Physically heterosexual but male entitlement has ruined it for me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree totally OP. A lot of my friends talk about the same thing

Men nowadays are just so.... horrible.

Why do your friends pursue such shitty potential mates?

Why are the potential mates a.k.a. males and so shitty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If only women like OP would make sure to self-identify as bitter third wave feminists. That way sane, non-self hating white men can avoid you and it would save everyone a whole lot of grief.

I got your patriarchy right here, toots!

You are most likely the reason for posts like this, toots!

[Anonymous]

I totally identify OP. And before I get called horrible names my life has been nothing but men who were nothing but shitty to me.

1) my "father" was an alcoholic who could not be a parent in any way, financial, emotional, protective. He pretty much left when I was 11 and I only saw him once since then.

1) early 20's meet a guy who is my first real love. He is in the military, law degree, very loving and attentive. We start a really awesome relationship and then one day, all of a sudden, his wife and kid show up (he was deployed when I met him).

After him I had a lot of trust issues, did some pretty self destructive shit.

3) early 30's meet a guy who I saw myself with for the rest of my life. He was feeling the same. He comes from a good family, highly educated, great job, very loving. Until we accidentally get pregnant. Then all hell broke loose.

I am not saying I didn't play a part but I just don't see how trying again would get me any better than what I had so far. I'm fine being single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally identify OP. And before I get called horrible names my life has been nothing but men who were nothing but shitty to me.

1) my "father" was an alcoholic who could not be a parent in any way, financial, emotional, protective. He pretty much left when I was 11 and I only saw him once since then.

1) early 20's meet a guy who is my first real love. He is in the military, law degree, very loving and attentive. We start a really awesome relationship and then one day, all of a sudden, his wife and kid show up (he was deployed when I met him).

After him I had a lot of trust issues, did some pretty self destructive shit.

3) early 30's meet a guy who I saw myself with for the rest of my life. He was feeling the same. He comes from a good family, highly educated, great job, very loving. Until we accidentally get pregnant. Then all hell broke loose.

I am not saying I didn't play a part but I just don't see how trying again would get me any better than what I had so far. I'm fine being single.

I would say you got unlucky but this is just pretty much the norm. Statistics say that a lot of men are total fing losers

[Anonymous]

http://everydayfeminism.com/2017/03/done-being-told-not-be-too-picky/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally identify OP. And before I get called horrible names my life has been nothing but men who were nothing but shitty to me.

1) my "father" was an alcoholic who could not be a parent in any way, financial, emotional, protective. He pretty much left when I was 11 and I only saw him once since then.

1) early 20's meet a guy who is my first real love. He is in the military, law degree, very loving and attentive. We start a really awesome relationship and then one day, all of a sudden, his wife and kid show up (he was deployed when I met him).

After him I had a lot of trust issues, did some pretty self destructive shit.

3) early 30's meet a guy who I saw myself with for the rest of my life. He was feeling the same. He comes from a good family, highly educated, great job, very loving. Until we accidentally get pregnant. Then all hell broke loose.

I am not saying I didn't play a part but I just don't see how trying again would get me any better than what I had so far. I'm fine being single.

I think it's telling that you put "military & law degree" and "good family, highly educated, and great job" before "loving & attentive." The other stuff is nice, but it's the loyalty, love, and affection that should be your primary focus when looking for a significant other. I wonder if you're making some mistakes because you're looking for the father figure you never had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally identify OP. And before I get called horrible names my life has been nothing but men who were nothing but shitty to me.

1) my "father" was an alcoholic who could not be a parent in any way, financial, emotional, protective. He pretty much left when I was 11 and I only saw him once since then.

1) early 20's meet a guy who is my first real love. He is in the military, law degree, very loving and attentive. We start a really awesome relationship and then one day, all of a sudden, his wife and kid show up (he was deployed when I met him).

After him I had a lot of trust issues, did some pretty self destructive shit.

3) early 30's meet a guy who I saw myself with for the rest of my life. He was feeling the same. He comes from a good family, highly educated, great job, very loving. Until we accidentally get pregnant. Then all hell broke loose.

I am not saying I didn't play a part but I just don't see how trying again would get me any better than what I had so far. I'm fine being single.

I think it's telling that you put "military & law degree" and "good family, highly educated, and great job" before "loving & attentive." The other stuff is nice, but it's the loyalty, love, and affection that should be your primary focus when looking for a significant other. I wonder if you're making some mistakes because you're looking for the father figure you never had.

