Men: How can us women make ourselves more attractive?

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And if thinning hair is a reason it looks bad as women hit 45 and 50, it still doesn't explain the number of women who get the mommy-bob soon after they get married -- a late 20s, early 30s phenomenon.

Yes it does - if you read carefully. Housework and childcare. That's what does it. It's harder to do with longer hair.

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Anonymous wrote:ambition, intelligence, and confidence are important.

wearing clothes that fit and emphasize your positive physical attributes is a big deal - not everyone needs to wear short skirts or show cleavage. But, wearing bulky unfitted clothing make even the best looking woman less attractive. If you have great legs, wear heels and skirts. If you've got a great waist, make sure you wear something that shows it instead of covering it.

Ambition will make a woman more attractive? Nah, I don't think so.

All the truly ambitious women I know stay single without kids.

+1. Which surprises me a lot, actually, given the venom on this thread for SAHM's by not only working women, but by bitter angry husbands enraged at the lack of the extra paycheck. All the hardest working, hardest networking, highest earning, most ambitious and career-oriented women I know are single in their late 30s and early 40s. I know exactly one guy who loves ambitious women and is turned on by careerism. I would love an explanation for this so I think I need to go start a s/o thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make me feel like I'm the most important guy in your life and that you're grateful for our marriage and the years committed to our family.

Translation: stop telling me I'm not fun whenever you're annoyed with me. Stop telling your friends that your marriage is a series of sacrifices. Recognize that your daily indulgence of your online crush is disrespectful to me and it makes me insecure.

You're beautiful. I love you. Stop dismissing my feelings.

To all you DW's out there this is good advice.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate threads like this. What the hell are you thinking? Women don't exist to please men.

Here's what you're going to get: Be thin! Don't nag! Blow jobs every day! Wear high heels! Shorter skirts! No sweatpants! Do that awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight!

--happily married to man who wanted an equal partner, not a decorative Stepford wife.

Doubt a man wrote this post. More like a woman who imagines what a man would say. Most men just want a woman how takes care of herself and is happy and loving. "That awesome thing where your hair is perfectly straight"?? I don't notice what style my wife's hair is in 90% of the time. But I do know when she's smiling and laughing, and I love coming home to that.

Give me a reason to smile and laugh.

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btw - aging isn't as big of an issue as women think.

very early thirties guy that went out with a earl/mid 40's woman last weekend and it was one of the best dates i've had in a while. I hope to see her again and see where it goes. she puts her competition that's 15+ years younger than her to shame in her poise and beauty.

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It's not. It's that shorter hair is infinitely easier to maintain and style. Would you want to get up 45 minutes earlier every other day to keep long hair salon-worthy? No? Didn't think so.


Just thought of the solution to this. DH can do the styling and decide whether he likes it enough to justify the time

Doesn't solve the hair-in-the-way problem though.

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It's not longer hair you like. It's an idea of a longer hair that's completely divorced from the reality of working woman and wife. It's like those action movies that always make me snicker - where a FEMALE action hero runs through fire and gun battles chasing bad guys with her long hair waving about. The truth is most women would prefer their hair out of their face if they have to as much as wash a single cup. Long hair is in the way of life if your life is about more than display.

I don't think it's that deep. I think men just like longer hair. They want to be with a woman who looks feminine. Short hair isn't feminine.

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Anonymous wrote:btw - aging isn't as big of an issue as women think.

very early thirties guy that went out with a earl/mid 40's woman last weekend and it was one of the best dates i've had in a while. I hope to see her again and see where it goes. she puts her competition that's 15+ years younger than her to shame in her poise and beauty.

You are an exception. Most younger men who go out with older women especially with the age difference you cite, do so because they think she will be an easy lay.

[Anonymous]

I am a working mother of three with long hair. i spend less than 5 minutes on it in the morning, wash them once every 5 days and never blow dry them. I get compliments all the time and I can tell men like it, even if it looks a bit messy.

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A woman who fulfills the first two criteria is basically a unicorn, so I'm not used to having the luxury of thinking of a #3.

Your world is very sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I find good grammar attractive.

Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:The obsession with thin is incorrect. I am thin, fit, and pretty. My husband left me for a fatter woman.

Then you must be a horrible nag and lousy in bed.

Fuck off, you loser. What are you doing on a mom site!

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Anonymous wrote:ambition, intelligence, and confidence are important.

wearing clothes that fit and emphasize your positive physical attributes is a big deal - not everyone needs to wear short skirts or show cleavage. But, wearing bulky unfitted clothing make even the best looking woman less attractive. If you have great legs, wear heels and skirts. If you've got a great waist, make sure you wear something that shows it instead of covering it.

Here is a man confident and comfortable with himself thank you!

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Anonymous wrote:Shut up
Put out
Get a life
Hold down a job
Don't waste money
Look good

I am sure this did not get you far in life.

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Anonymous wrote:Disagree. I don't know that I could truly be attracted to a woman who was not ambitious.

Bah, humbug.

Ladies, neither I nor society at large needs you getting a degree in Communications or Business or Peruvian Basket-weaving. We don't need you getting a STEM degree or learning to program so you can compete with cheap H1B imports from India. We don't need you working at a local/state/federal government job in order to feed your four cats. We don't need you trying to prove you're just as good as a low-performing, ineffectual man. We don't even need you trying to compete with the lobbyists and biglaw partners.

We need you to be a) a woman, b) a wife, and c) a mother.

If you want to attract a man, those have to be your primary ambitions. Your call.

Nay, we want to be attractive to the pp who wanted his woman ambitious. No interest in you, sorry.