They want us to pay for their travel

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, wouldn't do it. This is setting a dangerous precedent.

And who the f*** says no to free tickets because it's not an airline they fly? That's rude! Beggars can't be choosers.

They are die hard SWA fans, as much as you can be die hard fans of an airline when you only fly every 5 years. I'd thought about springing for first class for them (finally a use for the 700,000 miles I've got stashed), but not after this!

I'd tell your husband they either take the free tickets or it's nothing. And yeah, I'd die on this hill.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, wouldn't do it. This is setting a dangerous precedent.

And who the f*** says no to free tickets because it's not an airline they fly? That's rude! Beggars can't be choosers.

That part is just insane.

Can you just do a lunch afterwards? That's what we did - wasn't crazy expensive because it was a mid afternoon thing. What kind of party are they expecting?

DH says that because they only fly Southwest, they "don't know how" to fly another airline. Like, it leaves from a different gate! And they board differently! And they'd have to pay to check a bag! It's just too hard for them to be subjected to such a different kind of travel.

Yeah, we can just do a lunch, but they think lots of people should be invited. Maybe I'm overreacting on the cost of lunch for 20 people, I don't know, I'm kind of cheap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, wouldn't do it. This is setting a dangerous precedent.

And who the f*** says no to free tickets because it's not an airline they fly? That's rude! Beggars can't be choosers.

They are die hard SWA fans, as much as you can be die hard fans of an airline when you only fly every 5 years. I'd thought about springing for first class for them (finally a use for the 700,000 miles I've got stashed), but not after this!

That's extra nuts. I thought maybe your points were on SWA and they wouldn't want that one. Funny it was the opposite!

I'd be uber-pissed if I was sitting on that many miles and someone expected me to pay for a ticket on someone else. No, just no.

[Anonymous]

If they won't fly "that airline, dear" they can buy their own damn tickets.=+
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, wouldn't do it. This is setting a dangerous precedent.

And who the f*** says no to free tickets because it's not an airline they fly? That's rude! Beggars can't be choosers.

They are die hard SWA fans, as much as you can be die hard fans of an airline when you only fly every 5 years. I'd thought about springing for first class for them (finally a use for the 700,000 miles I've got stashed), but not after this!

That's extra nuts. I thought maybe your points were on SWA and they wouldn't want that one. Funny it was the opposite!

I'd be uber-pissed if I was sitting on that many miles and someone expected me to pay for a ticket on someone else. No, just no.

Yes, that makes pretty much no sense. Who demands things like this?

[Anonymous]

If they want a specific airline, they pay. They don't get to pick.

Also, it's up to you and your husband on what sort of celebration you want to do for the baptism.

You can always do a party at home -- it doesn't have to be at a restaurant.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm finding out that baptisms are a very big thing in DH's family. They're big to me too, but not as the social event that my IL's see them as. DC is getting baptized this summer and MIL and FIL are insisting on coming, except they want us to pay their travel expenses! (They live halfway across the country). We're not poor, but we do have very expensive childcare, and this will deplete our vacation fund plus some, which means no vacation this year and possibly next year. They also want us to throw a big party for DC. DH has told me there's no other way and he won't put his foot down with mom and dad. I've offered to fly them here on award tickets, but they "don't fly that airline, dear." I just wanted a sacrament performed and now it's costing us $1500+ at the very LEAST (we don't have room in our house for them so we'd have to put them up in a hotel as well). Am I in the wrong here?

absofuckinglutely not.

this sounds like the dh in the other thread...if he won't put his foot down and say NO then you do it.

Oh, I did. But I can say no all I want, and he'll still buy the tickets. They live in a small town with barely any air service and it's expensive. I cringe just thinking of the cost.

You MUST work this out with DH. Agree it's setting a precedent. What are his expectations regarding the number of times per year his parents visit? The number of times you visit them? The amount of $$ you can budget for this? Does he really want to set up a situation where you guys will not get to go on vacations because all of the money is used up paying to fly his parents?
The icing on the cake is their refusal to fly on certain airlines.

