Men: do brains make up for lack of looks?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a similar background as you but I'm 120 pounds. I had a lot of suitors from Harvard and Yale. I married a guy from a non-ivy med school. He is awesome and cuter than most of my former classmates. He earns close to a million dollars per year now. He also cleans, cooks and takes the kids to the pool.

You are seriously limiting your dating pool. I don't have many fat friends but I do have several successful female friends from HYP who are having trouble finding their match. They want someone smart but don't limit themselves to just ivy schools.

OMG. You went slumming with a doctor that wasn't Ivy-league and lived to talk about it.

WTF? Is the only value people have in our warped society whether or not they have an Ivy degree? So two degrees from Northwestern don't count? I am puke in the dating eyes of these women? Good, let someone else live with them. And I suppose Georgetown, UVA, Vanderbilt degrees don't count either. We are all losers.

I hope you realize that you're responding to a troll. 95% of women don't think like this.

Actually I think that pp was being sarcastic and you guys didn't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, OP?

I'm the OP of the 36yo single mom of two thread. I married and divorced a guy who fits all your criteria. He was a cocky ass. Many people probably considered us the golden couple except we hated each other behind closed doors. For a supposedly intelligent guy, he was extremely shallow. Sorry but people like him don't like fat girls. I am a size 4 but he sometimes made me feel like a size 14. If I had a bag of chips in the house or ate dessert, he had this look of disapproval. I kind of feel like his breeder. I gave birth to two beautiful smart children.

Am also HYP and successful. All I want is someone to make me laugh. Prestige does not equate to happiness. If I were you, OP, I would broaden your dating criteria.

This is great advice and hopefully the OP will take note. She needs to stop viewing a man as something to check off the list and focus on finding someone she enjoys spending time with. It's really not that complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will be the first to admit that I am fat. I'm 5'4" and 200 lbs and the thinnest I've ever been is 185 lbs. I have never really attracted men. However, I went to HYP for undergrad and then Harvard Business School for my MBA, and now make a very nice living as a consultant. I have a wide circle of friends and am very well liked, and I know I'm smart. I've never really been able to attract men, however, because of how I look and because I can't really flirt.

I want to marry a man who has an Ivy League background and comes from a good family. I think that with my brains and career success and social network, I should look like attractive girlfriend material for a successful man. Will they be able to see past my weight? (Don't talk to me about weight loss - I've been down that road a million times, and now I've just decided to accept that I'm fat and the fat is here to stay.)

NO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the 36yo single mom of two thread. I married and divorced a guy who fits all your criteria. He was a cocky ass. Many people probably considered us the golden couple except we hated each other behind closed doors. For a supposedly intelligent guy, he was extremely shallow. Sorry but people like him don't like fat girls. I am a size 4 but he sometimes made me feel like a size 14. If I had a bag of chips in the house or ate dessert, he had this look of disapproval. I kind of feel like his breeder. I gave birth to two beautiful smart children.

You picked him, you deserved him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the 36yo single mom of two thread. I married and divorced a guy who fits all your criteria. He was a cocky ass. Many people probably considered us the golden couple except we hated each other behind closed doors. For a supposedly intelligent guy, he was extremely shallow. Sorry but people like him don't like fat girls. I am a size 4 but he sometimes made me feel like a size 14. If I had a bag of chips in the house or ate dessert, he had this look of disapproval. I kind of feel like his breeder. I gave birth to two beautiful smart children.

You picked him, you deserved him.

I'm sure there a lot of nice people out there that figured out the true character of their spouse after marrying. Maybe she didn't marry him for his credentials.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the 36yo single mom of two thread. I married and divorced a guy who fits all your criteria. He was a cocky ass. Many people probably considered us the golden couple except we hated each other behind closed doors. For a supposedly intelligent guy, he was extremely shallow. Sorry but people like him don't like fat girls. I am a size 4 but he sometimes made me feel like a size 14. If I had a bag of chips in the house or ate dessert, he had this look of disapproval. I kind of feel like his breeder. I gave birth to two beautiful smart children.

You picked him, you deserved him.

I think he picked me more than I picked him. He tried very hard to win me over. He stopped trying after we got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a similar background as you but I'm 120 pounds. I had a lot of suitors from Harvard and Yale. I married a guy from a non-ivy med school. He is awesome and cuter than most of my former classmates. He earns close to a million dollars per year now. He also cleans, cooks and takes the kids to the pool.

