. FWIW, I was a little concerned b/c I thought he should be closer to the top given his advanced age but the teacher told me that generally speaking, it's the girls who typically are advanced with regards to reading and that boys develop those sorts of skills a little later than girls --- but that everyone seems to catch up and it all evens out in 2nd grade. And FWIW, what's wrong with being in the middle of the pack? My MIL has taught elementary school for 35+ years and she laments the fact that parents today don't recognize the fact that some kids are A students, some are B students, some are C students, etc. Most kids excell at something while struggling with something else --- and that's ok --- in fact, it's normal. I know DCUM is filled with type A neurotic helicopter parents, but I think that perhaps our kids would be better off if we took a collective deep breath and tried to feel comfortable with kids "doing their best" and then accepting them for who they are...and not comparing them to their classmates or passing judgment on other parents for redshirting or whatever. Parenting isn't supposed to be a competitive sport. Relax and let your kid enjoy his childhood --- bright kids end up doing well in life regardless of their report cards and standardized tests. FWIW, my kindergarten teacher was very concerned about me b/c I couldn't for the life of me use scissors. Nonetheless, here I am today, a lawyer in DC who somehow managed to graduate phi beta kappa and with honors from law school --- despite the fact that I couldn't cut in a straight line AND much to the chagrin of Sister Miriam Andre (my HS guidance counselor) who told me that based on my PSAT score I should perhaps look into a secretarial program (to which I retorted, "or I guess I could just become a nun.")(Yes, I was a smart a@# then --- and I still am --- and so is my kindergartener --- and that's OK with me.)

Great post. I appreciate your perspective. Many of the more successful kids I knew from high school weren't in the talented classes. And I also don't recall our parents working themselves into a sweat if our kids were "middle of the pack." This is really what this is all about in the first place. Everyone wants their child to be gifted. A shame, really.

[Anonymous]

Dear OP:

FWIW, my son IS in the correct grade as well per the MCPS guidelines --- he turned 6 in late September and is in kindergarten. While he's advanced based on the assessments they've done for math, he's in the middle of the pack for reading. FWIW, I was a little concerned b/c I thought he should be closer to the top given his advanced age but the teacher told me that generally speaking, it's the girls who typically are advanced with regards to reading and that boys develop those sorts of skills a little later than girls --- but that everyone seems to catch up and it all evens out in 2nd grade. And FWIW, what's wrong with being in the middle of the pack? My MIL has taught elementary school for 35+ years and she laments the fact that parents today don't recognize the fact that some kids are A students, some are B students, some are C students, etc. Most kids excell at something while struggling with something else --- and that's ok --- in fact, it's normal. I know DCUM is filled with type A neurotic helicopter parents, but I think that perhaps our kids would be better off if we took a collective deep breath and tried to feel comfortable with kids "doing their best" and then accepting them for who they are...and not comparing them to their classmates or passing judgment on other parents for redshirting or whatever. Parenting isn't supposed to be a competitive sport. Relax and let your kid enjoy his childhood --- bright kids end up doing well in life regardless of their report cards and standardized tests. FWIW, my kindergarten teacher was very concerned about me b/c I couldn't for the life of me use scissors. Nonetheless, here I am today, a lawyer in DC who somehow managed to graduate phi beta kappa and with honors from law school --- despite the fact that I couldn't cut in a straight line AND much to the chagrin of Sister Miriam Andre (my HS guidance counselor) who told me that based on my PSAT score I should perhaps look into a secretarial program (to which I retorted, "or I guess I could just become a nun.")(Yes, I was a smart a@# then --- and I still am --- and so is my kindergartener --- and that's OK with me.)

Great story, but what do you say to the disappointed child who does not graduate Phi Beta Kappa with a terrific legal education making big bucks at some D.C. law firm?

These rags to riches type stories are great motivators but there are many rags to rags stories out there. What's your motivation for them?

[Anonymous]

Actually, I really hope my kids don't go to law school. And I couldn't care less if they graduate Phi Beta Kappa (while it looks good on a resume, it really hasn't made much of a difference in my life --- I don't think it helped me get the job I'm in today --- I think the street outreach I did to homeless people and my public interest work played a much larger role in my success). I'm not a rags to riches story. I know kids who grew up at a much greater disadvantage who have surpassed me in terms of wealth and status --- and I'm truly happy for them. FWIW, I nearly failed algebra and geometry and I had to take 0-0-Dumb at UMCP for math (my fellow Terps who suffer from math-phobia know what I'm talking about). But I managed and even excelled in other areas. I'm not saying that I hope my kids strive for mediocrity --- rather, I hope they try hard and do the best they can. If they do, then I'm sure they'll be fine. I hope the "motivation" for my kids to do their best is the realization that in our family we strive to be good people who take responsibility for our actions and do our best to help others and make a difference in the world. These aren't skills learned in school. So it's up to DH and I to equip our little monkeys with a strong moral foundation to do the right thing.