not so subtle weight comments from DH ruining my vacation

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Anonymous wrote:my mom is 60. She works out daily AND plays in a tennis league which puts her on the court 4 days a week. She has a hearty appetite. She is 5'9" tall and weighs 155. She is not scary skinny, nor is she remotely fat. She is a good 15lbs heavier than when she was 40. She's had 3 children. Just because you have gone through menopause does not mean you become fat. I see very very few women her age who are as active as she is. If you are inactive and you eat more calories than you burn you will be fat. This applies to children and senior citizens alike.

How does she manage her full time executive career with that much physical activity? Or, let me guess, she's a SAHM.

Uh, she's my mom. I know this is DC and all, She's 60. Her youngest child is 33..she still works a full time job. She always worked out when we were kids.

She worked out every day, worked full time, and was a mom. Yeah, right. There aren't enough hours in the day -- unless you are really crappy at your job or your parenting.

Whatever you have to tell yourself to get through the day. There are lots of us who are moms, work full time and exercise everyday.

This is what most successful working moms are doing. I don't know many fat out of shape Type A executives. Fat people are viewed as lazy. Right or wrong people see it as a outward sign of being out of control.

I'm up every morning at 5am. I'm exercising from 5:30 -630. I make a choice not to stay up late watching TV or trolling the internet. It's choices. and the only impact it had on my kids is that they have a fit, energetic, healthy mother (and father).

Carry on making excuses. It would make you all much more attractive if you owned your condition instead of making excuses that hold no water And then attempting to claim that because you don't take care of yourself you are somehow a superior worker or mother. It's laughable.

Pretty cranky because of your lack of sleep and food, eh?

You sound like a peach.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do the world a favour and find a new profession, if you're really a doctor, which I doubt.

The whole calories in / calories out has been debunked thousands of times.

There's just too much money going around in the diet industry for the whole thing to be unmasked for the lie it is.

I think it's you who comes across as the idiot here.
Show us exactly where calories in / calories out has been "debunked".
It's a fundamental law of thermodynamics for crying out loud!

Do your own research. I am not the jackass whisperer.

Whoever you are, I love you. So. Much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do the world a favour and find a new profession, if you're really a doctor, which I doubt.

The whole calories in / calories out has been debunked thousands of times.

There's just too much money going around in the diet industry for the whole thing to be unmasked for the lie it is.

I think it's you who comes across as the idiot here.
Show us exactly where calories in / calories out has been "debunked".
It's a fundamental law of thermodynamics for crying out loud!

Do your own research. I am not the jackass whisperer.

Whoever you are, I love you. So. Much.

+1,000!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:my mom is 60. She works out daily AND plays in a tennis league which puts her on the court 4 days a week. She has a hearty appetite. She is 5'9" tall and weighs 155. She is not scary skinny, nor is she remotely fat. She is a good 15lbs heavier than when she was 40. She's had 3 children. Just because you have gone through menopause does not mean you become fat. I see very very few women her age who are as active as she is. If you are inactive and you eat more calories than you burn you will be fat. This applies to children and senior citizens alike.

How does she manage her full time executive career with that much physical activity? Or, let me guess, she's a SAHM.

Uh, she's my mom. I know this is DC and all, She's 60. Her youngest child is 33..she still works a full time job. She always worked out when we were kids.

She worked out every day, worked full time, and was a mom. Yeah, right. There aren't enough hours in the day -- unless you are really crappy at your job or your parenting.

Whatever you have to tell yourself to get through the day. There are lots of us who are moms, work full time and exercise everyday.

This is what most successful working moms are doing. I don't know many fat out of shape Type A executives. Fat people are viewed as lazy. Right or wrong people see it as a outward sign of being out of control.

I'm up every morning at 5am. I'm exercising from 5:30 -630. I make a choice not to stay up late watching TV or trolling the internet. It's choices. and the only impact it had on my kids is that they have a fit, energetic, healthy mother (and father).

Carry on making excuses. It would make you all much more attractive if you owned your condition instead of making excuses that hold no water And then attempting to claim that because you don't take care of yourself you are somehow a superior worker or mother. It's laughable.

Pretty cranky because of your lack of sleep and food, eh?

You sound like a peach.

Come on. You can do better than that. Weak and unoriginal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:my mom is 60. She works out daily AND plays in a tennis league which puts her on the court 4 days a week. She has a hearty appetite. She is 5'9" tall and weighs 155. She is not scary skinny, nor is she remotely fat. She is a good 15lbs heavier than when she was 40. She's had 3 children. Just because you have gone through menopause does not mean you become fat. I see very very few women her age who are as active as she is. If you are inactive and you eat more calories than you burn you will be fat. This applies to children and senior citizens alike.

