Teen puts down my profession

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.

Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

LOL omg, imagine if I said, no I would be upset if he was a nurse. People would bash me. I can't win.

[Anonymous]

Why Is OP getting flack for using the word "gifted"?
Did anyone read the other thread about making students gifted? Everyone is using that work, but OP is bashed for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.

Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

LOL omg, imagine if I said, no I would be upset if he was a nurse. People would bash me. I can't win.

You would be upset if your kid becomes a nurse. You know he is capable of more than that, and you should encourage him to set his sights higher than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.

Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

LOL omg, imagine if I said, no I would be upset if he was a nurse. People would bash me. I can't win.

You would be upset if your kid becomes a nurse. You know he is capable of more than that, and you should encourage him to set his sights higher than that.

No, I am happy to let him choose his own profession.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why Is OP getting flack for using the word "gifted"?
Did anyone read the other thread about making students gifted? Everyone is using that work, but OP is bashed for it.

There is lots of gifted jealousy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Some of you are a joke. My kids listened to everything when the were little. Wait until they are 16. God, you sound stupid.

I totally agree. Our kids were raised with defined limits, appropriate and consistent discipline, etc. Once they hit puberty, things changed. They were annoying as fuck but all 'normal'. The rigidity on this thread is more frightening than some minor teen attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Some of you are a joke. My kids listened to everything when the were little. Wait until they are 16. God, you sound stupid.

I totally agree. Our kids were raised with defined limits, appropriate and consistent discipline, etc. Once they hit puberty, things changed. They were annoying as fuck but all 'normal'. The rigidity on this thread is more frightening than some minor teen attitude.

Yes, but if your teen said you he was smarter than you, that you were lazy, would you just say, "oh, it's normal teen angst" and shrug it off? IMO, this isn't minor teen attitude. The "I hate you, you're the worst parent in the world" statement, I get, but some of what OP's teen has stated doesn't seem like the "normal" teen attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.

Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

LOL omg, imagine if I said, no I would be upset if he was a nurse. People would bash me. I can't win.

Then his grades are probably fine. He can go to a state school, get into a nursing program that is fine and become a nurse.

What is the issue? Does he gets all F's, or did he get a B in a class that he could have gotten an A.

You have to realize that you are sending a message to your child that is making him angry and he is responding with ... drum roll please.. anger.

It is not okay that he is disrespectful, but you need to figure out how you are contributing to this.

There are tons of books on teens... how to talk so teens will listen, the 5 love languages of teens, etc.

You are pushing him away when you need to build an adult relationship with him. He is pulling away because he will be an adult soon and he needs to make his own decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take away anything your salary pays for. Snacks out with friends after school? Gone. Money for shopping? Gone. Cool new sneakers? Gone. New baseball hat? Gone.

Also, Dad needs to shut your son down when he talks like this. Both because it's disrespectful to his wife, and because it's unacceptable for your son to talk to his mother that way.

I was wondering how this was possibly going to be the dad's fault in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Some of you are a joke. My kids listened to everything when the were little. Wait until they are 16. God, you sound stupid.

I totally agree. Our kids were raised with defined limits, appropriate and consistent discipline, etc. Once they hit puberty, things changed. They were annoying as fuck but all 'normal'. The rigidity on this thread is more frightening than some minor teen attitude.

Yes, but if your teen said you he was smarter than you, that you were lazy, would you just say, "oh, it's normal teen angst" and shrug it off? IMO, this isn't minor teen attitude. The "I hate you, you're the worst parent in the world" statement, I get, but some of what OP's teen has stated doesn't seem like the "normal" teen attitude.

This stuff that you call normal, seems worse that hat OP's son said.

[Anonymous]

Than what

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Some of you are a joke. My kids listened to everything when the were little. Wait until they are 16. God, you sound stupid.

I totally agree. Our kids were raised with defined limits, appropriate and consistent discipline, etc. Once they hit puberty, things changed. They were annoying as fuck but all 'normal'. The rigidity on this thread is more frightening than some minor teen attitude.

Yes, but if your teen said you he was smarter than you, that you were lazy, would you just say, "oh, it's normal teen angst" and shrug it off? IMO, this isn't minor teen attitude. The "I hate you, you're the worst parent in the world" statement, I get, but some of what OP's teen has stated doesn't seem like the "normal" teen attitude.

I disagree. (Not PP from above.)

My teen is smarter than me about a LOT of things. I can't just pretend I know everything, it is disingenuous... they can smell bull shit a mile away.

The OP's teen said, "I am going to make more money than you" ... that is correct, it hurt her feelings because it is true. If she was making tons of money her feeling would not been hurt and she would have said, "not by a long shot".

It is very normal in this private school, private tutor, private trainer, SAT prep you need to get a 4.5 GPA and a perfect SAT score just to get into UMD-CP.

Kids are sick and tired of their parents telling them they are not good enough. That is what the OP told her son "You are not good enough" "You don't work hard enough" and "Your grades suck" "You are lazy".

she may not have said those exact words, but that is what she said to him.

If the kid has all C's and a few D's... okay, come to jesus time, but what is the deal, he got a B on a test? what is the issue?

he does not "work hard enough" to "reach his potential"... what does that even mean.

If you get all B's or higher you can keep your phone.. that is measurable and understandable. If you get all A's and a perfect SAT we will still love you is basically the message she is sending... no wonder he gave her the big FU (Because you IQ is so high)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take away anything your salary pays for. Snacks out with friends after school? Gone. Money for shopping? Gone. Cool new sneakers? Gone. New baseball hat? Gone.

Also, Dad needs to shut your son down when he talks like this. Both because it's disrespectful to his wife, and because it's unacceptable for your son to talk to his mother that way.

I was wondering how this was possibly going to be the dad's fault in some way.

That's a natural dad role to take with a teen. That's their job basically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.

Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

LOL omg, imagine if I said, no I would be upset if he was a nurse. People would bash me. I can't win.

Then his grades are probably fine. He can go to a state school, get into a nursing program that is fine and become a nurse.

What is the issue? Does he gets all F's, or did he get a B in a class that he could have gotten an A.

You have to realize that you are sending a message to your child that is making him angry and he is responding with ... drum roll please.. anger.

It is not okay that he is disrespectful, but you need to figure out how you are contributing to this.

There are tons of books on teens... how to talk so teens will listen, the 5 love languages of teens, etc.

You are pushing him away when you need to build an adult relationship with him. He is pulling away because he will be an adult soon and he needs to make his own decisions.

Her breathing or existing might be making him angry. It's impossible to quell the snark entirely but it's not acceptable to express every stupid mean thought that pops into a teens head. Limits are a part of good parenting. It's time for me critical to get a clue. No ones doing him any favors by allowing him to treat his mom like crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.

Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

LOL omg, imagine if I said, no I would be upset if he was a nurse. People would bash me. I can't win.

You would be upset if your kid becomes a nurse. You know he is capable of more than that, and you should encourage him to set his sights higher than that.

Attitudes like yours are part of the kid's problem. I am an RN. I love my career. I love what I do. I left my career as an attorney to be a nurse. Nursing school was way harder than law school. It's the toughest thing that I have ever done. If someone completes nursing school, they don't need to do "more than that." It isn't a step down.