My man introduced me to a guy i was previously intimate with. Help!

[Anonymous]

This is just too embarassing.

I'm in a great, healthy and fun relationship with a terrific man. "Ted" and I have been together for about a year and a half and we're both serious about our futures together.

So this is my situation. Earlier this week I joined Ted at one of his firm's functions. All pretty normal - he's invited me a bunch of times already. Well this time though I recognized another guy who was there. At some point we were all in a group and Ted introduced me to him. I'm not sure if he recognized me.

A bit before I met Ted, a girlfriend and I went to a sporting event (can't give details). We met there some guys who invited us to join them in a corporate private box. Well we all got pretty "inebriated" and I guess inhibitions went away. My girlfriend and I ended up giving o r a l to some of the guys there.

When I got up the next day I was mortified at what had happened. My girlfriend and I have sworn to never ever ever tell anyone, which obviously I haven't. But now one of those guys saw me at the function.

If he blabs or tells anyone about that time I would be mortified especially if Ted finds out. So I don't know whether I should do anything like maybe tell Ted "something" or not. I'm scared and I think could really use some advice. I don't know if I'm imagining it or something but I think Ted has been acting different somehow this week.

[Anonymous]

If he knows that you're with Ted, he won't say anything. Unless he hates Ted (or you) or is just an asshole.

I wouldn't say anything. You didn't do anything wrong. And this is before you were with Ted, so you're not obligated to reveal anything.

-a man

[Anonymous]

Deny unless there are pictures. "He must have me confused with someone else." "I would never do that."

[Anonymous]

Lol, this is funny. I'm sorry.
Just deny it.

[Anonymous]

Deny deny deny

[Anonymous]

How many is a couple? Two? Five? Then entire room?

If they all run in the same crowd, I would be very nervous that eventually someone will spill the beans.

Sounds like a bad movie btw

[Anonymous]

So this guy is a member of his firm correct? And I'm assuming the other guys you blew are as well? I so, or if they go to the same events frequently where there is drinking and talking, your bf has likely heard the story of the two girls who got drunk and gave them all blowjobs

[Anonymous]

I always fess up... As a test to see if my man is too uptight.

If he is going to dump you over this, adios!

[Anonymous]

Don't worry...I rarely remember the chicks that blow me in the corporate suite. The girl in The private bathroom, now that I will always remember...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just too embarassing.

I'm in a great, healthy and fun relationship with a terrific man. "Ted" and I have been together for about a year and a half and we're both serious about our futures together.

So this is my situation. Earlier this week I joined Ted at one of his firm's functions. All pretty normal - he's invited me a bunch of times already. Well this time though I recognized another guy who was there. At some point we were all in a group and Ted introduced me to him. I'm not sure if he recognized me.

A bit before I met Ted, a girlfriend and I went to a sporting event (can't give details). We met there some guys who invited us to join them in a corporate private box. Well we all got pretty "inebriated" and I guess inhibitions went away. My girlfriend and I ended up giving o r a l to some of the guys there.

When I got up the next day I was mortified at what had happened. My girlfriend and I have sworn to never ever ever tell anyone, which obviously I haven't. But now one of those guys saw me at the function.

If he blabs or tells anyone about that time I would be mortified especially if Ted finds out. So I don't know whether I should do anything like maybe tell Ted "something" or not. I'm scared and I think could really use some advice. I don't know if I'm imagining it or something but I think Ted has been acting different somehow this week.

Dying to know how many is "some." Had you ever done something like that before, ie multiple unknown guys at once? Genuinely curious as to how this came about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just too embarassing.

I'm in a great, healthy and fun relationship with a terrific man. "Ted" and I have been together for about a year and a half and we're both serious about our futures together.

So this is my situation. Earlier this week I joined Ted at one of his firm's functions. All pretty normal - he's invited me a bunch of times already. Well this time though I recognized another guy who was there. At some point we were all in a group and Ted introduced me to him. I'm not sure if he recognized me.

A bit before I met Ted, a girlfriend and I went to a sporting event (can't give details). We met there some guys who invited us to join them in a corporate private box. Well we all got pretty "inebriated" and I guess inhibitions went away. My girlfriend and I ended up giving o r a l to some of the guys there.

When I got up the next day I was mortified at what had happened. My girlfriend and I have sworn to never ever ever tell anyone, which obviously I haven't. But now one of those guys saw me at the function.

If he blabs or tells anyone about that time I would be mortified especially if Ted finds out. So I don't know whether I should do anything like maybe tell Ted "something" or not. I'm scared and I think could really use some advice. I don't know if I'm imagining it or something but I think Ted has been acting different somehow this week.

Dying to know how many is "some." Had you ever done something like that before, ie multiple unknown guys at once? Genuinely curious as to how this came about.

I genuinely regret never having done anything like that in my life. Too late now (married 2 kids).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So this guy is a member of his firm correct? And I'm assuming the other guys you blew are as well? I so, or if they go to the same events frequently where there is drinking and talking, your bf has likely heard the story of the two girls who got drunk and gave them all blowjobs

This is probably true. Oh, man. But I agree that they will not out you unless they are total jerks. I wouldn't say anything.

[Anonymous]

How many sluts are on this forum? My God!

[Anonymous]

It can be a small world can't it? I think in a situation like that I would fess up to Ted - before you met him you had had a past sexual encounter with the guy at the function, it was only one night and you're not even sure that he remembers it but you just believe in being upfront about things like that even though it's embarrassing. You do not need to get into details about what happened that night. I just think that honesty is the best policy with these sorts of things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So this guy is a member of his firm correct? And I'm assuming the other guys you blew are as well? I so, or if they go to the same events frequently where there is drinking and talking, your bf has likely heard the story of the two girls who got drunk and gave them all blowjobs

+1

I'm sure they talked about it. And some guys would say you were a slut for doing it. Others might not. Prior dalliances don't have to be disclosed since it was BEFORE you started dating Ted. Honestly, the only things that should be disclosed is if you have an STD, have kids, or a significant other/spouse. Other than those 3 things, you don't need to give out personal details.