At what age did you lose your virginity?

[Anonymous]

I was 22. It was with a very cute Marine. Turns out he was only good for that one thing!

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity if you define it vaginally at 17, oral at 16. It was with a boyfriend who I cared about very much, and he was extremely respectful and waited until I was ready to try things. He had had one other sexual partner, who was a long term girlfriend before me. She was a brilliant, confident, person, and I don't think their relationship was inappropriate. He was either 18 or 19, but only a year ahead of me in school (he had a fall birthday, I had a spring birthday), so although he was older, he wasn't much older.

The first couple times we tried, I bled and it hurt. However, he stopped whenever I asked, and was very gentle about it. After about the third time, it became very enjoyable for me. I didn't learn to orgasm until my 20s, but it still felt good and I enjoyed the physical intimacy. We started experimenting with different positions (69ing, etc.), and with a little bit of light kinky sex at that age. It was a great adventure. No regrets. We are still friends on facebook and would probably catch up and get coffee if we were both in our hometown at the same time, although as we have gotten older, we have less and less in common. I generally feel like having sex in my teens was a positive experience, and college would have been much more overwhelming for me without having had sex with someone I trusted beforehand.

In college, I went through a wild, drunken hookup phase, and I guess I was lucky that I did not get in any situations where I felt violated or where we failed to use protection. There were a few embarrassing situations, and a handful of heartbreaks, but all this talk about how that phase of life is damaging to people is just not at all my experience. Now I am happily married, and I feel like I had a range of experiences before meeting DH. DH and I met at 22, and were married at 24 and people ask me if I regret not experiencing more before committing myself, but I feel like college more than fulfilled that curiosity for me.

[Anonymous]

33. With my first serious relationship.

I had wanted to with two prior guys (one at 18, one at 25) but they both balked when they found out I was a virgin.

Frankly, I really wish it had happened w/ the guy when I was 18. By the time I got to my thirties I felt like a total loser and really embarassed to admit that I was a virgin. Which is stupid of course, but the truth.

Many many years later, and a couple of lovers later, and I'm happily married but for a husband who no longer wants sex. Life is strange.

[Anonymous]

15 male

[Anonymous]

12. I was a baller in middle school.

[Anonymous]

23

[Anonymous]

17

It was bad. Not much warm-up, painfully dry, and he was big. The second guy that I slept with was also pretty inept. The third guy knew what he was doing, but he was an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12. I was a baller in middle school.

First, what is a baller, second, OMG, too young.

[Anonymous]

17 with my DH.

[Anonymous]

I was 15. He was a senior and a jerk. date rape. And then he bragged about it. It was awful especially because it was my fault for going to a drive in movie with him.

Before we went he came in met my parents, was so polite. Asked them if he could take me to the movies.
I guess no one thought to ask if it was at the theatre in town that everyone went to.

I never told them what happened

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 15. He was a senior and a jerk. date rape. And then he bragged about it. It was awful especially because it was my fault for going to a drive in movie with him.

Before we went he came in met my parents, was so polite. Asked them if he could take me to the movies.
I guess no one thought to ask if it was at the theatre in town that everyone went to.

I never told them what happened

As the father of a daughter, I feel terribly for you and hope this never happens to my child.

[Anonymous]

16. She was too. It was first for us both. We did it in my bed while my folks were gone.

Very messy but we washed the sheets and went for round 2!

We dated 2 more years. 42 now and I still think about our hot times !!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 15. He was a senior and a jerk. date rape. And then he bragged about it. It was awful especially because it was my fault for going to a drive in movie with him.

Before we went he came in met my parents, was so polite. Asked them if he could take me to the movies.
I guess no one thought to ask if it was at the theatre in town that everyone went to.

I never told them what happened

It was NOT your fault. You met a guy who seemed nice and polite. He took advantage of your trust. He is a rapist. You don't share one shred of fault for what happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:15- female

Wow.. for girls who were under 18, seems really young. Do you regret it, wished you waited till you were a bit older?

15 - and no, never regretted it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of the below 18 girls were losing their virginity to older guys. Seemed like the girls in my class were always dating the older guys - while it was much, much less common for the guys to be dating older girls and losing their virginity to them.

A lot of that is anecdotal and full of confirmation bias. As a teen boy, I was mostly focused on the prettiest girls in the class, and they were the ones most likely to get snatched up by the older dudes.

I was 15. He was also 15.