You are seriously limiting your dating pool. I don't have many fat friends but I do have several successful female friends from HYP who are having trouble finding their match. They want someone smart but don't limit themselves to just ivy schools.

OMG. You went slumming with a doctor that wasn't Ivy-league and lived to talk about it.

WTF? Is the only value people have in our warped society whether or not they have an Ivy degree? So two degrees from Northwestern don't count? I am puke in the dating eyes of these women? Good, let someone else live with them. And I suppose Georgetown, UVA, Vanderbilt degrees don't count either. We are all losers.

I hope you realize that you're responding to a troll. 95% of women don't think like this.

Actually I think that pp was being sarcastic and you guys didn't get it.

Proof positive that clearly college teaches people nothing. I'm embarrassed for these posters.

[Anonymous]

Does HYP mean "harvard yale princeton" as in the best/top ivies and thus not inclusive of Brown of U.Penn, etc???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP of the 36yo single mom of two thread. I married and divorced a guy who fits all your criteria. He was a cocky ass. Many people probably considered us the golden couple except we hated each other behind closed doors. For a supposedly intelligent guy, he was extremely shallow. Sorry but people like him don't like fat girls. I am a size 4 but he sometimes made me feel like a size 14. If I had a bag of chips in the house or ate dessert, he had this look of disapproval. I kind of feel like his breeder. I gave birth to two beautiful smart children.

You picked him, you deserved him.

I think he picked me more than I picked him. He tried very hard to win me over. He stopped trying after we got married.

That makes no sense. He didn't force you to marry him.

You are a disaster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does HYP mean "harvard yale princeton" as in the best/top ivies and thus not inclusive of Brown of U.Penn, etc???

I've also seen HYPSM.

Stanford and MIT are widely seen as the equivalent of a top ivy.

[Anonymous]

Except that there is no such thing as HYPSM.

Cute that you imagine there is, though. Let me guess, you also believe in Little Ivies, and Southern Ivies and Flyover Ivies....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Except that there is no such thing as HYPSM.

Cute that you imagine there is, though. Let me guess, you also believe in Little Ivies, and Southern Ivies and Flyover Ivies....

Poison Ivies

[Anonymous]

Amazing attitude OP. I had your attitude (except I'm thin) until I met DH, who went to an absolute crap college because he had major anger issues in HS (went to tony privates until he got expelled in 11th grade), went to a crap law school (because he didn't get his shit together until jr year), and is one of the smartest, most successful guys in DC. Crushes his Ivy colleagues by working harder and better than them because he had to overcome his crappy early creds. He's also tall, handsome, still has a 6 pack at 47, funny, and totally loves me and respects that I just happened to have my crap together at an early age to get into a great college, great grad program, worked at probably the most prestigious consulting firm in the world. And trust me, I knew so many people like you when I was there and I was right, you are turning out small-minded and unhappy. Get your emotional shit together and look beyond the Ivy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Except that there is no such thing as HYPSM.

Cute that you imagine there is, though. Let me guess, you also believe in Little Ivies, and Southern Ivies and Flyover Ivies....

Cute that you tried to troll hard. However in medical school admissions HYPSM is a very recognized standard for the top tier schools. And as such Harvard and MIT offer a combined degree program, the most prestigious MD/PhD out there, would they do that if MIT wasn't ranked high enough? Schools like UChicago, WashU, and even UMich also are seen on the equivalent of some ivies when it comes to medicine, all very prestigious and extremely hard to get into. WashU in fact boasts the highest GPA in admissions. And need I mention JHU? The best med school in the country? No ivy? Aww damn all those med students being the future of science made a mistake!

Just an FYI, next time you decide to be snobbish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Except that there is no such thing as HYPSM.

Cute that you imagine there is, though. Let me guess, you also believe in Little Ivies, and Southern Ivies and Flyover Ivies....

Cute that you tried to troll hard. However in medical school admissions HYPSM is a very recognized standard for the top tier schools. And as such Harvard and MIT offer a combined degree program, the most prestigious MD/PhD out there, would they do that if MIT wasn't ranked high enough? Schools like UChicago, WashU, and even UMich also are seen on the equivalent of some ivies when it comes to medicine, all very prestigious and extremely hard to get into. WashU in fact boasts the highest GPA in admissions. And need I mention JHU? The best med school in the country? No ivy? Aww damn all those med students being the future of science made a mistake!

Just an FYI, next time you decide to be snobbish

Ewwwww. This made my skin crawl.