Sidwell college advisor leaves

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people keep asking if this is about the national scandal? Read the thread!
Patrick is leaving because every year a few awful parents make the job miserable for him. This year was the final straw.
The other guy needed to go.

I thought all the Sidwell parents were peaceful, low key and awesome.

That is hilarious.-- from a Sidwell parent

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least now SFS has an opportunity to rethink and revamp the college counseling office. The turnover of two positions is a good start but just the initial step. SFS has been underinvesting in the office for a long time. It’s also the case that college admission has become more complex and challenging in recent years. Sidwell needs to add one or two more front line counselors to lower the student to counselor ratio.

Dont lose sight of this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

Per that link, Biden is in deeeeep trouble.

"Examples of Sexual Harassment
Any of these elements may constitute sexual harassment or discrimination. These examples are not meant to be all inclusive.

Physical contact
Squeezing a worker's shoulders or putting a hand around his or her waist..."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

Per that link, Biden is in deeeeep trouble.

"Examples of Sexual Harassment
Any of these elements may constitute sexual harassment or discrimination. These examples are not meant to be all inclusive.

Physical contact
Squeezing a worker's shoulders or putting a hand around his or her waist..."

Thanks for posting, Sen. Gillibrand. Your tactics may have worked with Al Franken, but it won’t work with Biden. America now sees you for the craven hypocrite that you are. Trump was perhaps right about one thing: you will do anything for money and to get ahead in politics. You’re a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

Honey, that still doesn’t make it misogynistic. It’s the context, darling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

Per that link, Biden is in deeeeep trouble.

"Examples of Sexual Harassment
Any of these elements may constitute sexual harassment or discrimination. These examples are not meant to be all inclusive.

Physical contact
Squeezing a worker's shoulders or putting a hand around his or her waist..."

Not with Republicans - they'll vote for him in droves because of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

Per that link, Biden is in deeeeep trouble.

"Examples of Sexual Harassment
Any of these elements may constitute sexual harassment or discrimination. These examples are not meant to be all inclusive.

Physical contact
Squeezing a worker's shoulders or putting a hand around his or her waist..."

Thanks for posting, Sen. Gillibrand. Your tactics may have worked with Al Franken, but it won’t work with Biden. America now sees you for the craven hypocrite that you are. Trump was perhaps right about one thing: you will do anything for money and to get ahead in politics. You’re a loser.

Honey, that's what the US government says.

I agree, it's way overboard, and can't wait for Trump to deregulate this too so that my esteemed friend Joe can keep squeezing our shoulders in his lovely fashion and also telling those fun off-color jokes (also considered to be sexual harassment down in the list).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Given all that’s come out in the last few days, I’m no longer willing to be that definitive in condemning the parent (even if I’d never do it myself). It all depends. Admissions and outplacement have been corrupted, so how can an applicant know that relevant negative information about competing applicants isn’t being suppressed?

When a corrupted person is so highly regarded that they are giving Sasha and Malia private tennis lessons at the WH (what is more vetted than that?), how can a parent believe that they should just relax and trust the process?

No honey, it’s never ok to do that. It won’t help your kid anyway.
On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

NP. I’m cool with her invoking that image with regard to the PP because PP does in fact seem like a twit. Carry on.

[Anonymous]

Lauren Carter's return, even on an interim basis, will be an improvement to the SFS college counseling office. Hopefully they will fill the other open counselor position quickly and with someone who is experienced and talented.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Exactly. This should never happen but it does. I know of at least two other cases. One involved a parent sending in comments about another applicant. Another involved a student sending in disparaging material about a kid applying to the same college. It says so-much-more about the person doing the oppo research that the alleged target.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the parent of a current Sidwell junior and I'm much more anxious now than I was yesterday about the college admissions process. We're in the early stages of the process, so hearing that 2 of the 3 people in the CC office are leaving is very upsetting news. But if the college counselors were being mistreated by parents, then I can't blame them for wanting to leave the school. The behavior that was described or any similar behavior shouldn't be tolerated....ever.

At some schools a parent calling the Admissions Dept at a University to bad mouth their DC's classmate and fellow community member would be grounds to not renew that family's contract moving forward.

Does this parent have younger children in the school ?

If so, the family should be shown the door

I agree, but it is more than likely that whoever did it, this is their only/last kid at the school, so what is the recourse?

They are removed from all Alumni mailing and their grand children are not considered legacies