Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

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OP, if he is so unhappy with his wife, why do you think he married her?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you understand how disgusting you and your "man" are? Do you have a moral compass? Do you care that you are helping him break vows and deceive people?

Keep your tea-bagging judgemental attitude to yourself. MYOB.

hey, she said AMA. if she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong, that's fine. she can answer still.


And yes, she's disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Do you respect a man who treats his wife and children so poorly? I could never be attracted to a guy with such a terrible personality.

[Anonymous]

Guess you don't want to be asked ANYTHING, OP.

[Anonymous]

Do you feel obligated to entertain his fetishes any more than you would for a regular boyfriend.

i.e if he's into anal, or cross dressing, do play along even if you aren't into it, b/c of the rewards?

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

He could have broken off the engagement and not had two children with his wife. It's not her, it's him, pp.

Every man who cheat says he has a wife who doesn't put out, is "crazy", is too controlling, blah blah blah. It's never about the cheating man who is obviously too selfish, immature and cowardly to either end his unhappy relationship before taking up with another woman OR address his marital issues through therapy, etc. Pathetic.

Incidentally, I don't blame the other woman in these scenarios. Feel sorry for them to some extent since they usually have issues themselves. But they didn't take the vow of marriage, the guys did.

That is true, but since OP is a consenting adult with knowledge of her affair partner's marriage and children, she is undeniably complicit. Blame is not mutually exclusive.

Sure, but she doesn't owe anything to her partner's wife and kids. Sure, it's not morally upstanding to be the other woman. But she's not complicit. She is a symptom of her partner's dishonesty and selfishness.

She surely is complicit from an ethical perspective, though not a legal one. She's an agent, not a passive "symptom." She can act and stop the relationship should she wish. Legally, she has no obligation to her affair partner's wife or kids, but morally she is culpable. She has chosen with intent, time and time again, to participate in an act that can cause potential harm to innocent bystanders (the children). I agree that the husband has more responsibility in this case, but it is simplistic to the point of inaccuracy to say that the OP has clean hands.

I disagree with you and your line of thinking simply props up the absurd notion that the cheater is not absolutely and undenaibly culpable, legally and otherwise. Again, she didn't take the vows of marriage and fidelity. I'd feel the same way if the cheater were a woman, by the way.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please answer these two questions, which you've ignored.

1 - do you acknowledge that you are a prostitute? If so, does it bother you?

2 - you've admitted you don't love the guy. Do you care about ever falling in love yourself? Or is your love of money stronger, since you obviously can't sustain a real relationship while doing what you're doing.

Why would the OP answer people who are being so ridiculously aggressive and attacking?

Lemme guess, your marriage isn't so great at home, huh? Otherwise I doubt you would be quite so threatened by this.

I'm very happy in my marriage and am genuinely curious (and I've been much more polite than others in this thread). She said ask me anything, so I did.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Do you respect a man who treats his wife and children so poorly? I could never be attracted to a guy with such a terrible personality.

The problem is, you wouldn't know you were with this type of man, in the wife's shoes.
For all you know, you could be attracted to him -- he could be your DH (well, maybe not this exact dude, but you know).

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe no one asked this - IS THE SEX GOOD? :0)

Yeah. It really, really is.

And... that's all I needed to know. If a rich guy was giving me great sex and taking good care of me, I would do the same thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you respect a man who treats his wife and children so poorly? I could never be attracted to a guy with such a terrible personality.

The problem is, you wouldn't know you were with this type of man, in the wife's shoes.
For all you know, you could be attracted to him -- he could be your DH (well, maybe not this exact dude, but you know).

But OP does know. That's who the question is directed towards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you feel obligated to entertain his fetishes any more than you would for a regular boyfriend.

i.e if he's into anal, or cross dressing, do play along even if you aren't into it, b/c of the rewards?

I'm pretty adventurous, so that hasn't been an issue that's come up for us.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe no one asked this - IS THE SEX GOOD? :0)

Yeah. It really, really is.

And... that's all I needed to know. If a rich guy was giving me great sex and taking good care of me, I would do the same thing.

If you were getting enough money, you could buy your own "good-sex" on the side.
You know -- trickle down economy.

[Anonymous]

So this man started an affair before being married to a supposedly miserable woman, who he married anyway. He then proceeded to have children with her, and makes himself available to them only when it is convenient for him (when he is not traveling for work, or spending time with his mistresses).

Gee, I cannot fathom what his wife might have to bitch about.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in love?

With the lifestyle, not the man.

Are you V. Stiviano's sister?

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Anonymous wrote:If your field is interior design, why do you think it will be easy to get a job ... ???

Ironically, the mistresses of men in my family end up being hired by their wives, sisters, sisters-in-law, etc for exactly these type of jobs.