They want us to pay for their travel

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Anonymous wrote:Point of clarification, which of these things happened:

1. You/DH offered the free awards tickets, and the in-laws said "we don't fly that airline, dear"
OR
2. You told your husband that he should offer them the awards tickets and he told you "they don't fly that airline, dear"


Huge difference.

OP, can you answer this question? You have never addressed it clearly, and people are assuming the inlaws are the jerks here, when it could also by your husband (or both).

Sorry. It was number 1. To DH's credit, he was a little taken aback, but told me he didn't know what else we could do.

Are you f... joking?

No. His exactly words were, "It's really important to us, so it's really important to them, so they need to be here." I want to tear my hair out.

If it's so important to them, they'll use the free tickets.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, did this get resolved?

They aren't coming. DH finally admitted that since they really don't care about the baptism itself, it doesn't make much sense to go out of our way for them like that.

I don't think he's told them that yet though.

Nice! Hopefully this will be a good start to deciding more big things between yourselves. Parents just can't have equal say in a marriage - not that we can't respect them and take their advice, but husband and wife need to be the team to ultimately decide together how they want things to be.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, did this get resolved?

They aren't coming. DH finally admitted that since they really don't care about the baptism itself, it doesn't make much sense to go out of our way for them like that.

I don't think he's told them that yet though.

Weeeeellllll.... I'll believe it when I see it.

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Sorry this would be my hill to die on! Let me get this straight, they want you to buy tix, and are forcing you have a party, and they arent kicking in a damn dime. Tell you husband, its time to get out of his mommys vagina!

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This is why they will divorce in just s few years. Not ILs of course. OP and her DH.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why they will divorce in just s few years. Not ILs of course. OP and her DH.

Why? Because he came to his senses?

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For what it is worth expectation management is something you and your husband are going to have to settle right away with your in-laws. Baptism is important, but it is going to add up quick if you End up paying for their travel expenses to visit when they come. If it is important for them they will save and pay For themselves, if you cannot afford it. Your in laws knew from day 1 of the marriage, pregnancy there was a possibility of a baptism. Maybe one day you can buy them tickets. I feel for you, my husband constantly babies his parents. I feel the parents of the husband tend to always feel a Little neglected. Maybe they think you all are paying for your parents and are upset.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, wouldn't do it. This is setting a dangerous precedent.

And who the f*** says no to free tickets because it's not an airline they fly? That's rude! Beggars can't be choosers.

They are die hard SWA fans, as much as you can be die hard fans of an airline when you only fly every 5 years. I'd thought about springing for first class for them (finally a use for the 700,000 miles I've got stashed), but not after this!

700,000 miles? You must fly alot for work. No to the other airline isn't OK BS. We don't use SWA much right now since our most common flights would require using BWI. If they really are crazy enough to decline the nice points flight book them on a SWA wanna get away for whenever you get the lowest price, route it with stops if equally priced, and land them at BWI. No early bird check in and let them be in the back of cattle shutes.

Use your points for a crappy hotel [whatever is cheapest] and let them pay their own local transportation.

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and NO pick up drop off at the airport! BWI to DC on amtrak and then the metro and a cab or bus or foot to your house.