Men: do brains make up for lack of looks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know plenty of guys who date and marry heavier women, and these women generally have great personalities. But I think you might be narrowing your pool a little too much. There is a smaller pool of men who will overlook your weight, and a smaller pool of ivy-league men. The two may intersect in a very small pool. You should broaden your horizons a bit and consider very smart guys who went to non-ivy schools. I've got a very high IQ and went to good undergrad and grad schools and have never had issues with dating guys who graduated from state schools or random private schools.

Don't look at us. We don't want her, either.

/Signed,

a Unicorn

OMG, that is so Funny, couldn't stop laughing

[Anonymous]

OP, have you tried reducing the amount of sugar in your diet? Have you tried exercising?

[Anonymous]

I have a similar background as you but I'm 120 pounds. I had a lot of suitors from Harvard and Yale. I married a guy from a non-ivy med school. He is awesome and cuter than most of my former classmates. He earns close to a million dollars per year now. He also cleans, cooks and takes the kids to the pool.

You are seriously limiting your dating pool. I don't have many fat friends but I do have several successful female friends from HYP who are having trouble finding their match. They want someone smart but don't limit themselves to just ivy schools.

[Anonymous]

I suspect that OPs use of "smart" is really code for status. Notice that she wants a man from a "good family." What does that have to do with being smart?

If she really wants a smart man, she could date a graduate of a STEM field at any halfway-decent state school. A guy from a humble background, who worked his way through a degree in Computer Science, from Joe Blow State, is probably as smart and hard-working as many ivy leaguers who came from wealthier backgrounds, went to exclusive private schools as a child, and then majored in something less rigorous.

He just wouldn't have the social pedigree that OP desires.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect that OPs use of "smart" is really code for status. Notice that she wants a man from a "good family." What does that have to do with being smart?

If she really wants a smart man, she could date a graduate of a STEM field at any halfway-decent state school. A guy from a humble background, who worked his way through a degree in Computer Science, from Joe Blow State, is probably as smart and hard-working as many ivy leaguers who came from wealthier backgrounds, went to exclusive private schools as a child, and then majored in something less rigorous.

He just wouldn't have the social pedigree that OP desires.

Reminds me of my horrid SIL. Substitute ugly for fat. Oh and mean and turns her nose down at almost everyone. Can't imagine why she's single!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a similar background as you but I'm 120 pounds. I had a lot of suitors from Harvard and Yale. I married a guy from a non-ivy med school. He is awesome and cuter than most of my former classmates. He earns close to a million dollars per year now. He also cleans, cooks and takes the kids to the pool.

You are seriously limiting your dating pool. I don't have many fat friends but I do have several successful female friends from HYP who are having trouble finding their match. They want someone smart but don't limit themselves to just ivy schools.

OMG. You went slumming with a doctor that wasn't Ivy-league and lived to talk about it.

[Anonymous]

OP, how is your libido?

If you just want a companion, try marrying a gay guy. See the other thread about gay guys who marry fat women.

Once a month, he can take some Viagra and put on his hiking gear and perform his Marrital Duties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a similar background as you but I'm 120 pounds. I had a lot of suitors from Harvard and Yale. I married a guy from a non-ivy med school. He is awesome and cuter than most of my former classmates. He earns close to a million dollars per year now. He also cleans, cooks and takes the kids to the pool.

You are seriously limiting your dating pool. I don't have many fat friends but I do have several successful female friends from HYP who are having trouble finding their match. They want someone smart but don't limit themselves to just ivy schools.

OMG. You went slumming with a doctor that wasn't Ivy-league and lived to talk about it.

WTF? Is the only value people have in our warped society whether or not they have an Ivy degree? So two degrees from Northwestern don't count? I am puke in the dating eyes of these women? Good, let someone else live with them. And I suppose Georgetown, UVA, Vanderbilt degrees don't count either. We are all losers.

[Anonymous]

I think men who went to Ivy League schools, have a good job and come from a great family are going to have their pick of women. They are probably not going to try to get to know you if you can't flirt and are obese.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you can't just lose the weight OP. Presumably you are hard working, dedicated, and persistent. Otherwise I don't see how you could have succeeded in school and in your career. Yet you don't have the fortitude to lose the weight? Something normal, non-ivy educated people do every day? I don't get it.

If you're looking for a man that matches your status financially and educationally, you are going to have to get in shape. You shouldn't "settle" for a man who is beneath you OR for a lifetime of ill health and obesity. Suck it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a similar background as you but I'm 120 pounds. I had a lot of suitors from Harvard and Yale. I married a guy from a non-ivy med school. He is awesome and cuter than most of my former classmates. He earns close to a million dollars per year now. He also cleans, cooks and takes the kids to the pool.

You are seriously limiting your dating pool. I don't have many fat friends but I do have several successful female friends from HYP who are having trouble finding their match. They want someone smart but don't limit themselves to just ivy schools.

Damn, and all it takes is 120 pounds? I am off to the gym!

[Anonymous]

Do people really worry about all of this shit when dating? No wonder the marriage rate is falling.

[Anonymous]

How old are you, OP?

I'm the OP of the 36yo single mom of two thread. I married and divorced a guy who fits all your criteria. He was a cocky ass. Many people probably considered us the golden couple except we hated each other behind closed doors. For a supposedly intelligent guy, he was extremely shallow. Sorry but people like him don't like fat girls. I am a size 4 but he sometimes made me feel like a size 14. If I had a bag of chips in the house or ate dessert, he had this look of disapproval. I kind of feel like his breeder. I gave birth to two beautiful smart children.

Am also HYP and successful. All I want is someone to make me laugh. Prestige does not equate to happiness. If I were you, OP, I would broaden your dating criteria.

[Anonymous]

PP again. As others have stated, can't you focus on losing some weight? Maybe to a more reasonable size like 150 lbs? What are your eating and exercise habits? If you invested time on eating healthy and working out daily, I don't see why you couldn't lose some weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a similar background as you but I'm 120 pounds. I had a lot of suitors from Harvard and Yale. I married a guy from a non-ivy med school. He is awesome and cuter than most of my former classmates. He earns close to a million dollars per year now. He also cleans, cooks and takes the kids to the pool.

You are seriously limiting your dating pool. I don't have many fat friends but I do have several successful female friends from HYP who are having trouble finding their match. They want someone smart but don't limit themselves to just ivy schools.

OMG. You went slumming with a doctor that wasn't Ivy-league and lived to talk about it.

WTF? Is the only value people have in our warped society whether or not they have an Ivy degree? So two degrees from Northwestern don't count? I am puke in the dating eyes of these women? Good, let someone else live with them. And I suppose Georgetown, UVA, Vanderbilt degrees don't count either. We are all losers.

I hope you realize that you're responding to a troll. 95% of women don't think like this.