My husband is very stupid

[Anonymous]

For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

love the reverse victim mentality among some. definitely get out then, let them F around with other people's lives.

[msmith2015]

I had a very good lawyer tell me once: "You both have the right to be happy".

Good advice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

love the reverse victim mentality among some. definitely get out then, let them F around with other people's lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

love the reverse victim mentality among some. definitely get out then, let them F around with other people's lives.

No one should be called names by their spouse. If life is so bad that you feel the need to tell strangers s/he is stupid, it’s time to get a divorce. There are mature ways to deal with relationship issues. Name-calling isn’t one of them.

[Anonymous]

Agree she is likely at her saturation point w his dysfunction, respect is lost, time to end it.

[Anonymous]

Smart people do stupid things too. I consider myself fairly intelligent, but I made such a f...cking blunder last week, I can't even. Still reeling and preparing myself for a fallout. I'm trying to analyze what happened and what I was thinking, and I'm at a loss. It's amazing how stupid we get sometimes...

So, OP. Don't be a c...nt. Divorce the dude already. Live and let live.

[Anonymous]

The guy is stupid and lazy and that equals ADHD? Why can't someone just be stupid and lazy? It's easier to cure.

[Anonymous]

This thread is really making me appreciate my husband right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guy is stupid and lazy and that equals ADHD? Why can't someone just be stupid and lazy? It's easier to cure.

OK, he’s stupid and lazy, he needs a simple life without a partner, kids and property. He’s a taker, and wants some woman that will take care of him and everything else he’s unaware of that happens in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is also lazy.

I think the nice way to put this would be something like “exhibits deficits in executive functioning” and is “inattentive,” but the truth is that he is a stupid and lazy man. In decisions big and small, he doesn’t have any ideas, asks me questions like “what should we do?” as if I have a manual, and shuts down easily. When crises hit, I am both the idea person and the doer. I can’t entrust tasks to him because the simplest job is an opportunity to shirk, forget, or make some idiotic mistake I couldn’t even imagine was possible.

Before we had a child and all sorts of difficulties hit, his deficits were well hidden. He was slow to do basic things, but there was not nearly as much to do. And I am a very energetic, take-charge person who naturally assumes responsibility. Now, however, there is simply too much for me to take on, no matter how much energy I have. I work 60-80 hour weeks, while he works no more than 40. Yet, I have to do most things.

He can’t be trusted with our child’s appointments because when he goes, he checks out and forgets to tell the doctor important information and then forgets what the doctor told him. He can’t be trusted with our child’s medication because it is a controlled substance with a precise dose and he likes to pour “roughly” enough. He forgets to feed her when I’m not home. He can’t even grocery shop.

It has gotten to the point at which I struggle to talk to him with respect, which makes him even more nervous and helpless. I have never heard of sheer stupidity as a ground for divorce, but that is where I am.

OP, I have seen husbands from top colleges act the same way. What you are talking about is lack of common sense and lack of initiative. It could be said about lots of men. Don't think that your husband lacks brains because he acts this way, that is not the problem. Just so you are aware.

OMG, whoever wrote the top above post is living the nightmare that is my life with two kids and manchild booksmart, educated husband. I am waiting for a terrible disaster to strike like when he didn't drain the toddler's bathtub and she walked back into it hours later. He can't remember jack - not before doing it, while doing it, or checkign after doing it. It's horrible. He needs a simple simple life of just himself.

This is at a MINIMUM ADHD inattentive. then layer on lazy, stupid, lack of common sense, misogynist, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

And for your benefit and your children's, please get a divorce. No one deserves an unreliable, untrustworthy spouse that won't seek medical help. And your children don't need to see a father or spouse "role-model" in someone always dropping the ball and unreliable. I certainly would not wish that on my daughters.

PS teach your children good, responsibly habits. And vet for ADD every year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: You are a complete asshole. If I were married to you I would be in shutdown mode too.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is also lazy.

I think the nice way to put this would be something like “exhibits deficits in executive functioning” and is “inattentive,” but the truth is that he is a stupid and lazy man. In decisions big and small, he doesn’t have any ideas, asks me questions like “what should we do?” as if I have a manual, and shuts down easily. When crises hit, I am both the idea person and the doer. I can’t entrust tasks to him because the simplest job is an opportunity to shirk, forget, or make some idiotic mistake I couldn’t even imagine was possible.

Before we had a child and all sorts of difficulties hit, his deficits were well hidden. He was slow to do basic things, but there was not nearly as much to do. And I am a very energetic, take-charge person who naturally assumes responsibility. Now, however, there is simply too much for me to take on, no matter how much energy I have. I work 60-80 hour weeks, while he works no more than 40. Yet, I have to do most things.

He can’t be trusted with our child’s appointments because when he goes, he checks out and forgets to tell the doctor important information and then forgets what the doctor told him. He can’t be trusted with our child’s medication because it is a controlled substance with a precise dose and he likes to pour “roughly” enough. He forgets to feed her when I’m not home. He can’t even grocery shop.

It has gotten to the point at which I struggle to talk to him with respect, which makes him even more nervous and helpless. I have never heard of sheer stupidity as a ground for divorce, but that is where I am.

OP, I have seen husbands from top colleges act the same way. What you are talking about is lack of common sense and lack of initiative. It could be said about lots of men. Don't think that your husband lacks brains because he acts this way, that is not the problem. Just so you are aware.

OMG, whoever wrote the top above post is living the nightmare that is my life with two kids and manchild booksmart, educated husband. I am waiting for a terrible disaster to strike like when he didn't drain the toddler's bathtub and she walked back into it hours later. He can't remember jack - not before doing it, while doing it, or checkign after doing it. It's horrible. He needs a simple simple life of just himself.

This is at a MINIMUM ADHD inattentive. then layer on lazy, stupid, lack of common sense, misogynist, etc.

You pick him, had the wedding, spend most likely his money and the kids. Maybe it’s not him but you. I know let’s just say that the disaster that is your life is your fault and not because of a misogynist. God you sound like a drug addicted.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, but you sound exhausting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

But an innocent child deserves a parent who forgets to feed her and can't give her the right dose of medicine.