My man introduced me to a guy i was previously intimate with. Help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love giving a blow job, but it seems so sad to me how younger women do this casually, like shaking hands. These men don't give you any oral in return, right? I can only see doing it if you're getting it back.

How did the women's movement go so far backwards? This isn't sexual freedom, it's being made a fool of and letting yourself be used.

+1000

Yes. You are completely right.

How the heck do wome equate this behavior with being liberated?

I don't think they do. I really don't think the women's movement plays in at all. Some women just think this is how to be sexy, and/or they crave being perceived as sexy. Like girls who do Girls Gone Wild on spring break - they equate exhibitionism and promiscuity with sexiness. We women who think differently don't get it or like it, but a lot of men do.

[Anonymous]

I don't see what the big deal is. Plenty of guys run trains or have sex with multiple women at once, having threesomes, foursomes, etc. I don't see people calling THEM hoe bags, sluts, trash, not marriage material, blah blah blah so cut the hypocritical bullshit.

Having sex, yes even with multiple people you don't know, does not make you a 'bad' person with no morals. How laughable.

If he's going to bitch about your sexual history before you were with him, he's got an inferiority complex and sounds like an uptight prick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love giving a blow job, but it seems so sad to me how younger women do this casually, like shaking hands. These men don't give you any oral in return, right? I can only see doing it if you're getting it back.

How did the women's movement go so far backwards? This isn't sexual freedom, it's being made a fool of and letting yourself be used.

+1000

Yes. You are completely right.

How the heck do wome equate this behavior with being liberated?

No one is equating this behavior with being liberated. You are confused.

What people are saying is that it takes two (or 3 or 4) to tango. None of the parties involved should be proud of their behavior - it is nothing to brag about. And if they are proud of it, see nothing wrong with it then...they are consenting adults who are doing what they *want* to do. They are kinky, but they have a right to be kinky. They just don't have the right to publicly berate their kinky partners - that's abusive.

This is way less about "being liberated" and more about common decency, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the big deal is. Plenty of guys run trains or have sex with multiple women at once, having threesomes, foursomes, etc. I don't see people calling THEM hoe bags, sluts, trash, not marriage material, blah blah blah so cut the hypocritical bullshit.

Having sex, yes even with multiple people you don't know, does not make you a 'bad' person with no morals. How laughable.

If he's going to bitch about your sexual history before you were with him, he's got an inferiority complex and sounds like an uptight prick.

the problem is when one person hides their past - leads the current S/O to believe that they are something they are not. If you take ownership of your behavior (i.e. if OP did in this case and was truthful), the reaction would be different.

and BTW, the guys you describe are the ones many women end up with but later regret - so spare us the outrage. they get away with the behavior b/c that's what is rewarded....by women.

[Anonymous]

Slut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the big deal is. Plenty of guys run trains or have sex with multiple women at once, having threesomes, foursomes, etc. I don't see people calling THEM hoe bags, sluts, trash, not marriage material, blah blah blah so cut the hypocritical bullshit.

Having sex, yes even with multiple people you don't know, does not make you a 'bad' person with no morals. How laughable.

If he's going to bitch about your sexual history before you were with him, he's got an inferiority complex and sounds like an uptight prick.

the problem is when one person hides their past - leads the current S/O to believe that they are something they are not. If you take ownership of your behavior (i.e. if OP did in this case and was truthful), the reaction would be different.

and BTW, the guys you describe are the ones many women end up with but later regret - so spare us the outrage. they get away with the behavior b/c that's what is rewarded....by women.

Yep. I suppose that some women might rationalize it all be saying "My poor widdle man would never have done that if it wasn't for that sleazy woman!" There is a definite disconnect, a lack of ownership, denial..that their widdle man was an active, eager participant in the whole thing. Way easier to blame some random woman for leading him astray I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Slut

Oh no, whatever will she do now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Slut

Oh no, whatever will she do now?

Well we know one thing for sure.....probably blow a few dudes in a private suite.

[Anonymous]

OP if the more you stress about yesterday the less likely you'll be able to enjoy today. It happened. Doesn't have shit to do with your relationship with "Ted" - don't fret about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Slut

Oh no, whatever will she do now?

Well we know one thing for sure.....probably blow a few dudes in a private suite.

Lmaof

I never understood how a woman is turned on sucking a bunch of dicks. Did she swallow all of that semen?

I don't know any woman that cums solely from sucking dick. I don't understand why she'd blow a bunch of guys.

She must have fucked them too, no?

[Anonymous]

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Well we know one thing for sure.....probably blow a few dudes in a private suite.

Lmaof

I never understood how a woman is turned on sucking a bunch of dicks. Did she swallow all of that semen?

I don't know any woman that cums solely from sucking dick. I don't understand why she'd blow a bunch of guys.

She must have fucked them too, no?



She is probably a gold digger and was turned on by the 'suits' in the 'private corporate suite'.

If I found out the chick I'm dating ate more dicks than hotdogs at a sporting event, she is getting shown the curb.

And I'd have no problem if some chick wasn't cool with me banging out a bunch of strippers one night when I got too drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Slut

Oh no, whatever will she do now?

Well we know one thing for sure.....probably blow a few dudes in a private suite.

Lmaof

I never understood how a woman is turned on sucking a bunch of dicks. Did she swallow all of that semen?

I don't know any woman that cums solely from sucking dick. I don't understand why she'd blow a bunch of guys.

She must have fucked them too, no?

I don't understand it as well but I don't get many sexual acts others may get pleasure from. Why do you care how many guys a woman has sucked off? It's not cheating. The posters on here either have double standards, are prudes or a combination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the big deal is. Plenty of guys run trains or have sex with multiple women at once, having threesomes, foursomes, etc. I don't see people calling THEM hoe bags, sluts, trash, not marriage material, blah blah blah so cut the hypocritical bullshit.

Having sex, yes even with multiple people you don't know, does not make you a 'bad' person with no morals. How laughable.

If he's going to bitch about your sexual history before you were with him, he's got an inferiority complex and sounds like an uptight prick.

I'm a guy, and honestly, I'd prefer to know. I'd be very happy to have a woman who understands the desire to do something wild and uninhibited from time to time. I'd love to have a partner who was into having an open relationship - physically, not emotionally.

[Anonymous]

I think that many people have done some out of character eyebrow raising things once or twice, usually when they were young and in the moment (probably, but not always, intoxicated). That sort of thing happens and it is what it is.

Doesn't mean that the person is always kinky wild and would do it again. Usually once was plenty and really that should be the end of it.

Op shouldn't deny that she used to have casual hookups - she does not owe details to Ted or anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the big deal is. Plenty of guys run trains or have sex with multiple women at once, having threesomes, foursomes, etc. I don't see people calling THEM hoe bags, sluts, trash, not marriage material, blah blah blah so cut the hypocritical bullshit.

Having sex, yes even with multiple people you don't know, does not make you a 'bad' person with no morals. How laughable.

If he's going to bitch about your sexual history before you were with him, he's got an inferiority complex and sounds like an uptight prick.

A minority in this thread (like me) aren't saying the action of the OP is a big deal - the concealment is.

your comment would only be valid if "ted" or another guy in this situation posted saying 'i ran a train or whatever' and i don't want to tell my gf.

i'm not for telling everything to someone you are casually dating but if you are thinking about having a very long term relationship, then why not.

concealment doesn't help IMO.