This is not sustainable. It's also unbelievably disrespectful in a marriage to have one person make a large purchase (like plane tickets) without getting discussion and agreement from the other person.
As PP said, this is not an IL issues, it's a marriage issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, wouldn't do it. This is setting a dangerous precedent.

And who the f*** says no to free tickets because it's not an airline they fly? That's rude! Beggars can't be choosers.

They are die hard SWA fans, as much as you can be die hard fans of an airline when you only fly every 5 years. I'd thought about springing for first class for them (finally a use for the 700,000 miles I've got stashed), but not after this!

That's extra nuts. I thought maybe your points were on SWA and they wouldn't want that one. Funny it was the opposite!

I'd be uber-pissed if I was sitting on that many miles and someone expected me to pay for a ticket on someone else. No, just no.

Yes, that makes pretty much no sense. Who demands things like this?

Cheap people. Wouldn't want them to pay for their own checked bag, would we?

[Anonymous]

No, no and no. They can drive and get rewards points with their favorite hotel. And you don't "need " a mega baptism party. Who do they expect to show up, the Pope? Catered meal at home with paper. Break out the trays of chicken Parmesan and ziti.

What's with all these grandparents mistaking themselves for royalty? Take the free ticket on Southwest or whatever airline isn't good enough or we are buying you Greyhound tix. I doubt Queen Elizabeth herself is such a pain in the a$$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, wouldn't do it. This is setting a dangerous precedent.

And who the f*** says no to free tickets because it's not an airline they fly? That's rude! Beggars can't be choosers.

That part is just insane.

Can you just do a lunch afterwards? That's what we did - wasn't crazy expensive because it was a mid afternoon thing. What kind of party are they expecting?

DH says that because they only fly Southwest, they "don't know how" to fly another airline. Like, it leaves from a different gate! And they board differently! And they'd have to pay to check a bag! It's just too hard for them to be subjected to such a different kind of travel.

Yeah, we can just do a lunch, but they think lots of people should be invited. Maybe I'm overreacting on the cost of lunch for 20 people, I don't know, I'm kind of cheap.

Lunch for twenty won't be bad. Does dh have relatives in the area they expect you to invite? You can find a place with a private room that does a limited menu for this sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

I hate to break this to you, but things like vacations are a luxury and when you have kids, child care, etc. you don't always get them yearly like you did before kids.

With that said, free tickets or they pay or at least cost share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, wouldn't do it. This is setting a dangerous precedent.

And who the f*** says no to free tickets because it's not an airline they fly? That's rude! Beggars can't be choosers.

That part is just insane.

Can you just do a lunch afterwards? That's what we did - wasn't crazy expensive because it was a mid afternoon thing. What kind of party are they expecting?

DH says that because they only fly Southwest, they "don't know how" to fly another airline. Like, it leaves from a different gate! And they board differently! And they'd have to pay to check a bag! It's just too hard for them to be subjected to such a different kind of travel.

Yeah, we can just do a lunch, but they think lots of people should be invited. Maybe I'm overreacting on the cost of lunch for 20 people, I don't know, I'm kind of cheap.

oh man. has dh been like this before with matter re: his parents?

[Anonymous]

How old are they OP? My In-laws are 76 and 80, and they have become shockingly incapable over the last decade during which I have known them. I can imagine them saying they didn't think they could figure out how to get to a new gate. However, they don't simultaneously ask me to pay for their tickets!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, no and no. They can drive and get rewards points with their favorite hotel. And you don't "need " a mega baptism party. Who do they expect to show up, the Pope? Catered meal at home with paper. Break out the trays of chicken Parmesan and ziti.

What's with all these grandparents mistaking themselves for royalty? Take the free ticket on Southwest or whatever airline isn't good enough or we are buying you Greyhound tix. I doubt Queen Elizabeth herself is such a pain in the a$$.

i wonder if they also want you to unpack their underwear and clothing once they arrive.

[Anonymous]

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oh man. has dh been like this before with matter re: his parents?

We did pay for our own rehearsal dinner, because they never mentioned it, but that's the modern thing to do.