How does she manage her full time executive career with that much physical activity? Or, let me guess, she's a SAHM.

Uh, she's my mom. I know this is DC and all, She's 60. Her youngest child is 33..she still works a full time job. She always worked out when we were kids.

She worked out every day, worked full time, and was a mom. Yeah, right. There aren't enough hours in the day -- unless you are really crappy at your job or your parenting.

I don't know where you work, but plenty of people in my organization are overweight - male and female. I'm an over-weight, female attorney. I receive great performance reviews, and I have former supervisors contact me about new positions. Maybe in the most lucrative industries one must be thin, but certainly not in most of the DC job market.

It's great that you are able to be at a weight where you are happy. Maybe you could have some compassion for those who are not as successful at it as you.

Whatever you have to tell yourself to get through the day. There are lots of us who are moms, work full time and exercise everyday.

This is what most successful working moms are doing. I don't know many fat out of shape Type A executives. Fat people are viewed as lazy. Right or wrong people see it as a outward sign of being out of control.

I'm up every morning at 5am. I'm exercising from 5:30 -630. I make a choice not to stay up late watching TV or trolling the internet. It's choices. and the only impact it had on my kids is that they have a fit, energetic, healthy mother (and father).

Carry on making excuses. It would make you all much more attractive if you owned your condition instead of making excuses that hold no water And then attempting to claim that because you don't take care of yourself you are somehow a superior worker or mother. It's laughable.

[Anonymous]

I didn't read the whole thread but tell him you know you're fat. It takes away his ability to hurt you (like fat Amy in Pitch Perfect!). Then tell him his harping on calories is super annoying and not acceptable. Tell him you love yourself the way you are. Know that you are perfect just as you are and don't allow yourself to self loathe. Know that you are an awesome person and no one can take that from you.

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Anonymous wrote:my mom is 60. She works out daily AND plays in a tennis league which puts her on the court 4 days a week. She has a hearty appetite. She is 5'9" tall and weighs 155. She is not scary skinny, nor is she remotely fat. She is a good 15lbs heavier than when she was 40. She's had 3 children. Just because you have gone through menopause does not mean you become fat. I see very very few women her age who are as active as she is. If you are inactive and you eat more calories than you burn you will be fat. This applies to children and senior citizens alike.

How does she manage her full time executive career with that much physical activity? Or, let me guess, she's a SAHM.

Uh, she's my mom. I know this is DC and all, She's 60. Her youngest child is 33..she still works a full time job. She always worked out when we were kids.

She worked out every day, worked full time, and was a mom. Yeah, right. There aren't enough hours in the day -- unless you are really crappy at your job or your parenting.

Whatever you have to tell yourself to get through the day. There are lots of us who are moms, work full time and exercise everyday.

I am a mom working full time, two kids and I exercise about six hours a week. But I am not a fool and I know that I have flexibility that allows me to exercise that other people don't have. I encourage my friends who want to get started to start with 20 minutes twice a week, but to also be kind to themselves and appreciate that they have a lot going on. It's a lot easier to stick with a routine if you aren't hard on yourself when you have a lapse here and there. You just pick up and keep going instead of beating yourself up. Working out because you hate your body is not sustainable, which is why negative people like you don't help anyone, you are just trying to pat yourself on the back.

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Anonymous wrote:^id like to add that in the summer I can go for a jog in the morning. But in the winter it's not possible.

I work out in a gym at lunch. Is that possible?

How do you do this and keep your job? There's travel time to the gym, changing, workingout, showering, changing back, travel back to work.

We have somebody who does this and he's gone almost 2 hours every day. And he seems to think we don't notice.

Workouts don't need to be long and it's contingent on having a gym easily accessible to you. I come in earlier and have a longer lunch break and I am candid about where I am.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:my mom is 60. She works out daily AND plays in a tennis league which puts her on the court 4 days a week. She has a hearty appetite. She is 5'9" tall and weighs 155. She is not scary skinny, nor is she remotely fat. She is a good 15lbs heavier than when she was 40. She's had 3 children. Just because you have gone through menopause does not mean you become fat. I see very very few women her age who are as active as she is. If you are inactive and you eat more calories than you burn you will be fat. This applies to children and senior citizens alike.

How does she manage her full time executive career with that much physical activity? Or, let me guess, she's a SAHM.

Uh, she's my mom. I know this is DC and all, She's 60. Her youngest child is 33..she still works a full time job. She always worked out when we were kids.

She worked out every day, worked full time, and was a mom. Yeah, right. There aren't enough hours in the day -- unless you are really crappy at your job or your parenting.

