Should I Mention I Saw My Sister's Husband Doing Something a Little Suspicious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd mention it when I next saw him, but nothing crazy.

Hey, it was funny seeing you at the ice cream place! I never run into you. Who were those people you were talking with?

And leave it at that. You can always follow up with I didn't even know there was a back door, so it was really surprising when you ran in if he doesn't freak out. Do you work nearby? I've only been there twice.

This is the only reasonable thing to do.
Some of you are insane.

A: “Huh? What are you talking about? Who? Oh! I don’t know! Just getting ice cream, you know. I don’t know the person behind the counter or the kid, just making small talk.”

Case closed. All is well.

Seriously, do you people function in society?

The guy sat down at a table with a little kid and talked for 10 minutes, and didn't order anything. That is not normal by any stretch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd mention it when I next saw him, but nothing crazy.

Hey, it was funny seeing you at the ice cream place! I never run into you. Who were those people you were talking with?

And leave it at that. You can always follow up with I didn't even know there was a back door, so it was really surprising when you ran in if he doesn't freak out. Do you work nearby? I've only been there twice.

This is the only reasonable thing to do.
Some of you are insane.

A: “Huh? What are you talking about? Who? Oh! I don’t know! Just getting ice cream, you know. I don’t know the person behind the counter or the kid, just making small talk.”

Case closed. All is well.

Seriously, do you people function in society?

The guy sat down at a table with a little kid and talked for 10 minutes, and didn't order anything. That is not normal by any stretch.

Society includes many strange things and many variations of a scenario. Not everything just black and white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd mention it when I next saw him, but nothing crazy.

Hey, it was funny seeing you at the ice cream place! I never run into you. Who were those people you were talking with?

And leave it at that. You can always follow up with I didn't even know there was a back door, so it was really surprising when you ran in if he doesn't freak out. Do you work nearby? I've only been there twice.

This is the only reasonable thing to do.
Some of you are insane.

A: “Huh? What are you talking about? Who? Oh! I don’t know! Just getting ice cream, you know. I don’t know the person behind the counter or the kid, just making small talk.”

Case closed. All is well.

Seriously, do you people function in society?

The guy sat down at a table with a little kid and talked for 10 minutes, and didn't order anything. That is not normal by any stretch.

Society includes many strange things and many variations of a scenario. Not everything just black and white.

Im not disagreeing with that. What I'm disagreeing with is the idea of just shrugging off what he did as small talk. No reasonable person would expect anyone to believe that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd mention it when I next saw him, but nothing crazy.

Hey, it was funny seeing you at the ice cream place! I never run into you. Who were those people you were talking with?

And leave it at that. You can always follow up with I didn't even know there was a back door, so it was really surprising when you ran in if he doesn't freak out. Do you work nearby? I've only been there twice.

This is the only reasonable thing to do.
Some of you are insane.

A: “Huh? What are you talking about? Who? Oh! I don’t know! Just getting ice cream, you know. I don’t know the person behind the counter or the kid, just making small talk.”

Case closed. All is well.

Seriously, do you people function in society?

The guy sat down at a table with a little kid and talked for 10 minutes, and didn't order anything. That is not normal by any stretch.

Completely agree, post was sarcastic. What man just plops down by a strange child and starts chatting? Pedo alert. Men know this.

[Anonymous]

Q. what grown man smiley dances into an ice cream shop in the middle of a weekday and does not buy ice cream.

A. a busted one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gut tells me that the woman is his daughter and the kid is his grandkid. Maybe he is not sure that it's is his daughter yet and wants to be 100% sure before he spills the news to his wife.

Yes, he’s maintained an adult daughter and grandchild in the same town for over 20 years but can’t order ice cream unless wife is out of town. Makes sense.

So let's say that's true. Does OP really want to go messing up the lives of so many people over it? There are children involved and they don't deserve that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Q. what grown man smiley dances into an ice cream shop in the middle of a weekday and does not buy ice cream.

A. a busted one.

The dcum cheaters are so sad one of their own was caught and are trying to gaslight op into silence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gut tells me that the woman is his daughter and the kid is his grandkid. Maybe he is not sure that it's is his daughter yet and wants to be 100% sure before he spills the news to his wife.

Yes, he’s maintained an adult daughter and grandchild in the same town for over 20 years but can’t order ice cream unless wife is out of town. Makes sense.

So let's say that's true. Does OP really want to go messing up the lives of so many people over it? There are children involved and they don't deserve that.

+1
OP should mind her own buisness for now but get a little more alert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Q. what grown man smiley dances into an ice cream shop in the middle of a weekday and does not buy ice cream.

A. a busted one.

The dcum cheaters are so sad one of their own was caught and are trying to gaslight op into silence.

