Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

He could have broken off the engagement and not had two children with his wife. It's not her, it's him, pp.

Every man who cheat says he has a wife who doesn't put out, is "crazy", is too controlling, blah blah blah. It's never about the cheating man who is obviously too selfish, immature and cowardly to either end his unhappy relationship before taking up with another woman OR address his marital issues through therapy, etc. Pathetic.

Incidentally, I don't blame the other woman in these scenarios. Feel sorry for them to some extent since they usually have issues themselves. But they didn't take the vow of marriage, the guys did.

That is true, but since OP is a consenting adult with knowledge of her affair partner's marriage and children, she is undeniably complicit. Blame is not mutually exclusive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have to be faithful?

Oh good question! We have not talked about that, weirdly. But my guess is it would cause a fracture in our relationship if he knew I was with other men, though he wouldn't feel "cheated on" rather just not as close with me. He knows I bring other men to family weddings and such, which doesn't bother him.

This is the first thing I thought of to ask.

Do you date, or have sex with other men, but hide it from him, or are you 100% faithful?

I rarely date other men. I don't tell him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

He could have broken off the engagement and not had two children with his wife. It's not her, it's him, pp.

Every man who cheat says he has a wife who doesn't put out, is "crazy", is too controlling, blah blah blah. It's never about the cheating man who is obviously too selfish, immature and cowardly to either end his unhappy relationship before taking up with another woman OR address his marital issues through therapy, etc. Pathetic.

Incidentally, I don't blame the other woman in these scenarios. Feel sorry for them to some extent since they usually have issues themselves. But they didn't take the vow of marriage, the guys did.

That is true, but since OP is a consenting adult with knowledge of her affair partner's marriage and children, she is undeniably complicit. Blame is not mutually exclusive.

Sure, but she doesn't owe anything to her partner's wife and kids. Sure, it's not morally upstanding to be the other woman. But she's not complicit. She is a symptom of her partner's dishonesty and selfishness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe no one asked this - IS THE SEX GOOD? :0)

Yeah. It really, really is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, please answer these two questions, which you've ignored.

1 - do you acknowledge that you are a prostitute? If so, does it bother you?

2 - you've admitted you don't love the guy. Do you care about ever falling in love yourself? Or is your love of money stronger, since you obviously can't sustain a real relationship while doing what you're doing.

Why would the OP answer people who are being so ridiculously aggressive and attacking?

Lemme guess, your marriage isn't so great at home, huh? Otherwise I doubt you would be quite so threatened by this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe no one asked this - IS THE SEX GOOD? :0)

Yeah. It really, really is.

Why don't you love him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, please answer these two questions, which you've ignored.

1 - do you acknowledge that you are a prostitute? If so, does it bother you?

2 - you've admitted you don't love the guy. Do you care about ever falling in love yourself? Or is your love of money stronger, since you obviously can't sustain a real relationship while doing what you're doing.

Why would she acknowledge your insulting "questions"?

[Anonymous]

Lemme guess, your marriage isn't so great at home, huh? Otherwise I doubt you would be quite so threatened by this

+1. The thread has generated 10 pages in less than two hours. I think the DCUMies are VERY threatened....

[Anonymous]

OP, do you tell each other "I love you"?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever met/been around his kids?

[Anonymous]

OP, it doesn't sound like you're concerned about your like post affair. But keep in mind that you won't be 24 forever. You won't necessarily be able to trade in looks and sex forever, and it's a lot harder to start a career and a life for yourself at 29, 39, 31 than it is now.

I spent my early and mid twenties goofing off and though I had a lot of fun, traveled the world, etc I didn't have much to show for it by the time I hit 30. It was hard starting from scratch then and professionally and personally it was a struggle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, please answer these two questions, which you've ignored.

1 - do you acknowledge that you are a prostitute? If so, does it bother you?

2 - you've admitted you don't love the guy. Do you care about ever falling in love yourself? Or is your love of money stronger, since you obviously can't sustain a real relationship while doing what you're doing.

Why would the OP answer people who are being so ridiculously aggressive and attacking?

Lemme guess, your marriage isn't so great at home, huh? Otherwise I doubt you would be quite so threatened by this.

I'm very happy in my marriage and am genuinely curious (and I've been much more polite than others in this thread). She said ask me anything, so I did.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe no one asked this - IS THE SEX GOOD? :0)

Yeah. It really, really is.

Why don't you love him?

I'm not in love with him. I care a LOT for him. Not sure why I'm not in love, but guess it's because he's not free to be with me exclusively. A self-protection thing?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

He could have broken off the engagement and not had two children with his wife. It's not her, it's him, pp.

Every man who cheat says he has a wife who doesn't put out, is "crazy", is too controlling, blah blah blah. It's never about the cheating man who is obviously too selfish, immature and cowardly to either end his unhappy relationship before taking up with another woman OR address his marital issues through therapy, etc. Pathetic.

Incidentally, I don't blame the other woman in these scenarios. Feel sorry for them to some extent since they usually have issues themselves. But they didn't take the vow of marriage, the guys did.

That is true, but since OP is a consenting adult with knowledge of her affair partner's marriage and children, she is undeniably complicit. Blame is not mutually exclusive.

Sure, but she doesn't owe anything to her partner's wife and kids. Sure, it's not morally upstanding to be the other woman. But she's not complicit. She is a symptom of her partner's dishonesty and selfishness.

She surely is complicit from an ethical perspective, though not a legal one. She's an agent, not a passive "symptom." She can act and stop the relationship should she wish. Legally, she has no obligation to her affair partner's wife or kids, but morally she is culpable. She has chosen with intent, time and time again, to participate in an act that can cause potential harm to innocent bystanders (the children). I agree that the husband has more responsibility in this case, but it is simplistic to the point of inaccuracy to say that the OP has clean hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever met/been around his kids?

Yes, unintentionally.