Whatever you have to tell yourself to get through the day. There are lots of us who are moms, work full time and exercise everyday.

This is what most successful working moms are doing. I don't know many fat out of shape Type A executives. Fat people are viewed as lazy. Right or wrong people see it as a outward sign of being out of control.

I'm up every morning at 5am. I'm exercising from 5:30 -630. I make a choice not to stay up late watching TV or trolling the internet. It's choices. and the only impact it had on my kids is that they have a fit, energetic, healthy mother (and father).

Carry on making excuses. It would make you all much more attractive if you owned your condition instead of making excuses that hold no water And then attempting to claim that because you don't take care of yourself you are somehow a superior worker or mother. It's laughable.

IT is laughable that you think you can be a kind, supportive, person - the kind that makes good mother - when you are so mean to strangers on the internet. I also think that it's ridiculous to say you can't exercise and be a good mother because as you said, it's all about choices . But I've also chosen to not be a raging bitch to strangers on the internet.

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What makes a good mother?
Well if your child is behaving in an unhealthy manner, a good mother is NOT "a kind supportive person" of that negative behavior. A good mother calls out this child, and she herself demonstrates how to do the hard work that life sometimes requires to achieve the results we want. Nothing bitchy about being a good role model.

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I'm absolutely floored by the number of people who think being fat is a choice. News flash no one wants to be fat and feel miserable about themselves.

Sure you could start starving yourself, which is exactly what people mean when they say eat less. Then you are setting yourself up for an eating disorder or some other type of disordered eating. Is that what you want your kids to see?

I worked so hard at becoming happy with my body after having 2 kids. Nothing is the same as it was when we married 8 years ago. I really hope your confidence improves OP because I want you to realize you are worthy of love. And when you make that realization I hope you give your DH a swift kick in the balls and leave him in the dust for treating you this way.

PP who said this would turn into a thread about low calorie meals and exercise was right. PPs, this is not about weight and if you think it is you are a dumbass.

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Oh and your body does not solely operate under the laws of thermodynamics. There are hormones and genetics and countless other variables that all impact other hormones and those (through other enzymatic processes) impact your metabolism. If it were just a riddle that some smart person could figure out we wouldn't have the epidemic that we have in this country.

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Anonymous wrote:What makes a good mother?
Well if your child is behaving in an unhealthy manner, a good mother is NOT "a kind supportive person" of that negative behavior. A good mother calls out this child, and she herself demonstrates how to do the hard work that life sometimes requires to achieve the results we want. Nothing bitchy about being a good role model.

Yes because shaming a child for his or her weight is what works, not providing healthy food and activities for the whole family. Children's bodoes are still sorting themselves out. Being a "good role model" is not the same as calling your child disgusting. It is "come into the kitchen and cook with me" or "let's go for a bike ride ".

Has anyone here ever been shamed into a healthy lifestyle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and your body does not solely operate under the laws of thermodynamics. There are hormones and genetics and countless other variables that all impact other hormones and those (through other enzymatic processes) impact your metabolism. If it were just a riddle that some smart person could figure out we wouldn't have the epidemic that we have in this country.

Um all those things you just mentioned operate under the laws of thermodynamics. If people could gain weight with calories in < calories out we could hook fat people ( me included!) to the grid and never need foreign oil for energy.

Some people are blessed with a metabolism that lets them not gain weight when calories in > calories out, but there is no metabolism "curse" where people gain weight when calories in < calories out

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Anonymous wrote:my mom is 60. She works out daily AND plays in a tennis league which puts her on the court 4 days a week. She has a hearty appetite. She is 5'9" tall and weighs 155. She is not scary skinny, nor is she remotely fat. She is a good 15lbs heavier than when she was 40. She's had 3 children. Just because you have gone through menopause does not mean you become fat. I see very very few women her age who are as active as she is. If you are inactive and you eat more calories than you burn you will be fat. This applies to children and senior citizens alike.

How does she manage her full time executive career with that much physical activity? Or, let me guess, she's a SAHM.

Uh, she's my mom. I know this is DC and all, She's 60. Her youngest child is 33..she still works a full time job. She always worked out when we were kids.

She worked out every day, worked full time, and was a mom. Yeah, right. There aren't enough hours in the day -- unless you are really crappy at your job or your parenting.

Whatever you have to tell yourself to get through the day. There are lots of us who are moms, work full time and exercise everyday.

- I'm one of those moms. Full time job, 3 kids (11, 6, and 4) and work out daily. And volunteer. I don't think I'm crappy at any of it (but maybe I'm wrong.)