Actually quite opposite. Usually cheaters suspect everyone in cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gut tells me that the woman is his daughter and the kid is his grandkid. Maybe he is not sure that it's is his daughter yet and wants to be 100% sure before he spills the news to his wife.

Yes, he’s maintained an adult daughter and grandchild in the same town for over 20 years but can’t order ice cream unless wife is out of town. Makes sense.

So let's say that's true. Does OP really want to go messing up the lives of so many people over it? There are children involved and they don't deserve that.

Op isn’t messing up anyone’s life. She’s just hanging out with her kid.

If the dad is cheating, he’s messing up his kids lives. Kids don’t deserve a Dad who leaves them at home alone to go hang out with his side piece while Mom is gone.

Why on earth does the cheater get to cheat and not be blamed? His kids would feel awful if they knew what he was doing to their family and Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gut tells me that the woman is his daughter and the kid is his grandkid. Maybe he is not sure that it's is his daughter yet and wants to be 100% sure before he spills the news to his wife.

Yes, he’s maintained an adult daughter and grandchild in the same town for over 20 years but can’t order ice cream unless wife is out of town. Makes sense.

So let's say that's true. Does OP really want to go messing up the lives of so many people over it? There are children involved and they don't deserve that.

Op isn’t messing up anyone’s life. She’s just hanging out with her kid.

If the dad is cheating, he’s messing up his kids lives. Kids don’t deserve a Dad who leaves them at home alone to go hang out with his side piece while Mom is gone.

Why on earth does the cheater get to cheat and not be blamed? His kids would feel awful if they knew what he was doing to their family and Mom.

They might have open relationship when OPs sister is allowed to cheat too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gut tells me that the woman is his daughter and the kid is his grandkid. Maybe he is not sure that it's is his daughter yet and wants to be 100% sure before he spills the news to his wife.

Yes, he’s maintained an adult daughter and grandchild in the same town for over 20 years but can’t order ice cream unless wife is out of town. Makes sense.

So let's say that's true. Does OP really want to go messing up the lives of so many people over it? There are children involved and they don't deserve that.

Op isn’t messing up anyone’s life. She’s just hanging out with her kid.

If the dad is cheating, he’s messing up his kids lives. Kids don’t deserve a Dad who leaves them at home alone to go hang out with his side piece while Mom is gone.

Why on earth does the cheater get to cheat and not be blamed? His kids would feel awful if they knew what he was doing to their family and Mom.

By OP's own admission, the dad is a great father to the kids. If OP doesn't MHOB, then things could be bad for the children. Does OP really want that?

[Anonymous]

As I didn't KNOW anything for certain, I would sit on it. I would think something is up that I was not aware of, but leave it at that for now.

I can think of friends who would have snapped a picture of woman behind counter, and of kid and sent then to their sister while still there. "Who are these people he is so happy to see? Don't think I know them, but he much prefers their company over ours!" Pot stirred.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Q. what grown man smiley dances into an ice cream shop in the middle of a weekday and does not buy ice cream.

A. a busted one.

The dcum cheaters are so sad one of their own was caught and are trying to gaslight op into silence.

Actually quite opposite. Usually cheaters suspect everyone in cheating.

Cheaters try to pretend everyone is cheating to make themselves feel better, with no evidence.

What BIL did strongly suggests he’s cheating and people are completely normalizing it with no good explanation and are attacking op as a busybody.

If op just said eek I have an odd feeling but no proof about BIL what to do? MYOB.

An odd feeling isn’t anything to hunt down.

Cheaters also pretend everything is ok! No matter what! I fell down and my penis slipped into her mouth over and over and over again, honey! How dare you think I am cheating!!11!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My gut tells me that the woman is his daughter and the kid is his grandkid. Maybe he is not sure that it's is his daughter yet and wants to be 100% sure before he spills the news to his wife.

Yes, he’s maintained an adult daughter and grandchild in the same town for over 20 years but can’t order ice cream unless wife is out of town. Makes sense.

So let's say that's true. Does OP really want to go messing up the lives of so many people over it? There are children involved and they don't deserve that.

Op isn’t messing up anyone’s life. She’s just hanging out with her kid.

If the dad is cheating, he’s messing up his kids lives. Kids don’t deserve a Dad who leaves them at home alone to go hang out with his side piece while Mom is gone.

Why on earth does the cheater get to cheat and not be blamed? His kids would feel awful if they knew what he was doing to their family and Mom.

By OP's own admission, the dad is a great father to the kids. If OP doesn't MHOB, then things could be bad for the children. Does OP really want that?

Do great dads leave their kids home alone to go to ice cream stores to cheat? That’s a great dad? You do that to your kids? Your dad did that to you?