Is there anything better than marrying a rich guy you met in college?

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Anonymous wrote:$2 million near Notre Dame and a Whole Foods gets you

I am well aware of what 2 million can get you near Notre Dame. Spending time on zillow was about all I could do to entertain myself when I lived there! You could not pay me to live there again. And don't get me started on the winters.

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird how people assume the niece isn't happy. You can fall in love with pleasant wealthy boys... they're not all like Trump's kids, especially the rich boys from flyover states.

Nobody is assuming she isn't happy. OP framed it as ENTIRELY about material advantages and "being at the top of the economic foodchain" and driving a brand-new SUV. If she's happy, great. Many different ways to be happy. The offensive thing is OP's suggestion that the pinnacle of female happiness is to go to yoga and drive an SUV and rub your wealth in other people's faces.

Being wealthy, a good mother and sending your kids to the best schools money can buy is in fact the pinnacle of female happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My niece was a sorority girl at a somewhat selective party college. Majored in communications. Dated a rich boy junior and senior year. Went to NYC after college, has big city fun for a few years working low-prestige jobs, still keeps in touch with the rich guy. Marries the rich guy at age 27. His daddy owns new car dealerships in flyover country. Expensive wedding, move into a custom new $2m lake house in flyover country right after wedding, she drives a new luxury SUV every day. They are the big fish in a small pond.

Template: Stay in shape and sink your claws into a rich boy in college, then reel him back in before your looks fade.

Does she, you know, ever use her brain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's weird how people assume the niece isn't happy. You can fall in love with pleasant wealthy boys... they're not all like Trump's kids, especially the rich boys from flyover states.

Nobody is assuming she isn't happy. OP framed it as ENTIRELY about material advantages and "being at the top of the economic foodchain" and driving a brand-new SUV. If she's happy, great. Many different ways to be happy. The offensive thing is OP's suggestion that the pinnacle of female happiness is to go to yoga and drive an SUV and rub your wealth in other people's faces.

Being wealthy, a good mother and sending your kids to the best schools money can buy is in fact the pinnacle of female happiness.

No, actually it is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's weird how people assume the niece isn't happy. You can fall in love with pleasant wealthy boys... they're not all like Trump's kids, especially the rich boys from flyover states.

Nobody is assuming she isn't happy. OP framed it as ENTIRELY about material advantages and "being at the top of the economic foodchain" and driving a brand-new SUV. If she's happy, great. Many different ways to be happy. The offensive thing is OP's suggestion that the pinnacle of female happiness is to go to yoga and drive an SUV and rub your wealth in other people's faces.

Being wealthy, a good mother and sending your kids to the best schools money can buy is in fact the pinnacle of female happiness.

That has nothing to do with a lake front mansion and a luxury SUV. If your argument is that procuring good genes and resources through marriage for your offspring is the pinnacle of female success I might even be inclined to agree with you (although I think some women are achievement driven in other ways, and they will have a different definition of success and happiness). But you crudely emphasized very silly things and seem quite ignorant about what kinds of environments actually do launch productive, happy children. Ever wonder why so many celebrity children are messed up?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I guess maybe if you're "not bright." I went to a top college and med school, and love my research field. Sorry if she doesn't have a passion like mine.

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I was young and cute and landed the man of my dreams.... then he took HIS dream job in a fly-over state! It pays well and we have everything we need- but wow - there is NOTHING TO DO HERE and i canNOT relate to these people. I just wanna go hommmmmme! Ugh! (oops, time to smile pretty! and tidy up the house!)

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's weird how people assume the niece isn't happy. You can fall in love with pleasant wealthy boys... they're not all like Trump's kids, especially the rich boys from flyover states.

Nobody is assuming she isn't happy. OP framed it as ENTIRELY about material advantages and "being at the top of the economic foodchain" and driving a brand-new SUV. If she's happy, great. Many different ways to be happy. The offensive thing is OP's suggestion that the pinnacle of female happiness is to go to yoga and drive an SUV and rub your wealth in other people's faces.

