Physically heterosexual but male entitlement has ruined it for me

[Anonymous]

Here you go, ladies:

Janelle Monáe Thinks Women Should Consider a Sex Strike

"Until every man is fighting for our rights, we should consider stopping having sex. I love men. But evil men? I will not tolerate that. You don’t deserve to be in my presence. If you’re going to own this world and this is how you’re going to rule this world, I am not going to contribute anymore until you change it."

http://jezebel.com/janelle-monae-thinks-women-should-consider-a-sex-strike-1794171500

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I actually appreciate this trend of women who have issues with men voluntarily removing themselves from the dating pool. Sorry you had a bad father, boyfriends, etc., but I don't want to place myself in a position where I am going to be paying for their sins.

In fairness, there's a whole analogous trend of "men going it alone," which is an actual movement. I'm wondering if this was always a thing, or if the Internet has exacerbate it. Maybe we'll get to a point where only Super Alpha Bros and Super Models actually reproduce and everyone else just gets hooked up to virtual reality simulators and checks out.

IT says a lot that you would use those two as the ultimate form of male and female in the world. I am so happy I decided to stay single instead of run into someone like you.

If you weren't impaired, you clearly understand that those terms are used sardonically. But I'm glad you decided to stay single too!

And I'm much happier for it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree totally OP. A lot of my friends talk about the same thing

Men nowadays are just so.... horrible.

Why do your friends pursue such shitty potential mates?

Why are the potential mates a.k.a. males and so shitty?

Can't answer a question with a question. Nobody puts guns to the heads of women in this country and forces them to marry. There are no arranged marriages here. Thus, women are responsible for the mates they choose. Take responsibility for your own life and your own good (or bad) choices.

[Anonymous]

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I would say you got unlucky but this is just pretty much the norm.

I laffed

[Anonymous]

FOr a good example of the entitlement to which OP refers, check out the current thread by the guy who is soon to be married but in love with another woman. The entitlement of the OP of that thread - his intent to continue with the marriage and not tell his soon to be wife of hos feelings for another woman - is stunning. Equally as stunning is the advice from numerous posters along the lines of "a bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush." Apparently, there are numerous people who think the OP of that thread is perfectly entitled to lie and manipulate this poor woman into marriage with him.

I recognize not all men are like this, but the entitlement that OP mentions is so deeply entrenched and widespread in society, that it does put a damper on the desire to form partnerships of all but the most limited kinds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FOr a good example of the entitlement to which OP refers, check out the current thread by the guy who is soon to be married but in love with another woman. The entitlement of the OP of that thread - his intent to continue with the marriage and not tell his soon to be wife of hos feelings for another woman - is stunning. Equally as stunning is the advice from numerous posters along the lines of "a bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush." Apparently, there are numerous people who think the OP of that thread is perfectly entitled to lie and manipulate this poor woman into marriage with him.

I recognize not all men are like this, but the entitlement that OP mentions is so deeply entrenched and widespread in society, that it does put a damper on the desire to form partnerships of all but the most limited kinds.

But his fiance is "kind and simple woman" who apparently deserves whatever this asshole dishes out.

[Anonymous]

The guy wants to cheat on his fiancée or wife. That's infidelity. That's very wrong.

Women do it too. How is "male entitlement" a useful term here? It's cheating, adultery.

[Anonymous]

I deserve the trophy husband I rescued from his first wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FOr a good example of the entitlement to which OP refers, check out the current thread by the guy who is soon to be married but in love with another woman. The entitlement of the OP of that thread - his intent to continue with the marriage and not tell his soon to be wife of hos feelings for another woman - is stunning. Equally as stunning is the advice from numerous posters along the lines of "a bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush." Apparently, there are numerous people who think the OP of that thread is perfectly entitled to lie and manipulate this poor woman into marriage with him.

I recognize not all men are like this, but the entitlement that OP mentions is so deeply entrenched and widespread in society, that it does put a damper on the desire to form partnerships of all but the most limited kinds.

This is hardly unique to men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The OP phrased it oddly, but I can sort of see her point.

I'm a straight white female and this whole last year or two has made me sort of low-level pissed off at straight white dudes who act in an entitled fashion.

If I ever had time to date (I'm a single mom of a young kid and we are very active), it would probably affect my love life. It probably does affect my love life in that I'm less inclined to make the effort to date because I'm low-level annoyed at straight white guys. (my usual type.)

If I was on the market, I might be more attracted to men of color myself. It's hard to find a white man who actually understands what it's like to live in this system and not be at the top. I've only met a handful in my life. Good catches, those ones.

If you really think men of color do not feel entitled to a woman's body and her decisionmaking abilities, I've got a bridge to sell you.

Yeah, I'm a "person of color" who finds attitudes like the two PPs who ponder running off to non-white men pretty off-putting and dehumanizing, to be frank.

Non-white dudes can be sexist too. They're men just like white men are. Take people on an individual level to see that they match what you're looking for.

I know. It's like oh I am going to punish the white men by running off with a man of color! Its wrong on so many levels. It really show how narcissistic feminists are. New flash...no one cares who you date( the expection being the poor man who gets stuck with you).

Who's punishing? I think you all have it wrong. Seems like PP is just searching for a guy who understands what it's like to not be in a position of total privilege. Makes sense to me. A few white guys I've dated have had nearly zero ability to empathize with what it's like to be a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guy wants to cheat on his fiancée or wife. That's infidelity. That's very wrong.

Women do it too. How is "male entitlement" a useful term here? It's cheating, adultery.

Because it's easier to be sexist and stereotype(just don't do it to white women... because that is wrong)

[Anonymous]

This thread is boring. A bunch of "womyn" yapping about who knows what. Tone it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is boring. A bunch of "womyn" yapping about who knows what. Tone it down.

Careful, your misogyny is showing.

[Anonymous]

American women talking about entitlement is a little silly. The disparity between the privilege of American men and American women is a rounding error when compared to the privilege of either of them to the people of the rest of the world.

[Anonymous]

Nope. The privilege of men worldwide is gross, as it is in the US.