How old were you when you first had sex?

[Anonymous]

20. He was my second boyfriend--I had a boyfriend at the end of high school, but hardly dated at all in college. We were together for seven months, which seemed like an eternity of a grownup relationship at the time!

We remained friends for a while after breaking up--we were in the same group of friends to start with, and still hung out together with our subsequent partners, who were also parts of our friend group--but haven't seen or talked to each other in almost 15 years. I'm happily married with kids, and according to mutual friends, so is he. I don't feel any desire to contact him, and I'm happy he's happy.

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Anonymous wrote:25 late bloomer. However I am very religious. We are Facebook friends

You can't be that religious if you had sex outside of marriage

Just because I committed a sin doesn't mean I'm not that religious. I'm perfectly aware that I could burn in hell for what I did. I still believe in God. Just because I make mistakes doesn't mean I stop believing in my religion.

I would relax about the whole "burning in hell" thing if I were you. I don't mean to mock your religion, but it is a bit childish.

Childish ? I worry about it everyday. Not just the sex thing of course but every mistake I've ever made. Burning in hell is real, most people won't go to heaven. Where else do we all go ? Hell. I refuse to have kids because of it. I can't imagine creating someone who will one day be on fire for all eternity.

This is why religion bothers me so much. Instead of bringing peace and comfort to some people, it scares the shit out of them, has them live a life of fear.

Pp--please don't worry about it every day. If hell does exist, it won't be for people like you. It would be for murderers. But what if it doesn't exist? You would be wasting a lot of time obsessing about it. Take comfort that you're a good person, pp.

[Anonymous]

Male here, 21 which felt like forever. But I was a chubby stoner nice guy in high school and college, tons of friends but not the kind of guy women wanted to sleep with. Lost the weight, quit the weed and made up for lost time pretty quickly.

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Anonymous wrote:25 late bloomer. However I am very religious. We are Facebook friends

You can't be that religious if you had sex outside of marriage

Just because I committed a sin doesn't mean I'm not that religious. I'm perfectly aware that I could burn in hell for what I did. I still believe in God. Just because I make mistakes doesn't mean I stop believing in my religion.

I would relax about the whole "burning in hell" thing if I were you. I don't mean to mock your religion, but it is a bit childish.

Childish ? I worry about it everyday. Not just the sex thing of course but every mistake I've ever made. Burning in hell is real, most people won't go to heaven. Where else do we all go ? Hell. I refuse to have kids because of it. I can't imagine creating someone who will one day be on fire for all eternity.

This is why religion bothers me so much. Instead of bringing peace and comfort to some people, it scares the shit out of them, has them live a life of fear.

Pp--please don't worry about it every day. If hell does exist, it won't be for people like you. It would be for murderers. But what if it doesn't exist? You would be wasting a lot of time obsessing about it. Take comfort that you're a good person, pp.

In the Catholic view, sin is an expected part of life, and so is repentance, grace and forgiveness. Why would God want you to burn in hell for every misstep in the forced choice pop-quiz we call life? Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

15 -- we're FB friends, but don't communicate with each other. We have nothing in common now. But, at the time, he was the love of my life. Very cute, awesome athlete, charming, funny, etc. But he was one of those guys whose best years were in high school.

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Anonymous wrote:Male here, 21 which felt like forever. But I was a chubby stoner nice guy in high school and college, tons of friends but not the kind of guy women wanted to sleep with. Lost the weight, quit the weed and made up for lost time pretty quickly.

Guess you know the chubby came from the munchies!

[Anonymous]

17 high school hottie. We bonded tight . Got caught by a ranger at great falls in mid hobble once. She broke up with me then wanted back, I was so mad I made her wear her old private school uniform and bent her over the couch (unforgettably hott). We dated through sophomore year. We don't keep in touch , she married rich.

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Anonymous wrote:25 late bloomer. However I am very religious. We are Facebook friends

You can't be that religious if you had sex outside of marriage

Just because I committed a sin doesn't mean I'm not that religious. I'm perfectly aware that I could burn in hell for what I did. I still believe in God. Just because I make mistakes doesn't mean I stop believing in my religion.

I would relax about the whole "burning in hell" thing if I were you. I don't mean to mock your religion, but it is a bit childish.

Childish ? I worry about it everyday. Not just the sex thing of course but every mistake I've ever made. Burning in hell is real, most people won't go to heaven. Where else do we all go ? Hell. I refuse to have kids because of it. I can't imagine creating someone who will one day be on fire for all eternity.

No one, even the most religious, is sin free. You don't burn in hell for sin - someone else did that for us. Ask for forgiveness, try your best and move on.

[Anonymous]

^^in Christianity there is only one unforgivable sin.. Rejecting that Christ is your savior and not appreciating the gift.

[Anonymous]

19, and I married him. I do regret not having more experiences, both sexual and just romantic. I feel like we both have some emotional immaturity in the relationship because we didn't go through a lot of adult relationships that can educate you on what normal trials and tribulations are.

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Anonymous wrote:DH was 8, and said the girl was 12 or 13. Next encounter was years later. I've always felt uncomfortable about this. Is it molestation when there are two under aged children, but one significantly more mature than the other?

Is your DH okay with you telling people this I know it's anonymous but it's still a pretty private thing.

Anyway, the situations you describe are hard for me, because though the girl was older than your husband, she was still very young and likely acting out her own abuse. It's difficult for me to cal another child an abuse or molester, I feel sad for both kids involved.

PP here. I've never told a soul. I was scared to post this. I haven't even told my therapist. BTW I feel the same about it as you. I think the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you still have a relationship with that person?

19 and yes I'm still with him.

Someone has a nice little black book here.

[Anonymous]

25. Not because of religious objections, but because I wanted to make sure I was through college and started on my career. I didn't want to get derailed from my goals by being in a relationship or by a pregnancy.

Almost 30 years later, he is my DH and we are still happy together. While I might have moved it up a few years, waiting ended up being a great choice for me. I saw so many of my friends with pregnancy scares or on a terrible emotional roller coaster with some very immature guys. Waiting until out of college meant we both had our own places, some money, and could just live it up and focus on ourselves.

[Anonymous]

15, we are not friends

Sex means different things to different people. I have a relative who is in her 30s and waiting for marriage. I know other people who have sex out the gate because they refuse to date someone who is not sexually compatible with them.

I don't wish I had waited for marriage but I do wish I had waited until I was older and more emotionally mature.

[Anonymous]

Male, 21 and although she has contacted me on FB, have no desire to connect. What I do regret is never being anyone's first. Happily married with active sex life but feel like I missed something.