Physically heterosexual but male entitlement has ruined it for me

[Anonymous]

Ha ha OP. I feel you. I can't imagine ever dating again if I extricate myself from the shitastic sit I am in. Maybe a few one night stands and friendships. But I cannot see myself entering into any sort of partnership with a man. The women I know are just so much ... better!

[Anonymous]

I am male. I have often thought, if it wasn't for the sex part, being gay might not be bad. I would never have to watch old black and white movies again.

I do the cooking, and earn the money (well 95% of it it). I share it...My wife takes care of the day-to-day appointments.

Due to medical constraints, I can no longer to the heavy lifting (e.g., snow shoveling), but....

The problem is you are with guys that never lived on their own. I had to learn to cook, clean, do laundry because from age 20 to 31, I had sole responsibility for my life.

You shack up at 23, there is no living on your own. Sure, you are not getting married young, but....

[Anonymous]

Sadly, being female offers no immunity to entitlement, as OP herself illustrates. Can you really argue that the patriarchy has left you with not one man worthy of your affection, OP? No, you are just using it as an excuse to feel superior. In doing so you dishonor the achievements of of all the women before us who overcame oppressors who similarly felt they were superior due to sex alone.

[Anonymous]

OP, based on the way you write and the terms you use (wanting a feminist man, patriarchy) I assume you are in college or a recent grad.

Men at that age are not terribly mature. They get better with age. Hang in there. Don't end up alone just because of some imagined principles. There are great men out there you will miss if you have your guard up.

[Anonymous]

Funniest damn thread on here in a long time. Well done ladies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am male. I have often thought, if it wasn't for the sex part, being gay might not be bad. I would never have to watch old black and white movies again.

I do the cooking, and earn the money (well 95% of it it). I share it...My wife takes care of the day-to-day appointments.

Due to medical constraints, I can no longer to the heavy lifting (e.g., snow shoveling), but....

The problem is you are with guys that never lived on their own. I had to learn to cook, clean, do laundry because from age 20 to 31, I had sole responsibility for my life.

You shack up at 23, there is no living on your own. Sure, you are not getting married young, but....

See how pathetic... Omg you have to watch a movie ... How do you manage?

We are not in Kansas, nobody is shacking up at 23.

You are exactly the guy I want to avoid. Your wife is not a partner, she is just sex you don't have to work for ...and by work I mean be nice, care, actually take pleasure in her interests. You gave turned your wife into a prostitute. You make money, she has sex... Besides sex you'd rather marry a guy.

[Anonymous]

My best friend is a widow at 45. I ask around... To men (and women).

Do you know any nice single guys. Requirement.. He is nice and has a job making at least $65K.

She does not need somebody to support her she has her own money. She has kids, so a nice guy to model good behavior, like being nice and having a job... Cook a meal, doesn't drink too much... Carries his plate to the sink.

Nothing... Nobody.

Men sit and think... Nope.. Not one.

This is not just something women think.

Really, can you think of one person you would set up with your sister?One? That is the test. Do you want this guy banging your sister , raising your nephews/nieces and at your family holidays?

I bet you can't think of 1.

[Anonymous]

What's your question?

[Anonymous]

It took me 20 years of dating to find Ms. Right. It didn't happen until I stopped trying to find a life partner and instead focussed on just getting out there, and engaging in activities and work I enjoy. Being happy is very attractive to the opposite sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It took me 20 years of dating to find Ms. Right. It didn't happen until I stopped trying to find a life partner and instead focussed on just getting out there, and engaging in activities and work I enjoy. Being happy is very attractive to the opposite sex.

It does not seem like OP is having at hard time finding men. That is not the issue, she is attractive to men, they are not attractive to her.

[Anonymous]

The lack of self awareness by the women in the forum makes for the best reading I get to do all week. This is gold Jerry!

[Anonymous]

I guess there are all these great women out there that just can't find an equal match. Hilarious

[Anonymous]

You read this board and think that men are the entitled ones?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend is a widow at 45. I ask around... To men (and women).

Do you know any nice single guys. Requirement.. He is nice and has a job making at least $65K.

She does not need somebody to support her she has her own money. She has kids, so a nice guy to model good behavior, like being nice and having a job... Cook a meal, doesn't drink too much... Carries his plate to the sink.

Nothing... Nobody.

Men sit and think... Nope.. Not one.

This is not just something women think.

Really, can you think of one person you would set up with your sister?One? That is the test. Do you want this guy banging your sister , raising your nephews/nieces and at your family holidays?

I bet you can't think of 1.

I'm a 52 yo woman working in an IT Department with 600 employees. I actually know a lot of guys that meet your requirements above.

I don't know what your experience is that has made you so bitter. I didn't get married until I was 35. I'd never met someone I wanted to marry before dating DH but I never had your attitude. I just hadn't found the right fit for me. That didn't mean all men were entitled or immature or whatever adjective you ascribe to them. Individuals are a 'package' of traits and I hadn't found the right package yet. And, like with any package, there are some things you don't really want but aren't deal breakers.

You need to realize the probem is you and not 50% of the population. This attitude with stymie you not just personally but professionally. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're attracted to guys, but they piss you off too much to date them?

This is not uncommon. Happens a lot with women who have been sexually abused by men.