Do men regret their divorces?

[Anonymous]

Does anybody regret their divorce?

[Anonymous]

After my parents got divorced, mom had custody, and "your father was a cheating pig" was the party line.

Many years later it became very obvious that she stopped having sex with him, and now I don't blame him for cheating or leaving at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After my parents got divorced, mom had custody, and "your father was a cheating pig" was the party line.

Many years later it became very obvious that she stopped having sex with him, and now I don't blame him for cheating or leaving at all.

Troll alert!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Something like that happened to a friend of mine. But he took the high road--didn't tell the children that his exDW had cut him off from sex for the previous 5 years, among other things. So they all blamed dad.

You are delusional if you think your children care how much you and their mother are having sex. They don't even want to think of you as a sexual being. And they absolutely will not their teenage heads understandingly, murmuring to themselves, well of course, poor dad, how could he possibly go through life without sex, he is totally right to leave us and try to take the house so he and his new lady friend can have all the sex they want. It's OK, dad, we're gonna go get ourselves an apartment.

+1. My mom did not have sex with my dad for years and my dad cheated, then they divorced. But, my dad was also not a very good husband, so he wasn’t exactly an innocent victim. I didn’t care what exactly happened, all I knew is I was being dragged into the middle of their personal drama.

If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

[Anonymous]

If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

Getting a divorce to actually have a monogamous sexual relationship is having a pretty normal mindset. Creating drama for the kids is bad, but wanting to go through life with a spouse who doesn’t want to be touched is masochistic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is a societal construct, not a romantic one. Its purpose is to accumulate shared assets and raise children. When you exit this contract, you incur costs in the assets and children line items. Again, not sure why you find it so objectionable to see this fact spelled out.

Make sure you point this out to all the women in the world who think they should get all the money and full custody of the children.

The same way men think they get all the retirement just because it's from their employment.

In the end doesn't matter what someone "thinks" because a judge will decide. If it were up to men they wouldn't ever support their kids, why we have judges! To ensure kids are supported.

If it were up to women, fathers would never be allowed to have any relationship with their kids after the divorce. His only role would be to mail the check every month. This is why we have judges - to ensure kids can have a relationship with their father, too. (Unfortunately judges are far less likely to enforce visitation rights than child support agreements.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After my parents got divorced, mom had custody, and "your father was a cheating pig" was the party line.

Many years later it became very obvious that she stopped having sex with him, and now I don't blame him for cheating or leaving at all.

Troll alert!

Nope. Absolutely true story. GFY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

Getting a divorce to actually have a monogamous sexual relationship is having a pretty normal mindset. Creating drama for the kids is bad, but wanting to go through life with a spouse who doesn’t want to be touched is masochistic.

So why not tell the kids just that? Sorry honey, I need to get laid so get ready to move to an apartment and give up your hockey class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

It says you are a normal person who desires sex with their spouse, which is natural, admirable, and indeed the basis of the marital contract.

The person who broke up the kids home... is the person denying sex to their spouse, not the person who leaves.

[Anonymous]

How about divorcing a sex-withholding spouse *before* you start banging someone new? That way there's no confusion about who is the *bad* person in the situation, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about divorcing a sex-withholding spouse *before* you start banging someone new? That way there's no confusion about who is the *bad* person in the situation, right?

Stop making sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is a societal construct, not a romantic one. Its purpose is to accumulate shared assets and raise children. When you exit this contract, you incur costs in the assets and children line items. Again, not sure why you find it so objectionable to see this fact spelled out.

Make sure you point this out to all the women in the world who think they should get all the money and full custody of the children.

The same way men think they get all the retirement just because it's from their employment.

In the end doesn't matter what someone "thinks" because a judge will decide. If it were up to men they wouldn't ever support their kids, why we have judges! To ensure kids are supported.

If it were up to women, fathers would never be allowed to have any relationship with their kids after the divorce. His only role would be to mail the check every month. This is why we have judges - to ensure kids can have a relationship with their father, too. (Unfortunately judges are far less likely to enforce visitation rights than child support agreements.)

Don’t you ever get tired of yourself and your miserable misogyny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about divorcing a sex-withholding spouse *before* you start banging someone new? That way there's no confusion about who is the *bad* person in the situation, right?

Probably because they know they'll end up alone with the same situation happening over and over. Maybe they know it's them deep down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re willing to break up your kids’ home so you can get laid, it says a lot about who you are as a person and why perhaps your spouse doesn’t want sex with you in the first place.

It says you are a normal person who desires sex with their spouse, which is natural, admirable, and indeed the basis of the marital contract.

The person who broke up the kids home... is the person denying sex to their spouse, not the person who leaves.

No, it’s the person(s) who wouldn’t work on the underlying and larger marital problems to correct the sex issue. Amazing you can think that a symptom (no sex) is the problem as opposed to the larger issue of one of the spouses (maybe even the partner who is being denied sex) being a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After my parents got divorced, mom had custody, and "your father was a cheating pig" was the party line.

Many years later it became very obvious that she stopped having sex with him, and now I don't blame him for cheating or leaving at all.

Troll alert!

Nope. Absolutely true story. GFY.

DP. How did it “become obvious” that they weren’t having sex? And how do you know he wasn’t partially responsible, like bad hygiene/drunk/abusive to her?