Being wealthy, a good mother and sending your kids to the best schools money can buy is in fact the pinnacle of female happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's weird how people assume the niece isn't happy. You can fall in love with pleasant wealthy boys... they're not all like Trump's kids, especially the rich boys from flyover states.

Nobody is assuming she isn't happy. OP framed it as ENTIRELY about material advantages and "being at the top of the economic foodchain" and driving a brand-new SUV. If she's happy, great. Many different ways to be happy. The offensive thing is OP's suggestion that the pinnacle of female happiness is to go to yoga and drive an SUV and rub your wealth in other people's faces.

Being wealthy, a good mother and sending your kids to the best schools money can buy is in fact the pinnacle of female happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$2 million near Notre Dame and a Whole Foods gets you

LOL. Are you aware that McMansions in general, and faux-Tudors in particular, are the butt of jokes? I’d have real estate envy for an early 1900s house, but not for that silly developer’s idea of class.

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I'll have to let my best friend who is a pediatric oncologist and who saves babies who have cancer know that she's actually a failure compared to a former sorority girl who lives in a big house.

I'll have to let my sister who recently won a Fulbright scholarship know that she's also a failure because she's not a former sorority girl who lives in a big house.

I'll have to let my friend who runs a nonprofit for children with disabilities know as well.

I'll make sure to let them know that you think they are abject failures who have made poor decisions and are wasting their lives. I'm sure they will have some interesting opinions on that subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's weird how people assume the niece isn't happy. You can fall in love with pleasant wealthy boys... they're not all like Trump's kids, especially the rich boys from flyover states.

Nobody is assuming she isn't happy. OP framed it as ENTIRELY about material advantages and "being at the top of the economic foodchain" and driving a brand-new SUV. If she's happy, great. Many different ways to be happy. The offensive thing is OP's suggestion that the pinnacle of female happiness is to go to yoga and drive an SUV and rub your wealth in other people's faces.

Being wealthy, a good mother and sending your kids to the best schools money can buy is in fact the pinnacle of female happiness.

No, actually it is not.

Actually it is. Watch how smug a woman gets after she lands a rich dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's weird how people assume the niece isn't happy. You can fall in love with pleasant wealthy boys... they're not all like Trump's kids, especially the rich boys from flyover states.

Nobody is assuming she isn't happy. OP framed it as ENTIRELY about material advantages and "being at the top of the economic foodchain" and driving a brand-new SUV. If she's happy, great. Many different ways to be happy. The offensive thing is OP's suggestion that the pinnacle of female happiness is to go to yoga and drive an SUV and rub your wealth in other people's faces.

Being wealthy, a good mother and sending your kids to the best schools money can buy is in fact the pinnacle of female happiness.

No, actually it is not.

Actually it is. Watch how smug a woman gets after she lands a rich dude.

Watch how smug a woman gets when she gets her tenure notification.
Watch how smug a woman gets when she closes on her first house with a downpayment she saved herself.
Watch how smug a woman gets when she graduates from med school.
Watch how smug a woman gets when her clinical trial is successful ...

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why everyone is bagging on the OP -- I agree it's something that I'd want. And I say this as someone who has all the marks of accomplishment important on the east coast -- Wharton undergrad; top law school; NYC biglaw; then we moved to DC for a better family life; DC biglaw; MoCo; top school district; investments etc. And I honestly dream about moving back to my non competitive rural NJ (not north jersey which is NYC competitive) suburb and starting a business -- not a law practice but like opening a Dunkin -- and living off that income + supplementing with our investments which we wouldn't need to bc it's just not that costly.

That doesn't have to be a fantasy. Owning a franchise in an underserved location is a totally legitimate way to live. Go for it!

[Anonymous]

There have been a lot of depressing posts on DCUM but this one is certainly up there. To see grown adults torn as to whether this is a worthy goal in life? Time to re-read a bit of history, literature and behavioral economics research on what really makes people happy. It's not a big house or a rich husband. Sigh...