no, husband, i'm not being a "control freak" for wanting you to have a passport

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe all the people who are reluctant to spend $110 on a new passport. If money's that tight, you certainly won't be going on any international travel anytime soon.

In terms of the marital dynamic, if I were OP, I wouldn't insist the H get a passport. Men don't do well with abstract reasons. Wait until there's a trip planned, and let him scramble to get his passport renewed. Men would rather screw up than have their wives direct them. I know, I've been married almost 20 years.

I can't believe grown-ups can be this bad at reading I bet many PPs here are much better off than OP, because they don't spend a hundred here and a hundred there without an actual reason

OP, is your closet bursting with clothes you bought five years ago and haven't had a chance to wear?

Another cheap ass.

You must be drowning in credit card debt like the rest of the country. Sad.

+1. I have never met a non-independently wealthy person "who loved to travel internationally" who didn't also have at least 10K on credit cards. At least.

hi. meet me.

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Anonymous wrote:this is just a vent, no advice needed: my husband's passport has been expired for a year. i've been asking him, for a year, to get it renewed.

this weekend, i finally dragged him to cvs to get his passport photos taken. today, i asked him to please fill out the passport renewal form so that i could bring it to the post office and send it off. so that we have passports. his response is that i am being a "control freak" and why can't he do this on his own timeline.

because that means that it WILL NEVER HAPPEN is why.

just, background: i spent most of my 20s and 30s living overseas. husband has been overseas basically once, when his parents took him to europe. he almost lived in canada once with an ex but that fell through. obviously, travel and being able to travel is clearly more important to me - and it's something we haven't done at all in the 7 years we've been together. we've traveled a lot in the US, never overseas - except to canada, once.

so, yes, this is extremely frustrating to me. it's frustrating that my husband doesn't have the same wanderlust - but i made peace with that, before i married him. but refusing to get his passport renewed - and making out as if i am the bad guy, as if i am unreasonable, for wanting him to do it - just makes me feel so sad and frustrated.

no, we're not getting a divorce. yes, he has other redeeming qualities. i don't need advice. just annoyed AF.

Wrong husband, sorry.

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I am on OP's side here. Don't you need to go in person to the post office? (In other words, he would need to go to the post office.) I admittedly have not read this entire thread so I apologize if this has already been addressed.

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Anonymous wrote:I am on OP's side here. Don't you need to go in person to the post office? (In other words, he would need to go to the post office.) I admittedly have not read this entire thread so I apologize if this has already been addressed.

Not for a typical renewal.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe all the people who are reluctant to spend $110 on a new passport. If money's that tight, you certainly won't be going on any international travel anytime soon.

In terms of the marital dynamic, if I were OP, I wouldn't insist the H get a passport. Men don't do well with abstract reasons. Wait until there's a trip planned, and let him scramble to get his passport renewed. Men would rather screw up than have their wives direct them. I know, I've been married almost 20 years.

I can't believe grown-ups can be this bad at reading I bet many PPs here are much better off than OP, because they don't spend a hundred here and a hundred there without an actual reason

OP, is your closet bursting with clothes you bought five years ago and haven't had a chance to wear?

Another cheap ass.

You must be drowning in credit card debt like the rest of the country. Sad.

+1. I have never met a non-independently wealthy person "who loved to travel internationally" who didn't also have at least 10K on credit cards. At least.

hi. meet me.

Me as well... Just got back from Jamaica, no cc debt (or any other kind for that matter.) Not wealthy at all, just know how to plan.