That was only to point out that I wasn't seeking out losers with no education or prospects just because " i fell in love." Of course "loving and attentive" was the priority. But I don't see how anything I did would have prompted a man to flat out lie for two years about being married and having a family. But I can imagine that my dad leaving and not being in my life probably affected me and contributed to how I experienced these men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://everydayfeminism.com/2017/03/done-being-told-not-be-too-picky/

Sure this assumes that you are some how special. It's mostly an ego trip. The sad facts are if a man makes a lot of money, has a degree from a big named university, family money and/or prestigious job, he has his pick of women. If you as a woman do not bring any of those things to the table why do you think you should end up with a man who does? Feminism is about women's egos writing checks they real life can't cash. Keep the bitterness alive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:http://everydayfeminism.com/2017/03/done-being-told-not-be-too-picky/

Sure this assumes that you are some how special. It's mostly an ego trip. The sad facts are if a man makes a lot of money, has a degree from a big named university, family money and/or prestigious job, he has his pick of women. If you as a woman do not bring any of those things to the table why do you think you should end up with a man who does? Feminism is about women's egos writing checks they real life can't cash. Keep the bitterness alive.

You are the only bitter one.

[Anonymous]

I actually appreciate this trend of women who have issues with men voluntarily removing themselves from the dating pool. Sorry you had a bad father, boyfriends, etc., but I don't want to place myself in a position where I am going to be paying for their sins.

In fairness, there's a whole analogous trend of "men going it alone," which is an actual movement. I'm wondering if this was always a thing, or if the Internet has exacerbate it. Maybe we'll get to a point where only Super Alpha Bros and Super Models actually reproduce and everyone else just gets hooked up to virtual reality simulators and checks out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually appreciate this trend of women who have issues with men voluntarily removing themselves from the dating pool. Sorry you had a bad father, boyfriends, etc., but I don't want to place myself in a position where I am going to be paying for their sins.

In fairness, there's a whole analogous trend of "men going it alone," which is an actual movement. I'm wondering if this was always a thing, or if the Internet has exacerbate it. Maybe we'll get to a point where only Super Alpha Bros and Super Models actually reproduce and everyone else just gets hooked up to virtual reality simulators and checks out.

except that is an oxymoron. It doesn't exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually appreciate this trend of women who have issues with men voluntarily removing themselves from the dating pool. Sorry you had a bad father, boyfriends, etc., but I don't want to place myself in a position where I am going to be paying for their sins.

In fairness, there's a whole analogous trend of "men going it alone," which is an actual movement. I'm wondering if this was always a thing, or if the Internet has exacerbate it. Maybe we'll get to a point where only Super Alpha Bros and Super Models actually reproduce and everyone else just gets hooked up to virtual reality simulators and checks out.

IT says a lot that you would use those two as the ultimate form of male and female in the world. I am so happy I decided to stay single instead of run into someone like you.

[Anonymous]

If you're attracting shitty men, you need to improve yourself. I meet many, many nice, well adjusted men.

Misandry is no better than rage against women.

[Anonymous]

Just one guy's experience, but my wife isn't supermodel hot. But, I think she's pretty, funny, kind, loyal, a good mom, super organized, an innovative businesswoman, and generally kind of a bad ass. I'm not particularly an alpha, but I'm no one's pushover. I'm a good dad, a good husband, reasonably attractive, stay healthy, and have moderately good hygiene. (I tend not to shower on Sundays).

She's a feminist. We get along very well, and our family seems pretty happy. So, it can happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually appreciate this trend of women who have issues with men voluntarily removing themselves from the dating pool. Sorry you had a bad father, boyfriends, etc., but I don't want to place myself in a position where I am going to be paying for their sins.

In fairness, there's a whole analogous trend of "men going it alone," which is an actual movement. I'm wondering if this was always a thing, or if the Internet has exacerbate it. Maybe we'll get to a point where only Super Alpha Bros and Super Models actually reproduce and everyone else just gets hooked up to virtual reality simulators and checks out.

IT says a lot that you would use those two as the ultimate form of male and female in the world. I am so happy I decided to stay single instead of run into someone like you.

If you weren't impaired, you clearly understand that those terms are used sardonically. But I'm glad you decided to stay single too!